To ask your ultimate wedding guest scandal?

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Well, my story is pretty scandalous. I’m from Indian heritage … a cousin I had not seen for years invited by my family to my wedding - she wore her bloody wedding outfit her glam reception - red outfit - all her freaking jewellery I mean Wtaf and I’m still not over it and it’s been 17 years

"Men love women, women love children and children love hamsters" - Alice Thomas Ellis

I was at a wedding where one of the guests decided to do a few lines of coke right before dinner could start (to suppress her appetite apparently) and ended up collapsing right in front of the open buffet; supposedly the coke was laced with something which caused her to have a seizure.

Out of propriety, we were all asked to leave the hall while she received first aid and they waited for the ambulance to arrive but by the time the paramedics got there, stabilised her and got her into the ambulance over an hour had already passed. Then because she had released 3 different types of bodily fluids all over the place, the venue had to do a proper deep clean so it was nearly 2 hours before the hall could be reopened and by that time everyone had left / wandered off into the city centre in search of food as we were all really hungry (word had got back that the buffet was a write off) so that was basically the end of the wedding reception. As the buffet had just been put out when she collapsed right in front of it, the food had to be thrown away due to the risk of contamination from airborne particles so not only did the bride and groom lose all that food / money and miss out on their reception, but they also lost money on a DJ who never got to play, favours that never got given out, a photobooth that went unused and they also had to pay out to meet the minimum payment for the bar. Then the cherry on top of the non cut wedding cake was that they also got given a hefty clean up fee from the venue as well!

That's a bit harsh - only reason I knew red is the Indian bridal colour is a previous mn thread. OP said she was Indian and in a shop that does Indian bridal gear and there was a white British woman in who was marrying an Indian man - she had a bunch of white British female friends with her who were all going to dress Indian style for the wedding - and they were picking out bridal dresses. OP tried to tell them which ones were just for brides but they wouldn't have it, potential bride included, and even the owner of the place was shushing her because he stood to make more money. She tried to explain it would be like going to a church wedding dressed like the bride in a big white dress but the bride got quite hostile and they told her to mind her own business etc. Just focused on what they happened to like the look of and refusing to think about any cultural aspects etc. OP had to just give up and accept this daft woman was basically going to insult her new husband's whole family.

Re the red thing, when I was a kid there was a rhyme about colours and red was marry in red, wish you ere dead.

Not scandalous but I passed out at my friend’s wedding lunch! It was a small wedding so everyone saw - the kids (inc mine) were playing in the back of the venue and someone stood at the door barring them from coming back in (I could see them when I came to). My then 8 yr old DS apparently thought I’d died.
Once I’d come to properly I was fine and just carried on w my dessert (I was a bit if a fainter anyway and had a really bad stomach ache that preceded the faint so I knew it was coming).

@MysteryParcelthat is awful, poor bride and groom 😔

Yea I seem to remember it meant “spurned women” but that was wearing all red. Having a splash of red on the dress is fine.

What makes a wedding chavvy?

The bride (my friend) found the whole thing hilarious, I was very confused and thought I’d breached some kind of universal wedding etiquette as they were so sure of themselves in a “everybody knows this!” kind of way.

They were still together last I heard but tbh have lost touch since having kids.

My brother shagged a male friend who he’d never met before in the toilets at my wedding, then got engaged to his long term girlfriend a week later!

No I’m in my 40’s and this was definitely a thing my mum used to say! Nothing to do with TikTok

Married in white, you will have chosen all right.
Married in grey, you will go far away.
Married in black, you will wish yourself back.
Married in red, you’ll wish yourself dead.
Married in blue, you will always be true.
Married in pearl, you’ll live in a whirl.
Married in green, ashamed to be seen.
Married in yellow, ashamed of the fellow.
Married in brown, you’ll live out of town.
Married in pink, your spirits will sink.

Any update?
Are they still married 😳

😂🥰💕💕💕💕 I couldn't be mad at that x

At least two, I didn’t know this either!

I am in my fifties and have always known this so this isn't something new. It is considered a bold all over colour and not really suitable for a wedding according to Debrett's. They have been publishing their guide to etiquette and listing nobility and gentry in the UK since 1769.

My PIL had it in their house and it was a very interesting read and I could see where a lot of their opinions had come from when it came to our wedding choices.

Had to read this twice! Did he go on to marry his g’f?

Yes! She wore her full glamorous wedding outfit plus all the jewellery to the wedding. The Indian bridal colour is red. Imagine if someone came to a white wedding in their wedding dress, complete with long train!

Not exactly a scandal but I was at a wedding - couple in their 70s, both marrying after being widowed, a small, low-key occasion - where the bride was wearing a smart, patterned dress (not white) and one of the guests (of whom there were only about 20) was wearing the exact same dress. No one said anything!

It was her full wedding outfit complete with bridal jewellery. Wearing a non-bridal red outfit is acceptable, but not really in good taste.

@Bepo77
@Reallyneedsaholiday

Both really sad 😢
Gosh

At a private venue, some people were camping in a nearby field and came over to the wedding in all their camping gear. Started eating the food and free bar, and refused to leave. Police had to attend to kick them out.

This is awful did no one say anything or get on that they are related.

At my cousins wedding I wore a cream maxi cheesecloth dress (50 years ago). It didn't hit me until I was there what a mistake I'd made. I'm not in any official wedding photos as I realised my error and avoided being in them.

I hadn't specifically bought for this event. I honestly never thought, just wanted to wear my new cream dress.

My cousins wife never said anything and I hope she has forgiven me now

very traditional what? I am in my 70's and have never heard of any of those beliefs.