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Butt on display at lunch in south of France

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flipperfizz · 11/08/2026 13:32

I am currently having lunch in a beach restaurant and a girl with a lovely toned body is wearing a tiny thong with full ass on display. This seems to be a fashion thing and there are lots of women wearing the same cheese cutter! People are staring and some women are laughing. I find it a horrible trend and I am wondering what others think.

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CoffeeCantata · 12/08/2026 09:30

No-one has suggested anything revolves around men. Stop mocking women is all we're saying.

No-one apart from you, Gloriia, is saying we're 'mocking women'. You are totally missing the point. Please either name the pps who are 'mocking women' or stop going on about it.

Gloriia · 12/08/2026 09:31

Myli1 · 12/08/2026 09:30

You stated in a previous comment: “Roll on fin de saison. It's much nicer when the tourists leave.”
So are there tourists there or not?

Grin
Anearlyone · 12/08/2026 09:31

Myli1 · 12/08/2026 09:30

You stated in a previous comment: “Roll on fin de saison. It's much nicer when the tourists leave.”
So are there tourists there or not?

Well apparently where @unsync lives so heaves with tourists in August that she leaves her country!

OtterlyAstounding · 12/08/2026 09:31

flipperfizz · 12/08/2026 09:30

I’m here for a month. I am totally relaxed and chilled. Please don’t ‘worry’ about how I’m spending my holiday.

Lucky you! That sounds lovely, even with the bums. I'm in the depths of winter here, and am envious!

Anearlyone · 12/08/2026 09:31

CoffeeCantata · 12/08/2026 09:30

No-one has suggested anything revolves around men. Stop mocking women is all we're saying.

No-one apart from you, Gloriia, is saying we're 'mocking women'. You are totally missing the point. Please either name the pps who are 'mocking women' or stop going on about it.

I am too! Plus lots of others

Gloriia · 12/08/2026 09:32

CoffeeCantata · 12/08/2026 09:30

No-one has suggested anything revolves around men. Stop mocking women is all we're saying.

No-one apart from you, Gloriia, is saying we're 'mocking women'. You are totally missing the point. Please either name the pps who are 'mocking women' or stop going on about it.

There's pages of it. Did I imagine the poo and bum holes comments? Did I imagine they're all doing it for the men? Nope.

CoffeeCantata · 12/08/2026 09:32

Gloriia · 12/08/2026 09:30

'Or someone who cares about the more complex and underlying semiology (signs/meanings/communication) of fashions.'

Oh please. Pp have gone on and on about 'poo' 'arse cheeks' and bumholes yet you're trying to desperately change the narrative. It's all here in black and white. Posters couldn't care less about 'semiology' they just want to mock and snigger. Like the op and her dp.

I think you are trying to speak for other people and few people share your narrow attitudes.

I think many pps on here are interested in semiology and the pressures on women in a patriarchal society.

Speak only for yourself.

Anearlyone · 12/08/2026 09:32

flipperfizz · 12/08/2026 09:30

I’m here for a month. I am totally relaxed and chilled. Please don’t ‘worry’ about how I’m spending my holiday.

A month in stunning south of France with your husband

and here you are 😞

Anearlyone · 12/08/2026 09:33

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CoffeeCantata · 12/08/2026 09:33

Anearlyone · 12/08/2026 09:31

I am too! Plus lots of others

Please give an eg of a post mocking women.

Anearlyone · 12/08/2026 09:34

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Gloriia · 12/08/2026 09:34

'I think many pps on here are interested in semiology and the pressures on women in a patriarchal society'

Ah I see. So the poo smudges, bum cheeks, bumholes, sweaty arses, doing it for the menz was just saying that? Grin

CoffeeCantata · 12/08/2026 09:36

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If you bother to read what I've written on here, I've explained my rationale pretty clearly, I think. But you do need to read my posts.

There's no point in my typing it all out again!

CoffeeCantata · 12/08/2026 09:37

Gloriia · 12/08/2026 09:34

'I think many pps on here are interested in semiology and the pressures on women in a patriarchal society'

Ah I see. So the poo smudges, bum cheeks, bumholes, sweaty arses, doing it for the menz was just saying that? Grin

In your mind, I guess so!

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Gloriia · 12/08/2026 09:38

CoffeeCantata · 12/08/2026 09:33

Please give an eg of a post mocking women.

From page one ' Perhaps laughing at her will persuade her to cover up- it sounds vulgar and attention seeking'

Encouraging the op to laugh at her. Suggesting a bikini is vulgar and attention seeking. That is mocking women. Hope thst helps. If you rtft there's plenty more derogatory crap.

Anearlyone · 12/08/2026 09:38

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CoffeeCantata · 12/08/2026 09:40

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Anearlyone - I have reported you for the following crimes:

a personal attack
stalking and quoting from other threads
reducing a rational argument inaccurately and failing to take the trouble to read what I have posted here.

CoffeeCantata · 12/08/2026 09:41

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Also reported.

gotitsoiflauntit · 12/08/2026 09:41

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There is actually a medical term for it; pugophobia.

Anearlyone · 12/08/2026 09:42

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Anearlyone · 12/08/2026 09:42

CoffeeCantata · 12/08/2026 09:40

Anearlyone - I have reported you for the following crimes:

a personal attack
stalking and quoting from other threads
reducing a rational argument inaccurately and failing to take the trouble to read what I have posted here.

Where’s the personal attack?

quite the litany of crimes 😆

reducing a rational argument inaccurately and failing to take the trouble to read what I have posted here.

is there an option to report someone for this? Curious!

CoffeeCantata · 12/08/2026 09:43

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Anearlyone - you will not bully me off the thread, btw.

CoffeeCantata · 12/08/2026 09:44

Gloriia · 12/08/2026 09:38

From page one ' Perhaps laughing at her will persuade her to cover up- it sounds vulgar and attention seeking'

Encouraging the op to laugh at her. Suggesting a bikini is vulgar and attention seeking. That is mocking women. Hope thst helps. If you rtft there's plenty more derogatory crap.

And who posted that? Names, please!

Anearlyone · 12/08/2026 09:44

CoffeeCantata · 12/08/2026 09:43

Anearlyone - you will not bully me off the thread, btw.

I I have done is quote you

You have posted dozens of times about your aversion to bums.

Sorta relevant to this thread don’t you think?!

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