AIBU to expect my parents to manage one vegan barbecue meal?

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Surely most people can survive if they have just one vegan meal ???!!!

My parents have decided they don’t think they can attend a bbq at my house due to the fact we are a vegan family and they are worried about ‘nutrition gaps’ !!!

Neither have any health conditions.

It’s one meal and we are offering a wide variety of things plus desserts. I said to then if they don’t fancy it that’s fine but they said it’s because they are worried about the food, and asked could they bring their own (no! ) or would I get them a few bits they can eat (non vegan) to which I said I can’t have it in the house.

Surely they could just come for a drink and eat later at home ? They are making such a fuss ?? It’s not like we are pushing veganism or the ethics behind our choice we weren’t planning on talking about it just having a nice family get together !

Id Just tell them you've reconsidered.

Then feed them This Isnr Sausages and Beyond Burgers whilst they tell you how meaty and delicious they are...

Well everyone eats vegan food
The Op has chosen not ro eat meat or dairy products as is her right
As a meat eater i respect everyones choices
If i was invited to a vegan Bar B Que i would happily eat what was on offer
Meat eaters eat vegetables and non dairy products as well as meat
Vegans choose not too.

I always make a huge effort for my vegan friends . They never return the favour. I actually think its a bit rude of them. They are not going to combust if they buy a lump of cheese or boil an egg. I get that meat might be a step too far.
I couldn't eat most of what you are offering. Crohns means that would make me very ill.

I don't think this is about one meal.

I’ll come for a BBQ, OP! Sounds delicious!
(Your DPs ABVU - they’ll survive and will probably enjoy - one vegan meal)

I think it’s probably very unusual for anyone to have an animal product in every single meal, and I say that as a meat eater.

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Can anyone actually justify:

Why politely declining an invitation to an event you don't want to go to isn't OK

and

Why choosing not to eat food you don't really want to eat isn't OK?

Sounds lovely. I’m not vegan and I’d love that! They’re making a fuss over nothing!

Meat allergy is becoming increasingly common due to a tick-borne disease in the US that causes it. There are definitely cases here in the UK.

Yes - and I'd make those dishes with butter, cream etc as well as cheese.

I doubt it actually - think about it

• do you put butter or spread on your toast?
• a lot of shop bought bread contains milk and actually milk is in a lot of things
• hidden things like stock

I'm racking my brains trying to think of a meal I have that doesn't have an animal product in it!

That sounds vile. Why can't they bring something with them to eat?

It sounds delicious. OP doesn’t want animal products in her house. Her house, her rules.

You really never have a meal without animal protein? Beans on toast, for example?

And is OP serving cereal at this BBQ? No

Is a bowl of fruit going to fill them up for the evening if they were to have it at a BBQ? Unlikely

Are herbs or nuts an entire meal now?

Unless they drink black tea or black coffee the milk they put in it will stop it being vegan. It’s also not a meal.

As a meat eater my daily meals include things like chicken, salmon, steak, eggs, tuna, beef mince, or cheese. Often served with salad, veg, pasta or rice etc. I don’t usually opt for meals containing only vegetables, because they’re usually not tasty enough for me. I can if they have cheese included (mushrooms filled with cheese, vegetable cannelloni etc), but purely vegetables isn’t something I’d often eat. And many other meat eaters will be similar.

The simple fact is, OP is entitled to cook only vegan food in her own home and OP’s parents don’t have to go and eat a vegan only meal if they do not wish to.

You never have a bowl of tomato soup? Minestrone? Jacket potato and beans? Ratatouille? Bubble and squeak? A bag of chips from the chippy?

Haven't you seen the news about all the people who've been dropping down dead after attending vegan barbecues? Doctors are calling it "accelerated starvation". Apparently just one vegan barbecue can have the same negative effect on the human digestive system as going without food altogether for an entire month!

I said that they’d eat vegan food every day. Which they will.

High protein diet here. I probably have some sort of animal product in every meal.
My day starts with a cup of tea and milk, breakfast has eggs or frozen berries and yogurt. Lunch always has some sort of cheese etc

Butter on your potato, cream in your tomato soup, cheese on top of your bubble and squeak, chips are fried in the same frier as the fish so also not vegan…

Probably a lot more healthy that what they normally eat!

Can they not just munch some falafel, hummus, salad, veggies, bread, olives, desserts & myriad other delicious foods?

I had some roast beef in someone’s house yesterday. Nicely cooked & lovely gravy etc but it was like chewing shoe leather for me.

Wouldn’t be something I’d ever eat, but I still had it. Everyone else enjoyed it. Your parents could just give it a try anyway…

Lots of chip shop chips these days are vegan.

Those are all pleasant extras but not usually something someone would add every time.