AIBU to feel annoyed after a mum's sarcastic supermarket comment?

[Msidontknow]

In a local supermarket getting some bits - it's quiet and I'm taking my time. I come around to turn into the other isle and a young toddler age 2-3 is waiting/hanging around making it difficult for me to move. I wait for him to see me to move - I don't say anything or do anything as I'm not in a rush and he was just being a child - the mum sees me waiting, calls him over and says loudly 'he's not a mind reader'. I was taken back and lost my chance to respond which would've sounded something like ' I'm sorry for not rushing your son and waiting patiently for him to see me'.

The thought did cross my mind would she have said this if I was a different ethnicity?

Maybe it's the heat or the rudeness but I'm annoyed at the sarky comment towards me for just trying to be nice.

This thread is a shit show of replies, well done to the posters who have a brain and have put nice ones.

I can’t believe some people don’t understand why someone might be feeling vulnerable about their ethnicity in the UK right now.

I say that as a white woman. OP never said the woman was a raging racist, she mentioned her ethnicity might have been a factor.

Show some empathy even if you don’t agree. I hate this forum sometimes.

The thought did cross my mind would she have said this if I was a different ethnicity?

Assuming for a moment that she was white and you are not, no she was just being snippy. I was in a supermarket last week when a family and a trolley blocked an aisle I wanted to walk up. I waited for them to move, they looked at me like I was an idiot. I asked them to move, they asked my why I couldn't walk round them, ignoring the fact that they had moved as was asking them to move.

It got a lot worse than that including being asked nose to nose if I had any children, if was unable to have children, if I was trans and they finally walked off with him calling me a dyke and I offered to introduce him to my 6ft 2 husband waiting outside.

We were all white.

Yes, women should smile in the face of rudeness.

I have brown and black friends and lots of family members too.
None of tthem have experienced the constant 'drip drip' remarks you refer to...maybe because they dont go looking for them.

No one is denying racism exists, but rude people, like the woman in the supermarket, are just that....rude.
And amazingly they come in all colours too.

What the hell has ethinicity got to do with it…

Why not say ‘excuse me little fella’ or something? I hate when people just stand there. Use your voice!

Well, we will never know.

But next time anything like this happens again, I’d be bright and breezy and just say, “Oh it’s no problem at all. Lovely little chap, isn’t he?” Or some other positive comment.

But please don’t dwell on it.

Some people in the supermarkets are best avoided, no matter what colour they are.

Hence the mother should have been helping her toddler not to be IN THE WAY and when s/he was ...should have apologised rather than being angry to someone who may have been upset by her attitude

If you have to ask ...that's privilege

Brown and black you say...are they aware you use these categories to describe them?

How do you manage to make your experience speak for that of OPs?

Oh I'm so sorry to hear of your experience in the supermarket with the Mum 😢 There was no need for her sarcasm & you of course did nothing wrong & were so lovely & patient-
Bless you - My guess is (&it doesn't excuse her rudeness) but she's most likely had other folks stop, & make eye rolls /huffing & puffing/sighing/tutting & she's probably built up a defence mechanism to react, because she's just waiting for these types of impatient mannerisms, as it's what she's most likely used to 🫂
Please don't take it personally, lovely soul - You seem so compassionate, kind & caring & sometimes most surely, yes the mugginess we've been experiencing in more recent times, does make numerous folks more snappy - Hence another likely possible cause for her sarcasm & rudeness
But you most surely did not deserve that & I'm praying you never will be on the receiving end of someone else's mean moodiness again 🫂

If youre aware youre in the way and waiting for someone to move, why on earth wouldn't you just move?

just sounds like someone who can't be bothered parenting . you can't win with these people

OP, none of us can say for sure if she was racist or not, but i was on a bus a few weeks back and a white man was incredibly rude and hostile to a black woman (needlessly) and I am positive he would not have spoken to a white bloke in that way.

I mean it is pretty wierd for you to just stand there and say nothing, he could of been there 10 mins and you would of looked a complete idiot. Just say excuse me can I just get past, end of. Fuck all to do with racism 🙄

Ooooh the passive aggression reking from your question 😆

I wanted to illustrate that the abuse I got was far greater than the abuse she got and we were all white. And that therefore there is no reason whatsoever for the OP to assume, on the basis of the information that she has given us, that there was any racism involved in her situation.

I would have thought so. But good for you.

You are probably right, people are never ever rude to people of the same race...

Do you think that he would have spoken that way to a white Woman, though?

You were kind and considerate towards the young child, it is not up to us as adults to tell other people's children what to do. The mother's response was well out of order. Don't take it personally, not everyone has good manners today.

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I voted YABU for bringing ethnicity into it.

Why are women always expected to smile when someone has been arsey towards them?