AIBU to find it strange that husband is invited to wedding without me

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My husband has been invited to one of his employees wedding, she has worked at his company for 20 years. The invite just has his name on the envelope and there is no name inside just a printed card. He replied online but it seems like it is just for him.It’s all day
We have been married for 40 years and would have never done this despite being on a low budget at the time.
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Yes I think it’s odd for a day invite. It’s fine for a local evening do but not really if it involves travel and overnight stays.

Had this too. Dh ( and I think some of his other colleagues) invited but not me.

This was an Asian wedding- Hindu I think, so perhaps different.

then he gracefully declines, job done.

It is a bit rude, but then you are spared the bother and expense of attending a wedding of someone you hardly know and don't know anyone there.

My husband has been to work weddings alone there was a "work group " I don't think it is a huge deal. I was a plus 1 and a work wedding last year and there was also just a work group,

I am not sure why people get so offended.

How well do you know her OP? My DH knows some of my colleagues as we have children same age and socialise as families

It might be, if she invited you, then she'd have to invite other colleagues wives/husbands/partners as well. So it might be a case of not inviting any partners at all, to make it easier all around.

I invited a select few work colleagues with a plus 1, to the evening reception only. I invited 2 colleagues to the entire day with their partners because they are close friends too.

OP seems to be saying her DH is not only her boss but the business owner. I’d have thought in those circumstances the boss’s wife would be invited.

If he is her employer it might be a courtesy invitation that is why it is just him.

Why does that change anything? Boss is still a colleague. They don’t have a higher status in your life because of their seniority and status in the workplace.

When we got married in our 20s we both had large teams we only invited one person of the couple, it was a lot of money and we didn’t know the partners at all - although we’d worked together a while. So no I don’t think it’s odd. Everyone has a great time.

You are definitely unreasonable.

Work colleagues are different for wedding invitations if you’re inviting more than one colleague - they know each other and the bride/groom rarely know their colleague’s spouse.

Not strange at all.
Perhaps its a small affair with minimal people or a select few.
As a couple you have individual experinces and socialising.

I’ve been invited to several weddings with no plus one.

To me it makes total sense because you only have a set amount of people allowed, why waste half of those spaces on people you don’t know.

Why does it make a difference if it involves travel and overnight stays?

People are capable of travelling and staying overnight without their partner.

It is normal to invite a plus one but as stated weddings are expensive, so I think it has to be expected this will change.
She wants to invite work colleagues doesn't have room for plus ones, decision made. He can go if he wants to and sit with his colleagues or declines.

Last colleagues wedding I went to, she did discuss it with us and we all decided to go just us no plus ones - I think she was relived as it meant she can invite her closest friends. I don't think I would get too het up about this.

Don’t be ridiculous! Most people are grown up enough to have a good relationship with all of their colleagues.

It is somebody’s celebration of their marriage not a potential paragraph on their CV.

Guests are invited by the happy couple. You either accept or decline. Nothing odd at all.

Gosh no it’s not strange at all. In my experience colleagues are rarely invited with plus ones . I don’t think it’s rude at all. It’s not like he will be alone presumably there will be other colleagues there to hang out with .

This. Colleagues are often invited alone and not together. The bride does not know you and they can't afford more guests, bit would like close colleagues at the event. There's nothing unusual and it's not weird.
However, especially if you have small children, your dh might decline saying he can't leave you alone with kids etc which would also be totally normal.

I find it weird too but it seems to be the done thing now when inviting work colleagues.

I don't think it strange for work colleagues. That's the only time it's not rude to not invite partners IMO.

There’s no way I would invite my colleagues partners to my wedding if I was inviting them, spaces are tight and expensive.

This is reasonable an extra say 10 people will cost an absolute fortune.

I wouldn’t invite plus ones to a wedding. Especially if I didn’t know them.