AIBU to expect my parents to manage one vegan barbecue meal?

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Surely most people can survive if they have just one vegan meal ???!!!

My parents have decided they don’t think they can attend a bbq at my house due to the fact we are a vegan family and they are worried about ‘nutrition gaps’ !!!

Neither have any health conditions.

It’s one meal and we are offering a wide variety of things plus desserts. I said to then if they don’t fancy it that’s fine but they said it’s because they are worried about the food, and asked could they bring their own (no! ) or would I get them a few bits they can eat (non vegan) to which I said I can’t have it in the house.

Surely they could just come for a drink and eat later at home ? They are making such a fuss ?? It’s not like we are pushing veganism or the ethics behind our choice we weren’t planning on talking about it just having a nice family get together !

Putting £10 on you being a vegan.

I'm not a fan of the menu tbh

I think it sounds very vegan

If you were doing quorn sausages and burgers, it might not be so bad

I think you need to offer chips, pasta etc if you wont do meat, imo

Only carrots and peas. Hard to BBQ those. I don't like salad either but I offer it to guest who do like it.

I’m carnivore. I couldn’t eat it the same way vegans couldn’t eat meat. I would get stomach ache

Do you actually have any response to my post other than snide comments about my dyslexia?
Somehow I doubt that you do as the type of person who snears at people for their disabilities instead of responding to the valid points and arguments are the type who have no arguments

And why should your parent, or anyone else for that matter, have to ‘manage’ a meal? ‘Here you go mum. Here’s barbecued portobello mushroom. It has the texture of chargrilled snakeskin on the outside and a wet sponge in the inside’. They don’t like the idea of your food. Let them be.

We have vegans, lifelong OAP vegetarians and meat eaters in our family. Honestly OP , I think it's a little inconsiderate of you not to let them bring their own food.
I personally can't stand Tofu , chemical butter replacement spreads and vegan meat replacements. A lot of it is ultra processed and I try to avoid that. I wouldn't serve my guests food they didn't like or objected to, whatever their dietary preferences.
Maybe BBQ'd bananas with chocolate sauce (lots of lovely high quality vegan choc around!) might tempt them?

I disagree - if your are going to a BBQ at someone who is practicing muslim, you accept there will be no pork and that the beef will be halal. Or you decline, which I suppose is what OP’s parent’s have done. Frankly I’d take their decline with a smile and carry on without them. Their loss.

Why you wouldn’t allow them to bring their own food ?

They are being unreasonable, but so are you. They should graciously be able to handle the occasional vegan meal. You should be able to graciously handle them bringing their own (cooked) food to enjoy your company. It won’t taint your house somehow. I guess it comes down to, how important is it to you that they come? How important is it to them to spend time with you?

I never attend vegan BBQs.

Oooh I dunno! We had some glorious chargrilled pea pods at Riverside organic!

If i have a bbq and have guests that are vegetarian/ vegan I would accommodate them so wouldn’t it work the other way? Not everybody is vegan so does it not harm you to let them bring something for themselves if you don’t want to accommodate them?

I imagine they think it will be boring (taste wise) rather than believing they will miss out on vital nutrients at one meal.

I quite like the odd vegetarian meal - but vegetable skewers sound dull, as does much of your menu. Grilled mushrooms aren't terribly exciting and I'm not able to eat beans.

Especially as they could use a disposable BBQ and it gets binned after use. No need to contaminate OP's BBQ.

Which is most vegan meals and every type of vegan burger I've come across and the poster I was initially responding to wanted to lie and give people vegan burgers claiming that they are meat and couldn't understand why thats wrong and food fraud

Iam not a vegetarian or vegan, but if someone invited me and it was put infront on me I'd eat it.
Iam not against veganism, iam totally ignorant as what to eat! I'd love it.
Just don't invite them,ungrateful rude arseholes

OP, without wanting to upset, they are offering you an insight into what they really think about your veganism.

For them to be unwilling to see it for what it is which I would say is purely a nutritious home-cooked meal only without animal products, is beyond small minded

Not worth wrecking a relationship over but one for you to ponder as this progresses

Because they will bring meat

This sounds delicious, can I come instead? 😆

I have to say i can never understand this mindset and it’s so common. Surely everyone can eat vegan food, allergies notwithstanding. No-one absolutely has to have meat, fish,
or dairy in every meal. The mind boggles. I’m not vegan myself but family members are and i’m always happy to both cook and eat vegan food made by others. If they are that desperate for meat they can grab a big mac on the way home.

Homemade Victoria sponge then!!!!

Same type of snowflakes who won't eat some sort of food containing an animal for one meal .

Mines are and have left me in hospital before, I have to carry an epi pen at all times.
Half of my family are celiacs, the reason that all food even in restaurants must display allergens is because people were dieing form undeclared allergens.

To be honest I don’t see how some hummus and pita and a bit of rice salad is going to kill them