To ask about totally inappropriate behaviour at wedding?

[Notallthatx]

Was at a seemingly lovely wedding at the weekend. Beautiful setting and lovely ceremony.

One of my friends was chief bridesmaid and she had put so much effort into making the day perfect for the happy couple. But she started to drink a lot after the ceremony and by the end of dinner she was very tipsy and all over the singer from the wedding band. They had been playing some acoustic songs throughout the day and she kept making requests. It was obvious she fancied him.

Later on, one of the other guys from the band was lovely and asked if I had seen their singer because they were setting up for their evening set. I mentioned that my friend was also missing so went to look for them together. We joked that maybe they had eloped or something.

But nothing prepared me for what I was about to witness. Behind the outdoor toilets, my friend was down on her knees giving the singer from the band oral. I was mortified and the other guy from the band told me his friend had done this a few times. We are not even sure if they seen us and I’ve been too embarrassed to bring it up with my friend.

On the up side, the other guy from the band was really sweet and we danced a bit later that night and swapped numbers.

What is the craziest thing you’ve ever witnessed at a wedding?

I'm sure my nursing friend didn't "relish" any her experiences at the GUM clinic.

She'd much rather sit in the office and drink tea instead of having to explain to young women the medical consequences of the infection they'd picked up and what treatment they needed.

I’m not talking about your friend.

Okay that's actually an interesting. That's a big part of Indian society I hate

Do you not understand everyone Is different? I don’t do anything now but back in the day there was more fun in a quick fuck than any amount of sex in a relationship.

Genuine question - Why do you find it so difficult to understand that sex and emotion can be completely separate for women as well as men? Just because you don’t feel like that, you invalidate anyone who does. Where does that stem from?

You crack on with judging if it makes you feel better about yourself though.

You’re judging her.

Yes. I mean, Mrs Patrick Campbell described marriage as ‘the deep peace of the double bed’ after the ‘hurly-burly of the chaise langue’, and she was born in 1865!

Because she is judging me. If she doesn’t want to do it, great. It’s been many years since I have done it.

But looking down on people for separating sex and relationships is an attitude that belongs in the 1940s

No it doesn’t. You have to realise that people are all different. What you see as a “fun time at a wedding”, other people will see as a dreadful way to behave at a wedding.

I don’t know who it was on here now ( might have been you but can’t remember) that said that pregnancy is “easily sorted”
or words to that effect.

I, personally, think that’s an appalling attitude to abortion, especially as you see women on here every day whose hearts are broken trying to conceive.

Yes, people can separate sex and relationships.

But when you randomly shag strangers it comes at a cost. A physical one at least.

If sex was just one of those fun things to do with anyone you happen to meet, then you would never get pregnant or get an std from doing it.

That’s reality.

Do what you like and judge people who don’t do that.

But don’t act all hurt when people judge you.

And btw, it isn’t gendered. Any man who shags about is as bad as a woman who does imo.

But the people on here who have been judged the worst are the people who think giving a blow job to a random guy behind a toilet is degrading for both the giver and receiver.

Don’t give it out if you can’t take it back.

Jesus, your language is appalling. You have zero respect for yourself never mind others.

At a wedding on a ship one of the bride’s friends was caught shagging a waiter in the toilets, when caught she said “just a minute not finished!”.
Afterwards she came back to the table adjusting her dress and carried on drinking. No sign of the waiter.

Did you get the bands details? Asking for a friend….

Respectfully - what’s this got to do with the price of fish?

I am going on a date with the bass player this Friday so yes, I got their details! They are a really cool band.

You want to have hookup sex.... Can't you wait till you are in a bedroom/more private area. Do you not have enough control of your base emotions that you need to fuck in a toilet? Did your parents like not raise you with any decency at all?

My MIL offered to watch our 2 year old at our wedding, she didn’t check if he wanted the toilet and he pooed himself, she didn’t clean him up properly and left him covered in poo, my BIL took him home to change him and clean him up and gave him back then he wet himself (I guess all the people and party was too much for him or he couldn’t get MIL attention) so she stripped him down and put him in his push chair and put a blanket over him
while all the other kids were playing! My friend saw and suggested taking him home! I got married in November he must of been freezing on the walk home

obviously I didn’t find any of this out till after otherwise I would of just took over looking after him myself

Not RTFT but I’d be tempted to check in on my friend - she was drunk; he was sober; he has done this before - how capable was your friend of giving consent?

I bet he wasn’t even a member!!

She definitely was very tipsy but the singer had definitely had a few too. But she knew what she was doing and I spoke with her later that night and she was fine. She was certainly up dancing to the band and with the singer for the disco bit.

So not a consent issue thankfully.

Meh. They’re still doing it. They’re just more sneaky.

I don’t consider that “pulling” someone because that implies they’re interested in the woman.

From absolutely all the accounts I’ve heard of similar events it’s a woman being used by a guy who will not reciprocate but will tell his band/mates/family/whoever will listen to stories of a woman being debased

I never did !

Exactly…check the car park

I mean I agree it’s a bit minging, but 😂 at ‘unprofessional’. It’s practically part of the job description of gigging musicians to do this sort of thing isn’t it?!

Though that’s not fair to most mammals as they tend to stick with their partner and don’t just randomly shag strangers.

LOL. Makes me think of Bonobos. They're at it all the time with everyone.