AIBU to raise this comment about DD’s sleepover with school?

[onyourbill]

Honestly don’t know if I am or not!

All very much kids stuff but 12 year “friend” of DD, who we have nothing but endless trouble with, has gone round telling people at school that my DH will sleep with the girls at DD’s upcoming birthday sleepover which obviously isn’t happening whatsoever. She obviously means in the same room, but I’m really not comfortable with her saying this whatsoever as she knows exactly what she’s saying. AIBU to speak with school or am I overthinking?

This kid has been relentless for months with my DD so I’m very aware that it doesn’t take much for her to completely naff we off…

I would not be letting my daughter stay over if a male was staying in the same room ! That isnt appropriate at all..

But he isn’t staying in the same room

Oh dear

Hasn't your daughter corrected the girl and said No, my dad won't be sleeping in our room it will just be us girls, Mon and dad with be in they own room. But I think you definitely need to nip this in the bud and speak to someone. It could have serious repercussions if one of the other parents heard it. Oh and definitely DO NOT send your husband to sleep elsewhere, that makes it seem he can't be trusted,

It was clarified in the OP, “which obviously isn’t happening whatsoever. ”

There was no suggestion the girl was telling a truth

The responses confirm how dangerous this is. People not reading or listening properly so their take away is the husband is sleeping in the same room 🙄

I honestly would do this if you still have her round (and any brothers too). Have them pop to a family member who can then bear witness to the fact that they were there all night.
(But obviously that’s very stressful and annoying and probably better to say you have to call off sleepover - invent a reason, could be anything - rearrange it again in a week or so but don’t invite this “friend” - hopefully the safeguarding lead at school will be able to do some work with her to work out why she’s saying these disturbing things, but in your shoes I would be absolutely determined that it doesn’t become your family’s problem).

Then you need to.proof read your post and edit it.

Also are they 12 years old or year 12? Just for clarity of how bad this other child's behaviour is. Both options are bad, but a 12 yo and a 17yo are different beasts!

Again, editing needed then, because when advised to uninvite said child you said I'd never do that to my daughter. Your writing style is really unclear. You dont make sense! Is she invited or would you never uninvite her? Can't be both. Obviously this is a horrible situation so I'd advise you to take a big breath and type slowly. This will help when you finally get to speak to school. Write down what you want to say and make sure it means what you intend it to mean.

Report to school. They will have a word with the parents and separately, personally I would uninvite the girl spreading the rumours. It's just not worth it.

😂

the little girl is right to raise concerns. it worries me that you think DH sleeping with them is okay

Again, editing needed then, because when advised to uninvite said child you said I'd never do that to my daughter.

OP inadvertently quoted the wrong post in one reply, when she was responding to a suggestion that the sleepover be cancelled, but said several times afterwards that the girl was never invited. It's quite clear if you read all op's replies.

Exactly this!

FFS! Why don’t people read the whole thread, or at least all OP’s comments! You can stop worrying - it isn’t going to happen.

😅 fuck a duck!

I would talk to her parents, this has nothing to do with the school- it sounds as if this girl likes trouble or has mental health problems.

I would talk to her parents, this has nothing to do with the school

If she were to repeat it at school, or another child or parent were to repeat it, and staff heard of it, they would be required to raise a safeguarding concern.

Fgs why don’t people READ THE OP COMMENTS? 🙄

@onyourbill
First and foremost she's not a "friend" to your DD to go spreading this sort of rumour knowingly, she knows what shes doing and how to totally manipulate whilst steamrollering someone like your daughter whos not 'foward' like herself which is probably why she latched onto her in the first place.
I would speak to the school because shes making implications about your husband and we all know how some people just like a good nasty rumour
And God knows what outfall may occur
And I'd ask the school to speak to her parents; what goes on in her home for her to say stuff like this? And explain the unease this girls caused by what she's implied You without realising have picked up on her horrible personality and i would distance my child from her; she can make nicer friends!
Personally I'd uninvited her from the party as she'll attend the do and probably cause nothing but niggly little problems/scenarios
That girls knowing and sounds the sort to not take the first no for an answer
So you will have to really be firm
Your DD will not be happy but there you go
It could be this girl has a shitty home life and quite simply would try to destroy others so
Speak to the school straightaway
Stop the lie

as said by another, the kind of lies that can ruin lives. It happens. And men or the wrongly accused can find themselves in court or worse. Also, this 12 year old needs this behaviour highlighted and addressed right now, as has hallmarks of a dangerous fabricator / fantasist going into adulthood. Do not allow her to sleep over. YA(definitely)NBU - report it

What will “banning her” from your house do? She wasn’t even invited to the party and… given she’s been bullying your daughter for months - has she ever been in your house?

My thoughts exactly. Huge safeguarding issue on multiple levels. I wouldnt have that child in my house either.... The school needs to know as do the parents.

What’s this got to do with the school???? Out of school problem. Teachers have enough to do