To ask about totally inappropriate behaviour at wedding?

[Notallthatx]

Was at a seemingly lovely wedding at the weekend. Beautiful setting and lovely ceremony.

One of my friends was chief bridesmaid and she had put so much effort into making the day perfect for the happy couple. But she started to drink a lot after the ceremony and by the end of dinner she was very tipsy and all over the singer from the wedding band. They had been playing some acoustic songs throughout the day and she kept making requests. It was obvious she fancied him.

Later on, one of the other guys from the band was lovely and asked if I had seen their singer because they were setting up for their evening set. I mentioned that my friend was also missing so went to look for them together. We joked that maybe they had eloped or something.

But nothing prepared me for what I was about to witness. Behind the outdoor toilets, my friend was down on her knees giving the singer from the band oral. I was mortified and the other guy from the band told me his friend had done this a few times. We are not even sure if they seen us and I’ve been too embarrassed to bring it up with my friend.

On the up side, the other guy from the band was really sweet and we danced a bit later that night and swapped numbers.

What is the craziest thing you’ve ever witnessed at a wedding?

In the farthest thing from being a prude but I’d be shocked and actually disgusted that someone would do that in public where children could have come across them.

do what you want in the privacy of your room, but absolutely not in public at a family’ event.

i can’t believe all of these people who seem to be ok with it.

You actually sound like a six year old saying “ cock” for a dare.

It’s an enjoyable sexual encounter apparently. At a wedding. At the back of the toilets. Like two dogs rutting.

You know it’s okay to enjoy a spontaneous fuck with a randomer, just for fun? It’s not your thing and that’s fine. They weren’t doing it in front of children FFS.

So by your own admission, you thought they were up to something because they were flirting beforehand. You were clearly expecting to see something by going to look for them in the toilets. So why was it a shock?

And demonstrates high levels of self esteem and confidence, don’t forget.
The usual suspects falling over themselves to be the cool girls 😆

At a wedding?

Plus no, I don’t think it’s ok. If it was a natural healthy thing to do people wouldn’t get STDs, unwanted pregnancies or worse.

It’s a thing people with no self esteem do.

They’re embarrassing. Male or female.

My friend got it on at a wedding with the groom's cousin; I heard them in the toilets when I went to the loo. Got out of there as quickly as I could when I realised it was my friend moaning and groaning in the next cubicle 😬

Happy ending to the story; they are now married themselves with two kids! I guess they'll tell their kids a more PG version of "how did you meet mummy and daddy?" 🤣

Also (and this will blow your mind), you can get pregnant or
an STD from people you have been dating for years.

Nobody has to do it but some choose to. And why is the fact it’s a wedding so shocking?

If you think it takes no self esteem then fine. But that’s the lazy reply from people who, instead of just thinking ‘not my thing but ok’ need to put down others for their choices - it makes you look a little insecure.

Yes. I’m really insecure. So insecure that I have never gave a random guy a blow job behind a toilet at a wedding where I was the bridesmaid.

Maybe I should ask my GP for counselling so that I think behaving like a rabbit is normal.

And btw, you can only get an STD from someone you’ve been dating for years if they are shagging about behind your back. Which would explain why you’ve only been “dating” them for years. You’re a shag buddy.

Don’t be ridiculous. A quick fuck is neither normal nor abnormal, it’s just a matter of choice

Ah I get it. So you have to marry within a set time? Or you are just a fuck buddy? 🤣

Why do people like you judge different choices? Nobody cares that you don’t want to do it - why would they? You live your life how you like. But yet you all get very upset at the idea that there are men and women out there who just want to fuck for the sake of it.

You mentioned pregnancy. I agree that’s the worst outcome of a ONS but easily dealt with. But unwanted pregnancy isn’t exclusive to a one time fuck.

Only read up to here. OP, I think you have to read back through your posts and ask yourself, ‘if my friend saw this thread, would she feel humiliated and demeaned by what I’ve written, or would she be ok with it?’

If you genuinely think she’d be fine with you publicly spilling what she did at the wedding and inviting people to comment on it, and saying things akin to ‘she has her standards, I have mine’, then fine.

If you know deep down that she would be upset with what you’ve written, then you’re not a very good friend, really.

Many years ago after the wedding of one of my first friend's to get married, a number of us stayed in her house (not at the point when we could afford hotels, not long out of student hood). There were about 10 of us on settees, air mattresses, floor etc. Only 3 women - me with my partner (now DH) + my friend with her fiancé. The third woman was a work colleague of the bride. The rest were friends of the groom. In the night, I woke up needing the loo but could hear the sound of a couple ‘having a good time’. Definitely wasn’t me and my friend was next to me, so wasn’t her. Eventually noises stopped and I couldn’t wait any longer, so I tried to crept across room but I managed to trip, kicked something and trod on someone’s leg. Made a right din, so they knew I’d been awake. How embarrassing! We met up with bride following day for breakfast and I told her about it. She wasn’t surprised. Apparently the colleague has a bit of a reputation for this and done it a few times after student-type parties when everyone stayed over. She would just grab nearest man!!

I was ‘dating’ my husband for over a decade before we got married. How quaintly old-fashioned your thinking is 😂

It’s abnormal.

Easily dealt with? And btw, I’m giving back what I have taken by women who think NOT shagging about is abnormal.

Says a “laughing cat”.

I regret to say that all I remember about afterwards is a sensation of knicker sand and our joint relief we’d missed the speeches.

Gross

And then she said ‘ain’t’ after trying to pretend she was classy 🤦‍♀️

Err no.
It's two people who both have an itch they want scratching and aren't bothered who scratches it.🙄

Yes she could have waited till wedding was over /gone to room

I judge him more then her as he’s in a professional role being paid

but sounds like he does it a lot

did you tell you friend the bride