To un-invite friend from dinner after she sent me message by mistake

[Dinnertext]

I’m a long time lurker but have pulled on my big girl pants for my first ever post in AIBU!

We are hosting my friend and her husband on Saturday for dinner. We’ve hosted them before and they’ve always been good company and said they’d enjoyed the food.

We were texting earlier about something unrelated - she clearly had another conversation on the go as she sent a reply which was of no relevance to our conversation.

Her message said:
I can’t do Saturday I am afraid. At (my name)’s for dinner again. That reminds me to stock up on the Pepto for the next morning 😂

Would it be wrong of me to rescind the invite? We go to a lot of effort to host them and feel this is frankly insulting.

Does she eat lots at your house? I also think she’s suggesting she’ll overindulge herself because your food is nice! Unless you suspect she’s two faced?

Definitely in invite/ easy

^ this is what I would do, too. She must be mortified. Let it go, OP.

That’s pretty rude. The ? was a good response!

Secretly on the Mounjaro, and not told you..

Great response. She's cacking it now.

Oooh keep us updated OP, I wouldn’t read too much into it, could be laughing at herself that if she eats anything but a salad she gets heartburn

I would have left the messaging and put a bow on a bottle of pepto and given it to her at dinner so we could have a laugh about it.

If she really didn't like your food she would be doing anything to get out of dinner, so I think you're misreading it.

Yes that’s what I thought it meant as well. That your hospitality was so good, so much to eat and drink.

That could mean anything. Maybe she is secretly on weight loss injections and the person she was messaging knows. Maybe she has told them you make amazing food she can’t resist previously. Maybe she has terrible indigestion in general. Maybe she can’t tolerate garlic snd you use loads but she doesn’t want to say anything ..,

I read “Pepto” originally as simply over indulging, not as her being rude. But re-reading it I think coupled with “at dinner again” makes it sound like a dig.

I'm not sure what's offensive about the fact she gets heartburn

I’d follow up with ‘assume would be best if we cancelled Saturday, in case Boots has run out of Pepto.’

Oh dear! I expect she’s feeling that horrible clamminess of pure mortification. I’d let her off the hook by making a joke of it but also ask if there’s anything she’s struggling with on your table.

I would have read it as @Dinnertext is not a good cook therefore an indigestion remedy is required 😞

I personally would rescind, how on earth can she come back from that?

What came to my mind! Still poorly worded as your efforts haven’t been recognised , even if she would be repeating it. Can never thank someone enough!

This is quite a reasonable excuse actually. My friend gets terrible indigestion on it.

I don't know what pepto does so wouldn't know what that means

This was fair. Anything else would have given her a way out!

What does she give you to eat? Is it similar to your food?

@Franpie yes, lucky MJ doesn't effect me badly but I know lots of other people on it and they need Pepto after eating more food than they should or rich food etc.. and some of my friends have only told me and no one else etc.. so they have asked only me for advice..

Based on the OP's friends' behaviour when actually eating at her house, it's just an indigestion remark. After all, they keep coming back.

I think you've misunderstood this, @Dinnertext. Don't pull the invite.

Did she ever reply? If she doesn’t then cancel

Some people get indigestion from different foods...dh does from chocolate/tomatoes. I have different triggers. We'd stock up too if we were going to be eating those foods.

What do you typically make?

Don’t overthink it. Think she just means she’ll over indulge. Send it back anyway with a breezy ‘was this meant for me’?