To un-invite friend from dinner after she sent me message by mistake

[Dinnertext]

I’m a long time lurker but have pulled on my big girl pants for my first ever post in AIBU!

We are hosting my friend and her husband on Saturday for dinner. We’ve hosted them before and they’ve always been good company and said they’d enjoyed the food.

We were texting earlier about something unrelated - she clearly had another conversation on the go as she sent a reply which was of no relevance to our conversation.

Her message said:
I can’t do Saturday I am afraid. At (my name)’s for dinner again. That reminds me to stock up on the Pepto for the next morning 😂

Would it be wrong of me to rescind the invite? We go to a lot of effort to host them and feel this is frankly insulting.

in light of your update, this person is very rude, sack her off

You know where you stand now OP.

DH thinks we should still host them and it would be easier to not have to cook. But he does get along really well with my friends husband so probably doesn’t want any awkwardness. I am not keen to host now - we will have to have something to eat, as they are not coming round until 6.

She sounds snobby and rude. Don’t have her round again. I wouldn’t even reply to her message.

Considering she hasn’t responded to you sending her the “?” with any quick reasonable explanation as to why she’d need Pepto Bismol, a medicine advertised all over the tv at the moment as treating things such as nausea and diarrhea, I would assume she was squirming and having to try and think of an explanation as it was indeed said as an insult, just not one she wanted you to hear.

This person is a rude frightful snob with no manners. Unless she is the godparent to your children or something, I’d cancel the dinner and never speak to her afain

tell you husband to meet his mate down the pub on his own. the wife is very unpleasant

He can go for a drink with the husband then. Your "friend" is very rude

1. She is a shop snob. Noone gets an upset stomach having aldi pasta over waitrose pasta ffs
2. She bitches about you to other people
3. She didn't have the good grace (or the intelligence) to make something up to spare your feelings

Did she even apologise?

"After your comment to your friend, I 'cant do Saturday' either, so yes, best that we leave it. Have a good weekend"

I think the AGAIN is the bit that would get to me more than the PB comment.

Too polite to mention it,but not too polite to slag you off to other people.
And to compound your upset with the 'places we don't usually shop'remark.
What a Cnut.

Ugh, how rude. She's enjoyed bitching about you to others as well, it seems. I'd be rescinding the invite.

I think your message is fine to reply but I’d also add. Unfortunately we are not hosting a drinks evening so can’t accommodate your suggestion, let’s shelve the plans entirely.

Let your DH go to pub/wine bar with her DH if they want to. You don't need people like her sneering at your hostessing.

No she didn’t apologise.

Yeah, she's talking absolute shit. Is that the best she could come up with after having a little think?

I wouldn't put yourself out ever again for them.

She sounds snooty and rude.

I must know what did she mean by “places we dont usually shop”?

Such a rude reply of hers to you OP on top of her snide rudeness in joking about you to someone else! I would definitely not invite her round again after that, show some backbone! If your husband wants to stay mates with her husband they can meet in the pub.

I’m so sorry @Dinnertextbur I don’t think you can host them. If she’d explained about the upset stomach and apologised for making a quip about it but said they were looking forward to dinner this time…maybe. But to say they’d stick to crisps as if you’re bound to give them food poisoning again! Is so insulting!

I think I’d make an excuse and cancel - she’ll know it’s a lie but it’s easier than falling out. Then if they want to the husbands can meet for a drink another then.

If you liked her enough to invite her, then I would weigh up whether you want this to be a big issue between you.

What would be in it for her to lie about having bad tummies after the last meal? Presumably she's not trying to hurt or offend you, just saying what happened.

So it didn't agree with them or something they had the same day didn't. It's not the end of the world.

If you like them, just laugh it off and get a takeaway instead.

Depends how close you are and whether you trust each other's good intentions.

Cook what you had planned op. Serve them a plain cheese sandwich..
Enjoy your lovely meal.

Blimey, the update is horrible. Agree with DH meeting the husband for a drink and swerving further hosting. How hurtful, I’m sorry.

If your food is rubbish she’s unlikely to eat enough to need the Pepto. I think she means she will be overindulging in rich food & also alcohol. Hope that’s the case!

ETA : should have read the whole thread, not just the first few posts!

I'd just reply 'Think it's best you don't come. Would have been nice to chat but it seems you're doing plenty of that behind my back.'