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When is enough, enough. 33YO husband, still unable to be an adult and take the reign.

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13MAPARTHELL · 12/08/2026 22:47

Ive had enough.

2 kids / 4&5

hes self employed job has caused us issues since day 1, hes iliterate on a computer, he cant make phone calls to companies really, hes extremely unreliable.

he ears triple what I earn, never saved a penny, no pension, no life insurance, no nothing

meanwhile, I have 2 kids with additional needs, work full time, set them up an ISA when born, have life insurance set up, savings account, do all cleaning & cooking & life admin.

it feels like hes taking the piss, i do so much for him and im always made to feel the bitch, because im not a little sweet girl who will do everything for him without a fight (like his mother) who btw, now has nothing to do with him, sometimes i dont blame her.

the kind where you do it all, but youll never get a happy birthday 😂

biggest ick and turn off ever, is it to much to ask for a man who can provide even somewhat? I actually wouldn’t chose to wear the trousers in such a significant way?

anyone else tired of these useless ‘men’

OP posts:
Millytante · 13/08/2026 20:35

You said somewhere that you are with him now only for the sake of the children.
Yet he makes no financial contribution to the household, you are repulsed by him, and he depends on you to mediate for him in many interactions for his day to day life, as though he we about ten years of age.
Sounds like an urgent binning situation.
Added to this are all the other black marks against him which you were aware of tight from the start.
So…why in the name of God are you still with him? He makes you angry, makes you drink, makes you imperil your career.
What does he add to your kids’ lives?

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