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AIBU?

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To call off girl’s holiday on the day?

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whereismyhisband · Yesterday 08:38

I’m due to go on a girl’s holiday for a week with a friend, an all inclusive to Cape Verde.

This friend had warned me that she’s somewhat of an anxious traveller, but that it would be fine.

Our flight is at 4:45pm. Our airline has said be there a maximum of three hours early.

The airport is half an hour from my house and my job is 15 minutes in the other direction from my job.

I am working until 12, so that I only needed to take a half day of leave.

She has been texting me since 6am asking if I’m sure I want to work today, and asking if we should leave for the airport at 10! I can’t deal with this today, I have a lot to do before I finish at work and don’t see the need for it. I’ve never traveled with her before and to be honest if I’d known she was like this I’d not have booked it. AIBU to just not go?

OP posts:
saraclara · Today 17:38

I'm a frequent and experienced solo traveller, and I always get to the airport very early. But over the years, on the way to the airport, I've been stuck on the M25 not moving for an hour, and had trains cancelled/a suicide on the line. So I build in plenty of contingency, because I'd rather hang out at the airport pub with a book, then have that kind of stress again.

My occasional travel buddy is the opposite. A minute longer at the airport/station than is necessary is wasted time to him. Yet he gets away with it!
So if we travel together, I get to the airport when I want to. I no longer nag him*, I just wait for him to get there, and we have an agreement that if he misses the flight, I go without him.

*By nag, I mean a couple of texts, not 100!

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · Today 18:24

OneSparklyGoat · Today 14:59

I can’t fathom purposely getting to the airport more than 3 hours early under any circumstances when I can avoid it.

But that isn’t the point, the point is that texting someone 100 times is unfair and bound to induce stress and anxiety for them.

OP did something wise - she used sharing her feelings on this forum as an outlet rather than putting it back on her friend. She could have wigged out in response and made the situation infinitely worse.

I hope the difficult part is behind them both and they are having a good time.

Edited

I can understand getting to the airport (or the station) early, @OneSparklyGoat - because I do get anxious about missing my plane or train, or having to rush through the airport or station. But I wouldn't dream of making everyone else bend around my worries - I do ask if we can get to the station or airport a bit earlier than dh would prefer, but we compromise, and I don’t make a massive fuss.

OneSparklyGoat · Today 18:40

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius We are in agreement.

Kidsandhouse · Today 21:46

I wonder how they're getting on!

I live quite close to the airport and like to go early for the lounge!!!!

Or. Wing it... I could walk there in about an hour if it came to it...

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · Today 21:57

@OneSparklyGoat - great minds!

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