Teen daughter has come out gay

[nowhatx]

My teen daughter has told me she’s gay. I’ve told her I love her whatever she is and we’ve had a cuddle. I’ve had a cry on my own. I don’t know why????? She’s 15

is there anything I need to do or nothing I’m just a bit taken back and nobody to talk to x

Because sadly, even though it’s 2026, homophobia and hate crimes against gay people still exist.

And the rise in right wing political parties (Reform, Restore, Advance Britain etc.) can cause uneasiness within the LGBT community. Such as: Nigel Farage initially voting against same sex marriage. Rupert Lowe criticising the display of pride and rainbow flags.

Ignore the handful of posters telling you to get a grip, and you have no right to have a little cry @nowhatx it's a shock. As has been said, life for someone who is gay has more challenges than people who are straight. Also, there is the possibility of no bio grandchildren. People have every right to be upset or disappointed, maybe don't tell your children this, that you're hoping for grandchildren, but you can be disappointed.

As I said, ignore the (few) rude posters. They are clearly projecting.

Try to embrace this? My DD (14) has told me that she is Bi, she’s not, she is gay, I’ve known for years. I’m delighted that she doesn’t have to date toxic masculinity but at the same time I’m worried that her life may be a bit trickier to navigate.

I have a lot of wonderful male gay friends whom she has always known and spends time with. I’m trying not to wish DC onto her selfishly but honestly having her was the best experience of my life and I hope she has that in her life too.

Do you any gay friends? If so talk to them about coming out, take everything they say onboard, it’s great that she is talking to you about this. Happy for you to PM me

@nowhatx I stressed when DS came out - a bit older than your DD so I get it
My worries were mainly that life could be harder for him
We might pretend otherwise but homophobia still exists
An older (50+) gay friend of mine was recently attacked and gang raped - apparently to ‘treat that poofter a lesson’ it’s horrific in 2026
DS tells me he’s always careful and checks out his surroundings before being openly affectionate with his DP in public - that’s not something I’ve ever had to consider as a straight woman!

Ignore the salty comments, OP. Your DD trusted you, you love and accept her and you said so. All is good. And of course you worry for her, because anything that deviates from "straight, monogamic person" is harder. Denying that would be a disservice to your DD.

It’s fantastic having a lesbian daughter, mine is. Love her fiancée, never seen her so happy. They’re getting married next year.

Teach not treat - sorry
Thankfully with counselling my friend is recovering slowly

To be honest. Be glad she's told you.
All you need to do now is listen.

Maybe see if she wants a cup of tea

i second this.
my teen daughter came out to me when she was 14. I was devastated at the time, it was 1996. She had boyfriends since then and realised it wasn’t for her. She has turned out to be the amazing woman she is today and very happy in the relationship she has with an amazing woman I love.
listen to your children. Give them all the love they need, they are not children for long.

Firstly pat yourself on the back. You've done a good job. I once had a 15 year old telling me they were bi and then beg me not to tell their parents. So bang gold star.

Last night I went out with a group of friends from school we are in our late 50s . One realised she was a gay at 40 and regrets the missed years of happiness...

All you can do is warn your daughter that some people will dislike her just because she's gay, some will take the piss and (I am male) a lot of blokes will want to "convert" her or watch he and her partner or join in....

Yeah this. ^ I think a small handful of posters on here are projecting all right!

Nope. Crying suggests fear, disappointment and a need for curated acceptance. Entrenched homophobic behaviour.

Being gay is not a sentence or a choice. Its just who she is - crying, even in private suggests you arent happy with who your daughter is.

Careful there, OP.

Don’t be so daft. Crying suggests an outlet of emotion, her daughter told her something that’s a big deal to the daughter, they had a good talk about it and then OP privately let emotion out. She’s doing a great job. So get lost

Don’t be so bloody dismissive and naive.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/ckg98j5e49do

https://www.nottinghamshire.police.uk/news/nottinghamshire/news/news/2026/june/appeal-after-suspected-homophobic-attack-that-injured-teenager/

https://www.gloucestershire.police.uk/news/gloucestershire/2026/march/cctv-appeal-after-suspected-hate-crime-at-lgbtq-venue-in-gloucester/

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cpvpzzrj81no

https://www.lincolnshireworld.com/news/crime/police-appeal-for-witnesses-after-alleged-homophobic-attack-in-skegness-8515355

https://www.manchestereveningnews.co.uk/news/greater-manchester-news/city-centre-cctv-so-poor-34090851.amp

Ludicrous comments. Have a word with yourself!

Touched a nerve there?

Get lost... are you 5? 😂

Was this a total shock to you OP? My DD is gay and I had clocked when she was about 11 that she probably would be. So I had years of assuming that this would be her future by the time she figured it out herself.

100% this. Nothing wrong with being gay of course! But suggesting no-one cares anymore if people are gay is ridiculous. Attacks on gay people are rife!

Nope. Not ludicrous.

My opinion, to which I am entitled.

If her DD csme home and said, I have a boyfriend, I highly doubt the OP would have cried.

Touched a nerve? Yeah sure, you caught me, I’m a loving parent that’s not homophobic too, what a shame you’ve pointed it out 🙄

And at least I’m not trying to shame people on the internet for nothing, accusing OP of stupid stuff that just isn’t happening. You are clearly projecting.

Yes, ludicrous. Your comments were ludicrous. I'm embarrassed for you.

You said

Crying suggests fear, disappointment and a need for curated acceptance. Entrenched homophobic behaviour.

Which was a 100% LUDICROUS comment.

Give your head a wobble!

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I see you. All my kids are some form of not straight, including the fostered one. None of it was unexpected in the way it seems to have been for you, and I imagine the shock of it is the worst of it.

But you have lost nothing. Nothing is worse. Your DD will be fine. She will find a place to live where she can be herself - I have one DD living with me, but the other two live in urban areas which are more diverse, where they can be themselves. My DD doesn't give a shit and has found her people locally.

So what you do is thank her for trusting you with this information. You tell her you will be there for her. You tell her you love her as you always have, and you always will. You tell her that any partners she brings home will be welcomed. You tell her that her happiness is the most important thing.

And then you get on with life. You'll be OK.

It does nothing of the sort. Don’t be an arsehole

Why would @nowhatx's daughter being a lesbian mean she is any less likely to have children than if she was straight @PrettyLittleRose ?

Do you not know any straight women without children?

Why is this an issue for you? One of my kids is gay and it’s no different from the others.