AIBU to find it strange that husband is invited to wedding without me

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My husband has been invited to one of his employees wedding, she has worked at his company for 20 years. The invite just has his name on the envelope and there is no name inside just a printed card. He replied online but it seems like it is just for him.It’s all day
We have been married for 40 years and would have never done this despite being on a low budget at the time.
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If I was to get married again then no I wouldn’t invite partners of my colleagues. It wouldn’t even cross my mind to. He’s the one she knows, not you.

I’m with you OP and if he’s doesn’t feel like making the effort he should not bother. Just asked my own husband and he also would not be bothered.

Work is work, and we (general we) enjoy some of our colleagues but most we probably would never see again if we parted ways with our roles.

Time is precious and days off too few. Weddings involve expense and often travel. No sense taking the time for someone that doesn’t know him well enough to understand that this particular wedding would be an obligation rather than a pleasure.

I don’t think there’s a right or wrong. Weddings are expensive and including partners can mean not inviting others. We gave all our day and evening guests a plus one and even asked if they wanted to bring children or not as many were travelling quite a distance especially from my side. However a work colleague got married last year and just invited the direct colleagues to the evening do. So I think each wedding is individual and up to the couple. They make their choice and then you make your choice as to whether to go or not.

The bride and OP’s husband have worked together for 20 years !!! @Loulou4022
OP’s husband owns the company afaik.
They are not just casual acquaintances that meet occasionally at work.

The bride and the OP husband have worked together for 20 years not the OP!
I’m not really sure why you’ve quoted me tbh? I said at the beginning of my post I felt there’s no right or wrong answer!!
At then end of the day the bride has made her choice over the invites now it’s up to the OP and her husband to decide if he goes or not!

That was covered off in my post under "exceptions." 🤓
But, I like your sense of fun in your reply. 🙂