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AIBU to feel annoyed after a mum's sarcastic supermarket comment?

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Msidontknow · 15/08/2026 17:23

In a local supermarket getting some bits - it's quiet and I'm taking my time. I come around to turn into the other isle and a young toddler age 2-3 is waiting/hanging around making it difficult for me to move. I wait for him to see me to move - I don't say anything or do anything as I'm not in a rush and he was just being a child - the mum sees me waiting, calls him over and says loudly 'he's not a mind reader'. I was taken back and lost my chance to respond which would've sounded something like ' I'm sorry for not rushing your son and waiting patiently for him to see me'.

The thought did cross my mind would she have said this if I was a different ethnicity?

Maybe it's the heat or the rudeness but I'm annoyed at the sarky comment towards me for just trying to be nice.

OP posts:
JillyComeLately · Yesterday 00:25

QueenietheGreat · 20/08/2026 23:09

@JillyComeLately
Not putting "negative feelings" onto anybody it's how things actually are
Even if its done unaware and subconsciously
Because of what some think they know
When they actually really know squat
I've read messages on here about
Same colour incidents which are bad mannered Ill-tempered interactions
But when it's a two different colour persons interaction even if they don't quite go there; it hangs in the air
You'd have to be in the second scenario as opposed to the first to get it
So stop telling me I'm wrong
And that it's all really so jolly

I have a feeling, it could be your attitude more than anything else if people are 'off' with you.

QueenietheGreat · Yesterday 01:18

@JillyComeLately
Really?
You assume "my attitude" is the thing that causes what goes on? Well,
I'm not going to kowtow to assumptive persons
And neither have I ever
gone in aggressively as you're probably thinking either
But making statements like that
I find ridiculous
And your insistence that somehow I'm to blame because l have to manouvere society differently to you to get by
Shows insensitivity and unawareness
It's a pity you can't walk in my shoes
Then chances are
You'd get off the "there's nothing really wrong box"
And realise

JillyComeLately · Yesterday 01:35

QueenietheGreat · Yesterday 01:18

@JillyComeLately
Really?
You assume "my attitude" is the thing that causes what goes on? Well,
I'm not going to kowtow to assumptive persons
And neither have I ever
gone in aggressively as you're probably thinking either
But making statements like that
I find ridiculous
And your insistence that somehow I'm to blame because l have to manouvere society differently to you to get by
Shows insensitivity and unawareness
It's a pity you can't walk in my shoes
Then chances are
You'd get off the "there's nothing really wrong box"
And realise

I didn't say nothing was really wrong, I said, and I am going by the couple of posts you have aimed at me, that your attitude could be the reason, more than your colour, that you feel '"most people" treat you the way you say they do.

Imdunfer · Yesterday 08:38

Most people see a brown person and assume we don't even know basic English

Lord almighty if that isn't a racist comment, what is? There's obviously a "white" missing as the second word.

MademoisellePraline · Yesterday 08:59

She wasn't watching her child and her child was in the way.

It's not your job to tell her tiny child what to do, a child that young shouldn't be alone unsupervised in a supermarket. She knows that.

She then saw the child she wasn't watching properly, was causing a very mild nuisance.

She's got two options here. The first is to admit she wasn't watching her child properly, because she wasn't, and say something like "Johnnie, over here with mummy please. Stay next to me please, you were stopping the lady from coming round the corner.".

The second is to get uppity and curt because she is too self important to accept that she's openly been caught not watching her own child. So she deflects that it's your fault for not telling her child what she should have been telling her child.

Women's a dick. They walk amongst us. Be thankful you're not one and move on with your day.

NovemberMorn · Yesterday 12:04

QueenietheGreat · Yesterday 01:18

@JillyComeLately
Really?
You assume "my attitude" is the thing that causes what goes on? Well,
I'm not going to kowtow to assumptive persons
And neither have I ever
gone in aggressively as you're probably thinking either
But making statements like that
I find ridiculous
And your insistence that somehow I'm to blame because l have to manouvere society differently to you to get by
Shows insensitivity and unawareness
It's a pity you can't walk in my shoes
Then chances are
You'd get off the "there's nothing really wrong box"
And realise

You are coming across as the most racially aggressive person on this thread.
You have a real 'them and us' mentality, which, if this comes across in real life as strongly as it does on this forum, will be the reason 'most people' have an attitude to match your own.

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