To call off girl’s holiday on the day?

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I’m due to go on a girl’s holiday for a week with a friend, an all inclusive to Cape Verde.

This friend had warned me that she’s somewhat of an anxious traveller, but that it would be fine.

Our flight is at 4:45pm. Our airline has said be there a maximum of three hours early.

The airport is half an hour from my house and my job is 15 minutes in the other direction from my job.

I am working until 12, so that I only needed to take a half day of leave.

She has been texting me since 6am asking if I’m sure I want to work today, and asking if we should leave for the airport at 10! I can’t deal with this today, I have a lot to do before I finish at work and don’t see the need for it. I’ve never traveled with her before and to be honest if I’d known she was like this I’d not have booked it. AIBU to just not go?

It might just be flying that makes her like this. Tell her if she wants to go you'll see her at the airport. You're going to have to practice being independent from each other by the seem of it.

You cannot cancel now don’t overreact.

Travelling is the most stressful part of going away. It's likely that she'll calm down once her bum is in her seat on the plane. YWBVU to cancel on the day!

Tell her you’re leaving at 1pm, but she can get to the airport earlier if she wants to.

Yes Yabu. Just be firm and tell her you leaving even earlier is not an option. She warned you she’s an anxious traveller, hopefully she’ll be fine once you’re there and have an amazing holiday. I don’t think a friend getting into a bit of a panic over airport times is a reason to let her down on the day. Are there other reasons you don’t want to go?

You can’t cancel this late in the day. Tell her if she wants to leave at 10 that’s fine and you’ll meet her at the airport at the original time.

I think the issue is she’s never travelled alone. I go away alone 6-8 times a year so I’m used to it! I just can’t put up with the hysteria for no reason. If I had my way we’d not be at the airport till 2.

Personally I wouldn't want to miss out on a holiday and hopefully the anxiety is just on tbe way out and back and won't affect you during. I'd reply to say your working this morning so won't be able to respond to calls but you'll see her at the airport and will be there at x time. Then turn off your phone.

Send her a text saying you're in meetings and can't reply till X time, you'll meet her where you've agreed at X time.

You can suck it up for a few hours through the journey, you're just feeling stressed right now. Cancelling would cut off your nose to spite your face.

How much money would you lose by just not going?

Maybe start by telling her that she is making you reconsider whether you want to go or not and if this is how the week is going to be, it's not going to be much fun. She can go to the airport as early as she wants but you'll be going after you finish work.

Just meet her at the airport if she needs to go earlier. Of course you can’t cancel, you sound snore dramatic than her

You don't really want to go do you.

You would be very, very unreasonable.
I'm an anxious traveller and when I go on a girls trip, I just make my way to the airport on my own. My friends don't mind and it means I know I'm doing what I need to do to calm down.

Don't be silly just ignore her say you will speak to her later, and go on your holiday, she is spiralling don't give her fuel she knows the arrangements she will just have to stick to them.

At this point I’d genuinely rather lose the £800 on the holiday than have to put up with hysterical panic. We’re both adults ffs, it’s an airport! It’s nothing to be scared of

I’m an absolute tit before getting on a flight- but great fun once there. Just roll with it- she’ll be ok. My best friend is just firm with me. I thank her for it when we’ve touched down and we laugh.

Best thing to do is send her a message saying you’ll meet her at whatever time and you are switching off your phone until you finish work at 12, that you’ve a very busy morning ahead.

Just mute her while you are at work.
You can, of course, pull out if you want to. It’s your choice and there’s nobody stopping you, but it’s an extremely shitty thing to do to someone.
I feel really bad for your friend.

That's really unfair. Travel anxiety is a real thing. Please don't dismiss it just because you're ok with it.

Unless you didn't want to go in the first place this seems like an insane overreaction

I don’t think it’s unfair. She’s a fully grown adult and wants to get to the airport nearly 6 hours early.

you sound like a horrible friend… 😳

Goodness don't cancel because she's an anxious flyer.

Ask her if she wants to meet you when you finish work at 12pm so you can grab your stuff and go to tge airport together at that time.

Alternatively say you can meet her at the airport if she's happier getting there earlier.

I'm a bit of a leave lots of extra time in case of emergencies person so I do have some sympathy for her - but 10am is pushing it a bit.

Have a lovely holiday. I'm sure she'll be fine when the flight is done.

She better be. But knowing my luck the hysteria about the flight home will start within a few days