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Butt on display at lunch in south of France

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flipperfizz · 11/08/2026 13:32

I am currently having lunch in a beach restaurant and a girl with a lovely toned body is wearing a tiny thong with full ass on display. This seems to be a fashion thing and there are lots of women wearing the same cheese cutter! People are staring and some women are laughing. I find it a horrible trend and I am wondering what others think.

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CoffeeCantata · 12/08/2026 14:57

Gloriia · 12/08/2026 14:56

You keep saying that and I've given you examples.

The derogatory tone from some when judging women is not ok.

Well in that case I can honestly say that you've made your point.

PropertyD · 12/08/2026 14:59

She sounds like an attention seeker. Pretty horrible for the next person to sit on that chair with bodily fluids and such like.

Holidaymodeon · 12/08/2026 15:04

Boggled by this thread.

I’m neither young nor old but I am very aware of fashion, especially as a beach loving swimmer who also swims in public pools.

thong bikinis are everywhere, in every shop where they sell swimwear.
I see them all the time on beaches and by pools in this country and abroad.

they are fashion, whatever we might think and know about the misogyny of fashion and the general patriarchal attitudes of modern society, this is what our (mainly) young people are being sold as the norm, and as fashionable, therefore acceptable.

influencers, people on music videos, horrible love island type programmes, events in Ibiza, vegas etc, many of the people who are popular in that kind of wannabe and celebrity culture are seen in thong swimwear , at parties, not just on beaches, even out clubbing as well is often topless on beaches (as has been seen for at least fifty years)

i remember seeing people in thongs and skimpy bikinis when i was travelling in Oz and other places in the late 80s, i was so unconfident and i did wear a one piece for most of my youth and felt incredibly frumpy.
now im older i dont care , i wouldnt publicly wear a thong partly because I don’t have the figure I’d want in order to show off my behind but also because it feels very much like a young persons fashion and I draw a line for my own dignity as a middle aged overweight woman but in my garden i absolutely sunbathe topless and in a thong, that desire to be fully tanned or as fully as possible has not left me.

i wouldn’t be surprised if those women ‘laughing’ in the restaurant ‘in their fifties’ weren’t just laughing and retelling their own stories of what they wore in their youth and maybe how people would respond if they wore it at this age, that’s the sort of conversation I’d have with my friends, not one of disgust at a girl in a thong bikini on an actual beach albeit one with chairs sinking into the sand and a cafe.

OtterlyAstounding · 12/08/2026 15:04

Gloriia · 12/08/2026 14:55

I was quoting the op who was quoting a different poster.

Ah! The response was so similar to the one quoting my post, that I thought it was!!

Retro12 · 12/08/2026 15:08

OtterlyAstounding · 12/08/2026 14:30

What's empowering about that, though? What about feeling comfortable having your naked bottom out, gives you any real power?

Personally, I think it reeks of having the social norm that people shouldn't have their bottoms out at a restaurant, and being shocked/taken aback that someone broke that norm.
What exactly is there to be envious of?

The fact that she is wearing whatever the hell she wants to, not what others think she should be wearing! Probably not giving a second thought about anyone's opinion of her... That's powerful!

Cheeks4970 · 12/08/2026 15:08

Gloriia · 11/08/2026 17:16

Bikinis in Spain in the summer, how very shocking! Some of you should maybe try a retreat in the middle of nowhere next time lest you are faced with any 'butts'.

Chill out @Gloriia - I had my bikini on too 😜

OtterlyAstounding · 12/08/2026 15:11

Retro12 · 12/08/2026 15:08

The fact that she is wearing whatever the hell she wants to, not what others think she should be wearing! Probably not giving a second thought about anyone's opinion of her... That's powerful!

Is it? Why?

Also, you don't know why she's wearing the thong. Maybe it's because her boyfriend likes it. Maybe it's peer pressure because her friends are wearing them. Maybe she feels an immense pressure to be sexy and look good in it. Maybe she feels insecure wearing it? Maybe she does have a desire to have others notice her? Who knows?

flipperfizz · 12/08/2026 15:12

Holidaymodeon · 12/08/2026 15:04

Boggled by this thread.

I’m neither young nor old but I am very aware of fashion, especially as a beach loving swimmer who also swims in public pools.

thong bikinis are everywhere, in every shop where they sell swimwear.
I see them all the time on beaches and by pools in this country and abroad.

they are fashion, whatever we might think and know about the misogyny of fashion and the general patriarchal attitudes of modern society, this is what our (mainly) young people are being sold as the norm, and as fashionable, therefore acceptable.

influencers, people on music videos, horrible love island type programmes, events in Ibiza, vegas etc, many of the people who are popular in that kind of wannabe and celebrity culture are seen in thong swimwear , at parties, not just on beaches, even out clubbing as well is often topless on beaches (as has been seen for at least fifty years)

i remember seeing people in thongs and skimpy bikinis when i was travelling in Oz and other places in the late 80s, i was so unconfident and i did wear a one piece for most of my youth and felt incredibly frumpy.
now im older i dont care , i wouldnt publicly wear a thong partly because I don’t have the figure I’d want in order to show off my behind but also because it feels very much like a young persons fashion and I draw a line for my own dignity as a middle aged overweight woman but in my garden i absolutely sunbathe topless and in a thong, that desire to be fully tanned or as fully as possible has not left me.

i wouldn’t be surprised if those women ‘laughing’ in the restaurant ‘in their fifties’ weren’t just laughing and retelling their own stories of what they wore in their youth and maybe how people would respond if they wore it at this age, that’s the sort of conversation I’d have with my friends, not one of disgust at a girl in a thong bikini on an actual beach albeit one with chairs sinking into the sand and a cafe.

I’m boggled by it too! I completely accept that thong bikinis are now mainstream and that many people see them as perfectly normal beachwear. That doesn’t mean everyone has to like the trend. My point was specifically about sitting down to eat in a restaurant, rather than being on the beach or by a pool. I also wasn’t claiming to know why the women were laughing, I simply observed it. We can clearly interpret the situation differently, and that’s rather the point of the thread.

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IcedPurple · 12/08/2026 15:12

Retro12 · 12/08/2026 15:08

The fact that she is wearing whatever the hell she wants to, not what others think she should be wearing! Probably not giving a second thought about anyone's opinion of her... That's powerful!

I mean, isn't that what most of us do most of the time??

When you get dressed in the morning do you wonder what strangers are going to think of you? Or do you just wear what you want to wear? I know that's what I do. I don't think that makes me 'powerful' however. Just normal.

I don't see how having your arse out where people are eating their lunch is any sort of power move.

PropertyD · 12/08/2026 15:20

Retro12 · 12/08/2026 15:08

The fact that she is wearing whatever the hell she wants to, not what others think she should be wearing! Probably not giving a second thought about anyone's opinion of her... That's powerful!

Don’t be so silly. What if she was topless - would that be OK. You see many topless women in South of France.

It’s bloody unhygienic to be sitting on a chair. Using a napkin, putting it on your lap and the leaving it for the wait staff.

Yuck! She isn’t being powerfull. She sounds like an attention seeking twat.

I am also thinking of that awful Mankini that Borat wore. Would that be OK and would he be showing how powerful he was??

CoffeeCantata · 12/08/2026 15:26

PropertyD · 12/08/2026 15:20

Don’t be so silly. What if she was topless - would that be OK. You see many topless women in South of France.

It’s bloody unhygienic to be sitting on a chair. Using a napkin, putting it on your lap and the leaving it for the wait staff.

Yuck! She isn’t being powerfull. She sounds like an attention seeking twat.

I am also thinking of that awful Mankini that Borat wore. Would that be OK and would he be showing how powerful he was??

Shuddering at the memory of Borat!

Just horrible…..

OonaStubbs · 12/08/2026 15:44

There is nothing "liberating" about women showing their bumholes on the beach, it is just for the sexual gratification of men.

Pineapplesonpizza · 12/08/2026 15:53

CoffeeCantata · 12/08/2026 15:26

Shuddering at the memory of Borat!

Just horrible…..

Have been thinking through this whole thread: what would people think if it were a big hulking hairy man wearing the thong in the restaurant? Or a saggy elderly woman wearing a thong? Is it only young women who work out who get to wear a thong in restaurants? Who gets to decide?

Just cover up in a restaurant - it's not too much to ask.

Pineapplesonpizza · 12/08/2026 15:54

Retro12 · 12/08/2026 15:08

The fact that she is wearing whatever the hell she wants to, not what others think she should be wearing! Probably not giving a second thought about anyone's opinion of her... That's powerful!

No young woman in her twenties wearing a thong in a restaurant is 'not giving a second thought about anyone's opinion of her', I guarantee you.

seawitchandgarden2 · 12/08/2026 15:56

OonaStubbs · 12/08/2026 15:44

There is nothing "liberating" about women showing their bumholes on the beach, it is just for the sexual gratification of men.

Exactly.

It is weird how so many on here will just argue 'women can wear whatever they want' without trying to think about why we have young women and teenage girls who feel the need to show so much of themselves.

I assume because they think it makes them more attractive but also because of the insidious influence of porn, OnlyFans and social media influencers who seem to think that showing off their body is the main way to wealth and success.

Funny how for women being half naked is pushed as 'liberating' by society. While I just think it is just the good old tradition of objectifying women. Somehow it has just been rebranded as 'sex positive' or whatever other nonsense.

To me it is all a bit sad really. We seem to go backwards on so many levels when it comes to feminism and women not being valued just for their looks and youth.

CoffeeCantata · 12/08/2026 16:06

seawitchandgarden2 · 12/08/2026 15:56

Exactly.

It is weird how so many on here will just argue 'women can wear whatever they want' without trying to think about why we have young women and teenage girls who feel the need to show so much of themselves.

I assume because they think it makes them more attractive but also because of the insidious influence of porn, OnlyFans and social media influencers who seem to think that showing off their body is the main way to wealth and success.

Funny how for women being half naked is pushed as 'liberating' by society. While I just think it is just the good old tradition of objectifying women. Somehow it has just been rebranded as 'sex positive' or whatever other nonsense.

To me it is all a bit sad really. We seem to go backwards on so many levels when it comes to feminism and women not being valued just for their looks and youth.

I find it sad too. I’m older and I’ve followed the various phases of feminism over the decades.

I get that feminist ideas change but I really think clothing like this is a backward step for women. It’s just too in line with what the sleaziest of men would like women to wear to be a good thing for us (women). It’s like asking a fox to design a hen coop.

And yes, I see the pernicious influence of porn and OnlyFans in some of these attitude changes.

Gloriia · 12/08/2026 16:06

'Or a saggy elderly woman wearing a thong? Is it only young women who work out who get to wear a thong in restaurants? Who gets to decide?'

Who gets to decide? The person wearing the bikini. If in an appropriate venue, as this was.

Also I think describing elderly women as saggy is very unpleasant, fortunately there are many of us here who are pro women and their choices <whatever their age and 'sagginess' >.

Pineapplesonpizza · 12/08/2026 16:06

OonaStubbs · 12/08/2026 15:44

There is nothing "liberating" about women showing their bumholes on the beach, it is just for the sexual gratification of men.

^Quite.

Pineapplesonpizza · 12/08/2026 16:12

Gloriia · 12/08/2026 16:06

'Or a saggy elderly woman wearing a thong? Is it only young women who work out who get to wear a thong in restaurants? Who gets to decide?'

Who gets to decide? The person wearing the bikini. If in an appropriate venue, as this was.

Also I think describing elderly women as saggy is very unpleasant, fortunately there are many of us here who are pro women and their choices <whatever their age and 'sagginess' >.

If pro-women means wearing thongs in restaurants then, we have a very different understanding of the term.

gotitsoiflauntit · 12/08/2026 16:23

OonaStubbs · 12/08/2026 15:44

There is nothing "liberating" about women showing their bumholes on the beach, it is just for the sexual gratification of men.

They aren’t showing their bum holes on the beach.

Retro12 · 12/08/2026 16:25

OtterlyAstounding · 12/08/2026 15:11

Is it? Why?

Also, you don't know why she's wearing the thong. Maybe it's because her boyfriend likes it. Maybe it's peer pressure because her friends are wearing them. Maybe she feels an immense pressure to be sexy and look good in it. Maybe she feels insecure wearing it? Maybe she does have a desire to have others notice her? Who knows?

The fact that she is wearing whatever the hell she wants to, not what others think she should be wearing! Probably not giving a second thought about anyone's opinion of her - That's why

Whatever her reasons, that's her CHOICE!* *Just like how you dress is yours!

My point is, if you don't like how someone is dressed, look away... Don't bitch about it, it's not a good look!

flipperfizz · 12/08/2026 16:32

gotitsoiflauntit · 12/08/2026 16:23

They aren’t showing their bum holes on the beach.

I’m going to bite.
No they are not actually showing their ‘bum holes’ as someone put it. But I do think it’s fair to acknowledge that they leave very little to the imagination and have a strong association with deliberately sexualised or provocative beachwear.
They’re not naked, but let’s not pretend that a thong bikini is just the same as any other bikini with a slightly different cut. It is designed to expose a very large amount of the buttocks, and that inevitably carries a sexual association for many people.
So I’m not judging women wearing them. I just don’t particularly buy the idea that the garment itself is somehow inherently “powerful” or feminist.

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Pineapplesonpizza · 12/08/2026 16:36

Retro12 · 12/08/2026 16:25

The fact that she is wearing whatever the hell she wants to, not what others think she should be wearing! Probably not giving a second thought about anyone's opinion of her - That's why

Whatever her reasons, that's her CHOICE!* *Just like how you dress is yours!

My point is, if you don't like how someone is dressed, look away... Don't bitch about it, it's not a good look!

But her CHOICE is not the final word. People don't have free rein to wear (or not wear) absolutely anything they choose in any venue they choose. The people around them also require some consideration.

Gloriia · 12/08/2026 16:39

I've never seen a 'bumhole' on the beach. I bet the pp hasn't either.

CoffeeCantata · 12/08/2026 16:41

Pineapplesonpizza · 12/08/2026 16:36

But her CHOICE is not the final word. People don't have free rein to wear (or not wear) absolutely anything they choose in any venue they choose. The people around them also require some consideration.

Yes, most reasonable people recognise dress codes - we don’t always get to wear our totally free choice of clothing in a lot of contexts: work, school, funerals, weddings, social events, religious services etc

The beach is one thing (or thong, in fact) but lunch at a cafe…sarong, please, or other cover-up as a mark of respect to fellow diners.

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