To un-invite friend from dinner after she sent me message by mistake

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I’m a long time lurker but have pulled on my big girl pants for my first ever post in AIBU!

We are hosting my friend and her husband on Saturday for dinner. We’ve hosted them before and they’ve always been good company and said they’d enjoyed the food.

We were texting earlier about something unrelated - she clearly had another conversation on the go as she sent a reply which was of no relevance to our conversation.

Her message said:
I can’t do Saturday I am afraid. At (my name)’s for dinner again. That reminds me to stock up on the Pepto for the next morning 😂

Would it be wrong of me to rescind the invite? We go to a lot of effort to host them and feel this is frankly insulting.

Just send it back saying I don't think that was for me. See what she says.

She wouldn't come if it made her ill though, would she?!

Id still host her if she is a good friend otherwise, and maybe hand her the pepco on their way out

I would have read this as she’ll be enjoying a large quantity of food and drink ie you are generous hosts. It can be used against nausea, right, does she not just mean you tend to have a boozy evening?

Isn't it

Nausea
Heartburn
Indigestion
Upset Stomach

Diarrhoeaaa-aaaaa 🎶

I'll get my coat.

PPs are right that it could possibly be WLI related.

When I started, I couldn't handle a full meal at dinner time and if I did, would get awful reflux throughout the night. So the friend's text is something I could see myself sending to another friend who was on the WLI 'journey' with me.

But I'm intrigued to find out what's really happened here.

I'm sorry OP but (going against what many others have said here), I think she is being rude. It's the wider context of her message: "...again. That reminds me..."
It sounds like she has talked about your food in this way before to whoever the person is who the text was meant for.

The friend is referring to Pepto Bismol I think that’s for indigestion or stomach upsets.

OP I’d personally take a message like that as someone who got a stomach upset from my cooking and yes I’d rescind the invite. It would make me wonder what other things she was “joking” about with her other friends about me. Whatever her reason for sending that to her other friend it’s rude. I wouldn’t be meeting with her again either, I don’t need nor want frenemies like that.

It depends on how you are as a friend as to how you feel. I have friends where this would be just funny and we would laugh about it. If I was offended then that would make me feel uneasy about the friendship .

highly likely to be a misunderstanding if this person is your friend, it may be in reference to a prior message.

you know you are an excellent cook, your friend accepted your invite, have a bit of confidence, don't be thin skinned.

not a big deal

You say that like it's a bad thing. 😂

I think the world would be a better place if there were more passive aggressives and fewer aggressive aggressives.

She has sent a long reply and said that both her and her Husband had extremely upset stomach’s last time but she felt too polite to mention and to decline the invite. She says she thinks some of the ingredients I used were from places they wouldn’t usually shop and so didn’t agree with her. She has suggested they come round but only for drinks and said they are happy to bring some crisps/olives with them.

I just say I do feel offended. I’m sorry to hear she was ill but 1. We were fine and 2. I wish she told me at the time. We might not shop at Waitrose like she does, but we put a lot of effort in and it does feel sad to know that’s how she feels.

Why would she accept the invitation if she’s had a bad experience with the food?
I think she’s just saying it to pacify a friend who she can’t make arrangements to see because she’s already made plans and is going to have a big meal.
This really wouldn’t offend me at all and if you’re going to retract the invitation then that’s making a very strong statement that the acquaintance is over. Maybe she didn’t love your cooking last time but still really wants to spend the evening with you? If she didn’t enjoy your company she’d be declining the invite.
If i received this from one of my friends I would probably reply ‘?? Cheeky bitch 🤣🤣 is my cooking that bad? We can always order takeaway 😬’

Sorry OP - I must have posted while you were typing

Hmm I disagree. I think more straight talking would be better. Then everyone would know where they stood.

The "again" makes me think that she's previously discussed your dinners with this person.

If I were being generous I might think that she was trying to express regret that she can't make the alternative invitation by implying she's going to get indigestion afterwards. But I definitely think there's an unkind implication and I'd be pretty hurt. I probably wouldn't uninvite but would distance myself afterwards.

She was really rude, but what did you serve last time, was it really rich?

Wow! Is she for really!

That’s awful OP ,think you should just not bother with any hospitality!

Places she wouldnt usually shop....does she mean cheaper places and she's a Waitrose home grown organic snob?!

I’d be inclined to reply saying, thankyou for your message, on reflection probably best we leave it.

Not particularly rich, no. It was a pasta dish, we also did a starter and desert. DH and I have had it on multiple occasions and also made it for others who haven’t ever complained.

This ☝️

Cross-posted with your update. That's worse, how incredibly rude.

I think this makes it worse- she’s basically saying your cooking is so bad she won’t risk it! I’d tell her to fuck right off tbh.

This, with bells on.