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Butt on display at lunch in south of France

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flipperfizz · 11/08/2026 13:32

I am currently having lunch in a beach restaurant and a girl with a lovely toned body is wearing a tiny thong with full ass on display. This seems to be a fashion thing and there are lots of women wearing the same cheese cutter! People are staring and some women are laughing. I find it a horrible trend and I am wondering what others think.

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Snufkin88 · 11/08/2026 17:31

It annoys me when people say things like “I support women wearing whatever they like” I mean sorry but it’s just absolutely gross to have to see someone’s arse hanging out at a cafe . I’d find it equally disgusting if a man did it (if not more to be honest ). It’s soooo grim

IcedPurple · 11/08/2026 17:31

Naws · 11/08/2026 17:29

Not sure about you, but I tend to eat my lunch off a plate, not a beach chair?

Did I ask you a question?

I'm just wondering if the poster I responded to was equally enthusiastic about bare male arses near food. Or just women?

Naws · 11/08/2026 17:32

Calliopespa · 11/08/2026 17:29

If you can't even handle the description, it's no wonder others don't particularly enjoy the reality.

It's silly to be arguing in favour of freedom of what to wear but then try to shut people down for opinions.

Some people air opinions; some people air their butt cheeks.

In your second post on this thread you mentioned poo trolls.

I'm sure you can understand why some people may not want to engage in your constant posts about shit and shitty arses.

Naws · 11/08/2026 17:33

IcedPurple · 11/08/2026 17:31

Did I ask you a question?

I'm just wondering if the poster I responded to was equally enthusiastic about bare male arses near food. Or just women?

That's not how chat forum's work mate.

If you want to speak to someone personally, you can send them a private message.

If you post on a public forum, you'll get people replying whether you like it or not.

HTH.

CoffeeCantata · 11/08/2026 17:39

Naws · 11/08/2026 17:32

In your second post on this thread you mentioned poo trolls.

I'm sure you can understand why some people may not want to engage in your constant posts about shit and shitty arses.

Backsides and poo being connected?!

How bizarre!

Gloriia · 11/08/2026 17:40

IcedPurple · 11/08/2026 17:28

How about men? Would you be happy for men to have their arses out around food?

Yes if a man was rubbing a bare bum on food that would be weird and also a health and safety issue.

What's the relevance here? No one was 'bare' and no-one was rubbing their hypothetical bare bum on other customer's food.

Gloriia · 11/08/2026 17:45

Snufkin88 · 11/08/2026 17:31

It annoys me when people say things like “I support women wearing whatever they like” I mean sorry but it’s just absolutely gross to have to see someone’s arse hanging out at a cafe . I’d find it equally disgusting if a man did it (if not more to be honest ). It’s soooo grim

Context! In a beach cafe it's fine. Speedos and thongs are not ok in actual restaurants, which this was not.

AMurderofMurderingCrows · 11/08/2026 17:46

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Is it you with your arse out in a French beach restaurant and listening in to everyone talking about you? 😉

Mirabella7 · 11/08/2026 17:47

MyDarlingRose · 11/08/2026 13:43

Well recently I was out for drinks and all the waitresses were wearing trousers with their chunky thongs pulled above them whale tail style. It was incredibly weird to see people working with their pants on show but I assume that I am now old. I’m all for it on a night out, whatever, but at work?

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Wasn’t that an early 2000s thing along with the matching ‘tramp stamp’?

Ontobetterthings · 11/08/2026 17:48

Had the same in Turkey. They kept floating on the floats in the pool with their bum completely out. At one point the beach ball was thrown and floated over and went and parked between 2 butt cheeks. It was extremely awkward 😳

IcedPurple · 11/08/2026 17:49

Gloriia · 11/08/2026 17:40

Yes if a man was rubbing a bare bum on food that would be weird and also a health and safety issue.

What's the relevance here? No one was 'bare' and no-one was rubbing their hypothetical bare bum on other customer's food.

Rubbing? Who mentioned 'rubbing'? Not me!

And a bethonged arse is basically bare. You said in your other post that thongs are 'not OK' in an 'actual restaurant' but are 'fine' in a beach cafe. I genuinely don't get that. If I'm eating food, I'd rather not do so in the vicinity of a stranger's bare backside, whether or not it's an 'actual restaurant'.

GertrudeKerfuffle · 11/08/2026 17:49

I know women can wear what they want, no judging, etc, but I must admit I just don’t like thongs. I’ve always found them uncomfortable and just don’t like the arse-flossing sensation and therefore when I see someone else wandering round in a thong, it makes me feel a bit icky. Each to their own, of course. Although I can’t help but reflect it’s only fashionable for women and girls to wear revealing outfits, and not men and boys. So you often see a teenage girl looking fabulous in a barely-there scrap of fabric accompanied by the spotty boyfriend in baggy shorts. I guess here’s not the place to discuss fashion and feminism though.

Naws · 11/08/2026 17:51

Ontobetterthings · 11/08/2026 17:48

Had the same in Turkey. They kept floating on the floats in the pool with their bum completely out. At one point the beach ball was thrown and floated over and went and parked between 2 butt cheeks. It was extremely awkward 😳

A wet beach ball actually got stuck between someone's butt cheeks?

SodThisHeadache · 11/08/2026 17:54

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Go to the toilet. It might unbung you

Ontobetterthings · 11/08/2026 17:59

Naws · 11/08/2026 17:51

A wet beach ball actually got stuck between someone's butt cheeks?

Honest to God! She was floating with bum upwards and someone threw the beach ball in the pool. I couldnt reach it in time and it parked between her butt cheeks.

flipperfizz · 11/08/2026 18:03

Gloriia · 11/08/2026 17:45

Context! In a beach cafe it's fine. Speedos and thongs are not ok in actual restaurants, which this was not.

It was in a (smart) restaurant/ beach bar in Juan Les Pins It’s not really fine and most on here agree.

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Gooseling · 11/08/2026 18:08

Thisismyfinesthour · 11/08/2026 13:52

I wouldn't want to knowingly sit somewhere where a bare arse has sat. Urgh, on so many levels.

Do you sit on public toilet seats?

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Yes! 75% agree IANBU out of 570 votes.

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MyIcyHeart · 11/08/2026 18:09

What a nasty thread.
It's not a bit of 'fun'.

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