To want to uninvite this man?

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I am having friends from a hobby (a walking group) around for drinks on Sunday afternoon. It’s quite a varied age group ranging from 20-80. I’m in my 30s. He’s in his 60s.

One man who I’ve known for around five years stopped coming to the hobby for a while, but he has now started coming back.

I sent him a message saying that I was having people around for drinks and invited him, and he accepted.

Out of the blue I received a message from him a couple of days ago. It was innocuous really, he was recommending a film and it including a winking emoji. We’ve never discussed films and I’m not interested in them. I replied asking if the message was meant for me. He replied to say it was, but it has been sent after several drinks.

It has left me a bit uneasy about seeing him. Is it just innocuous or was this some sort of attempt to flirt? My partner says it was firmly the latter.

There is a lot of sexual harassment by men 65 plus to younger women apparently.

Not any text. As OP said if it had been something she understood the context of, absolutely fine. But this is random, late at night, after drinking. Maybe he got pissed and decided he wants to start a film club and got himself mixed up that OP was interested in films, maybe that is possible. But OPs instinct tells her differently and his subsequent text would seem to back this up. If I sent a text like this to someone I hardly knew, I’d be absolutely mortified. That’s not to say op needs to overreact to it but she also doesn’t need to put up with any creepy nonsense should this be the case.

Was his text in reply to your text to him inviting him - or had he already replied to that and this was a random text later?

IMO I think you're coming over as being totally full of yourself. Before you even posted here you had made your mind up as to how you interpreted the txt.
The poor guy could've easily pressed the wrong emoji but you've decided he's flirting. If this was the case then surely he would have acted inappropriately on the walks ie trying to talk to you all the time, walking beside you etc.
Perhaps the guy has a daughter your age? How much do you know about him?
Give the guy a break, yours could have been the first number in his phone, he was feeling lonely, just looking for a chat. Have you never been having a drink, felt lonely and messaged someone?
Until you know his life story i would stop saying you feel he's testing the waters and has inappropriate feelings towards you!

I interpret the wink emoji as being about his own 'joke' - it's a yes from me 😉' - like he's acknowledging his own slightly weak joke pretending to be an xfactor judge reviewing the film? I don't particularly interpret it as flirty, but I get why him texting at all feels a bit awkward/uncomfortable. I think that's probably as far as it needs to go though - I'm sure he's got the message you're not particularly interested in being friends or anything else. He'll probably be embarrassed and may swerve the drinks anyway. But, I wouldn't uninvite him as it's a group thing, I'd just act completely normal and not particularly engage with him and I'm sure that will be the end of it.

They have known each other for 5 years and the OP had text him previously to invite him to her event. Is it really that creepy to send ONE random text about a film?? (The OP did not state that it was late at night, only that it was sent after a several drinks)

You can not be serious 😂

It was out of the blue. It was several days after the invitation and about a subject I have no interest in.

Maybe I am being unkind, but that’s going to happen when you’re a 60 year old man messaging a 30 year old woman to see if you’ve got a chance. I was never going to reciprocate.

That bar could not be lower.

Why do you think a 27 year old was interested in 71 year old Mick Jagger?

Random days later, he’d already accepted the invitation.

He does have daughters my age. I imagine he wouldn’t be thrilled if 60 year old me were messaging them late at night after a drink.

He very clearly didn’t press the wrong button. Don’t you know exactly when a man is trying it on with you?

You're like a dog with a bone. Is he the only man to hit on you in a long time?

Doesn't matter what Mick Jagger's wife saw in him, the point is, it does happen to many other people, not just him.

If you're not interested, you move on. He's been in your head for much longer than someone you supposedly aren't interested in.

What bar? That women have been dating much older men for centuries?

Did you think you were the first one to be hit on by an old man?

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Agreed, Why was Debbie McGee attracted to the millionaire Paul Daniels? 😂🤣

How old is he OP? I don't think you've said 🙄

Do you know any non-famous, non-millionaire 74 year old men who have 27 year old wives? Know any 24 year olds who’d be interested in 74 year olds who live in normal houses and claim their pension?

Yes. I thought I was the first one ever.

Pervy men have been trying it on with much younger women who’ve never given them any indication of being remotely interested in them for centuries. That is true.

Always a classic! 😂

Doesn't matter, the point is it does happen!
The ones we don't know about are obviously not famous.

Do you think he's the first man to hit on a regular 30 year old who isnt a millionaire?

And women are allowed to feel and speak out about feeling uncomfortable about having men be they older or similar age trying it on with them. This should be supported, feelings are valid and feeling uncomfortable with it when they have given no indication at all of wanting the relationship to be more intimate is not something women should have to put up with or told to ignore how about more of telling men to think about their behaviour.

Why is it wrong for the op or other women to not like having men trying to flirt with them woamn are not here to entertain and pander to men

I am so pleased on the whole younger women are saying enough with men acting as if women are just hanging around waiting for male attention. I would certainly be telling a daughter if I had one to not accept what you are not comfortable with and speak out

And thank fully more parents, like myself, are bringing their sons up to be more aware and respectful towards women and girls

Grow up. It’s so depressing to see women simpering to men even on anonymous forums.

Of course he’s not. There are millions of pathetic men out there desperately hitting on younger women who wouldn’t look at them twice and who’ve expressed absolutely no interest in them whatsoever. Thats obvious, surely?

Thank you.