I hate being called lovely

[amapoftheisland]

I don’t mean ‘oh, yes, you know Jane, works i finance, really helpful, lovely woman.’ That’s fine.

I mean being called lovely just that, ‘oh sorry lovely I didn’t realise you messaged’

it’s so insincere

Of course it’s harmless and of course it’s just the way some people talk.

Ducky or love, would be fine but lovely seems toe curling and odd, because it’s an adjective. Sometimes it seems as though I’ve had my name changed to Lovely.

i don’t like it but it would be out of place to complain!

A GP at my practice has called me dear in the past. She balked when I called her luvvy back and iterated that her name is Dr Condescent.

I have had this. A young dentist addressed me by my first name and said hi, I’m Dr Y. If I remember, next time it happens, I’m going to say “if you’re Dr Y, then I’m Ms HoppityBun”.

I love it & it's used a lot here (South West) but I really dislike 'hun' but not enough to do anything about it, I take these words as they are meant, as a term of endearment.

i call everyone sweetie or my lovely...jeez you and op have issues

You want to stay clear of the West Country then, everyone seems to use it there. I find it quite endearing.

It's just that one.
"Lovely" 🤢
Daalin, in London, ducky or my lover in Bristol. All those are fine. It's "lovely" and, like a PP, the "oh my love" sincerity on MN makes me heave.

I’d go on holiday there just to be called “my lover” in the correct accent. So beautifully weird and wonderful.

If its used because they see an older woman then i agree its horrible

Mylover is not age related

This. Absolutely detest ‘hun’ because it nearly always sounds patronising. I’m mostly ok with ‘lovely’.

One of my (female ) friends frequently calls me 'babe'. I think nothing of it! What I DO hate is when shop assistants call me 'madam'. It makes me feel like a maiden aunt!

I grew up in Northamptonshire in the mid 50s and 60s. "Duck", "ducky", "my duck" and "me duck" were all commonly used. My late mother often called me "Ducky" and I miss that. Where I live now people used to use "my plum" but I've not heard that for years.

It’s just a term that people use and varies from area to area. I work with someone who calls everyone “gorgeous”. I’m not bothered unless somebody calls me shitface.

I was in Dunelm yesterday and in the space of about 30 seconds at the till I was called darling, sweetheart, pet and love!
I’m about as far north as you can go and it makes me cringe 😬

I lived in Northampton, most friends were either town or Rothersthorpe or Towcester way.

It's a relatively new term of endearment compared to the usual ones and i think it only came about when pc types started moaning about being called love,darlin etc so this silly term started.
I don't give a stuff about any of the 'usuals' at all , in fact i like hearing them especially the ones in different regions.
But 'lovely' makes me cringe ,it's patronising and fake and to me never sounds anything but that.
The management in my workplace asked the receptionists not to use it and we are all the better for it.

I grew up in a small village 7 miles from Northampton and about 9 miles from Towcester. Went to school in Daventry and then to art school in Northampton (though the School of Art building attached to the old technical college and opposite the "Racecourse" no longer exists). Used to drink at The White Elephant at lunchtime.

I love it, I love all the pet names even when men use them, like hi love, they remind me of a time when people were nicer and less uptight.

I don’t even use them on other people I just like it when it’s used on me 🤣

The only one that makes me feel icky is HUN.

Sounds like a fab worker, some retail workers don’t even give eye contact or say hi!!!

I don't like it from strangers - it comes across as very patronising - but from people i know I see it as a term of endearment and have no problem with it.

Fit like ma quine/loon..nope.

I absolutely cannot stand it and have to try really hard not to say 'PLEASE could you not call me that?' It's mostly in a professional or customer service context (hairdresser, nurse, shop worker...) and it's patronising as all hell. How do they know if I'm lovely? Why do I need a term of endearment from someone I don't know? I'm not looking for formality, just don't call me anything, there's no need! It's absolutely insincere because they don't know the first thing about me. Let's just be businesslike and get whatever the transaction is done, politely and appropriately.
Grrrr.

It’s not that deep.

I hate being called 'lovely' or 'sweetheart'. I'm a fully-grown adult, not a child and though I'm in my seventies it doesn't mean I'm in my second childhood. Why do people assume that old people want to be patronised and talked to as if they're children?

I absolutely hate it