To ask about totally inappropriate behaviour at wedding?

[Notallthatx]

Was at a seemingly lovely wedding at the weekend. Beautiful setting and lovely ceremony.

One of my friends was chief bridesmaid and she had put so much effort into making the day perfect for the happy couple. But she started to drink a lot after the ceremony and by the end of dinner she was very tipsy and all over the singer from the wedding band. They had been playing some acoustic songs throughout the day and she kept making requests. It was obvious she fancied him.

Later on, one of the other guys from the band was lovely and asked if I had seen their singer because they were setting up for their evening set. I mentioned that my friend was also missing so went to look for them together. We joked that maybe they had eloped or something.

But nothing prepared me for what I was about to witness. Behind the outdoor toilets, my friend was down on her knees giving the singer from the band oral. I was mortified and the other guy from the band told me his friend had done this a few times. We are not even sure if they seen us and I’ve been too embarrassed to bring it up with my friend.

On the up side, the other guy from the band was really sweet and we danced a bit later that night and swapped numbers.

What is the craziest thing you’ve ever witnessed at a wedding?

Are you going to tell your friend and her singing friend that you've made them "famous on Mumsnet" on the double date?

She might find that hard to swallow...

What a weirdly misogynistic take on an adult woman's decision to engage in a consensual sex act with a man she finds attractive.

Women are allowed to enjoy things that you don't enjoy. It doesn't mean they lack self-worth or dignity and it doesn't mean they're only doing it to 'service' a man. Women are sexual beings. You also have no idea whether the man in question had 'serviced' her as well. Women who enjoy sex for its own sake aren't lacking in self-worth - they just don't tie their self-worth to some sort of weird patriarchal notion of purity and they don't hate themselves (or other women) for their own sexual feelings.

All the stuff on this thread about men being smelly is just completely fucking weird and childish. It's like five-year-olds saying 'Eww, no smelly boys allowed!' because they don't want boys at their Barbie-themed birthday party. So strange for adult women to be talking like that.

What's that got to do with my conversation with a completely different poster?

Well to me what is strange is women setting such low bars for themselves. Taking a complete strangers unwashed willie into your mouth isn't an act of self worth.

I'm 62 but I have no idea what relevance our ages have?

Read your own post. You said it was 'young people' who have a low bar. You therefore implied that age was relevant.

I agree it's not AS bad

Why did you sneer at someone else for saying that, then?

To both the bride and groom and herself.

There's no disrespect to the bride and groom because they weren't aware of it.

There's no disrespect to herself because doing something harmless that you enjoy isn't disrespecting yourself. She respects her own sexual desires and her own agency as an adult woman with sexual feelings. Nothing about that suggests a lack of self-worth or self-respect. Quite the opposite, actually.

I'm sure you'll figure it out. Also, this is a chat forum therefore collective. You're not having a one-on-one with Parkinson.

Absolutely.

Why do you assume it was 'unwashed'? Why is a stranger's cock - I'm not using the word 'willy' because I'm not six - any less hygienic than the cock of a man you're married to? He was a man she was sexually attracted to. They were having a mutually enjoyable, consensual sexual encounter. She wasn't blowing a crack dealer for a fix.

I’m not sure that a thread on MN counts as fame especially as zero names or personal details given.

And nice try with the double entendre 😂

Perhaps that kind of poster insists on a full-body disinfectant bath ahead of intimate encounters?

This. Not your cock, not you sucking. Not your business.

Absolutely this!

I find it so, so weird that anyone would begrudge a couple of single people a harmless little drunken encounter at a wedding. It's a party and people let their hair (and trousers) down. If I was getting married and I found out afterwards that one of my bridesmaids had sneaked off for a quickie with someone from the band, I'd consider that a sign of a proper celebration. Much like everyone having hangovers in the morning. And ideally one of the guests and their partner/spouse very unexpectedly welcoming a new arrival nine months to the day after the date of the wedding.

Whatever.

Haha, yes. And changes the sheets afterwards.

I actually thought you were nice. Turns out you’re not!

@Ballotine Weddings are traditionally a hotbed of drunken debauchery.

Says who?

You must have the bar set so low it is practically subterranean.

No-one got drunk at either of my weddings or engaged in any 'debauchery'.

Moreover, I've never seen any inappropriate behaviour (or drunkeness) at any of the dozens of weddings I have attended.

We obviously move in different circles 🙄

Doesn't everyone change the sheets afterwards if condoms aren't used or there's no mattress protector?

That's not being fussy it's just being hygienic.

I think you move in the same ones as me where giving blow jobs to complete strangers isn’t normal behaviour.

I sometimes wonder how we’ve got to the “ bonnie blues” of this world and then read threads like this.

They’re just being bullies.

@BauhausOfEliott She respects her own sexual desires and her own agency as an adult woman with sexual feelings. Nothing about that suggests a lack of self-worth or self-respect.

Not if she chooses to fornicate with strangers and doesn't have regular STD tests. That's being sexually irresponsible.

Penis "Cough" Beaker "Cough"...🐳

Never mind, dear. Some day maybe you too will attend a wedding that involves drunken debauchery and realise that it doesn't open a gaping portal to hell or anything.

I don’t think the poster you’re condescending to has such low morals that she would shag a complete stranger at a day when you’re supposed to be celebrating two people who have committed to each other for life.

Most people aren’t that self hating that they have to make a day about commitment as a day where they look for a stranger to have sex with. I’m sorry you do “dear”.

Maybe it would open a portal to the local GUM clinic ?