AIBU to ask how much your husbands contribute to household bills?

[Sugarplum5]

To ask how much your husbands pay into the family home? Does he expect you to pay half the bills, does he pay them all etc?

He pays 100% of bills, food and mortgage

Joint account - it’s all pooled. I earn 4 x what DH earns on basic, he does some overtime, I get annual bonus. all pooled. All outgoings paid out of joint account.

He pays all household bills, I pay for food shopping, cleaner and all child related expenses (although he does give me some money towards Christmas presents). I pay for small weekends away, he pays for the summer holiday.

We'd both hate to have joint finances.

For most of our live we both paid half the bills each etc. There was always plenty left each to save, spend on ourselves etc, and savings are pooled anyway. Recently we bought a bigger house& the bigger mortgage payment was leaving me with slightly less spends than him (he recently got a pay rise), so we reviewed and adjusted it and now pay 60/40 each

Surely you should be asking on the situation too - are both working, is one on mat leave, one a sahp, there are so many variables the figure alone with co context is useless

He makes 42% of the net household income, so he pays 42% of the total household budget into our joint account.

All our money from whatever source has always been ‘ours’. I can’t imagine ever doing it any other way, not when you’re married.

I pay ll the basic bills, but he pays for holidays, house repairs, cars and investments - all the big stuff. So, overall, he contributes far more than I do, and it has worked fine this way for nearly 40 years.

Everything goes into the pot, I earn 50% more.

What is left over is free for whoever wants/needs it.

No questions asked for small spends £10-30, larger spends usually run it past the other. Neither have final say on spending joint decisions really.

Had this set up for 23years, 20 years ago DH earned 100% of income - works well

Ummmmm my husband pays all the bills, I don't work and my husband also gives me £500 pm too. We don't have a joint bank account either.

And it’s worked well for almost sixty years in our case.

All our money goes into a single account which pays for everything.

He pays all of the bills, the big supermarket shops, and just over half the mortgage.

I pay for the DCs extra curriculars and just under half the mortgage.

All pooled here but I take home 50% more than him.

I look after the money so savings, investments etc.

We don’t take ‘spends’ but do buy what we want really but he’s more inclined to check it’s ok or we can afford it but he’s doesn’t need to.

Me part time employed OH works around 35-37 hours a week self employed.
Separate accounts and it seems to be me paying most of the bills food and children's clothing (including child benefit here)

Same but my DH salary covers the bills etc all else is spread into different assigned sections like holidays ,petrol , food. Kids stuff.

He pays for them all

I pay in slightly less to these joint pots .

Would that be ok if it was the other way around and you were?

What does he pay for then?

Also what job do you do part time that finances a house and 2 kids?

Not married here but all money is shared. He pays all bills as im a sahm currently. The only seperate money is my private savings and his pre relationship properties.

He pays all of the bills when you earn more money? How is that fair?

We’ve been together over 30 years now and early days he out-earned me and then for last 20 years I’ve out-earned him. We’ve always put enough into our joint account that leaves us with the same amount in our own accounts for personal spends each month.

Our total monthly bills/fixed costs come to about £5800. He pays around £3600 and me £2200.

Our wages goes into one pot and Ann equal amount is put into our own accounts each month. Over the years he has been the main earner then I have.

Am always surprised when posters say that their DH/DP earns 3 or 4 times their salary, spends money on themselves and leaves the OP to scrimp and save on their smaller wage. When your married you’re meant to be a team

We don’t treat money like this, we both get paid into our joint account and everything comes out of there really. No his money or my money.