New DP overreacting?!!

[Nettlesal]

I grew up with two brothers and have had a few ex’s, all were not shy at all about breaking wind around me. New DP - together about 2 months. I decided I wasn’t going to keep holding it in for ever so let one go in bed last night. He shot up, said how disgusted he was and that women don’t do that and if I did it again he’d dump me?! Is it me or are men absolute hypocrites when it comes to this 😂

I’m sorry, partner?! After 2 months?! 😂

Well. Actually. There was a case in Eastern Europe - possibly Poland - where a man died after eating a lot of cabbage and sleeping in a small room with little airflow. He poisoned himself with his cabbagey farts.

Edited to say even though I read this story in a reliable source, Snopes says it’s not true. I don’t know but I hope it is.

I've been with DH 8 years and have 2 kids. We still don't fart in front of each other. How disgusting.

If ever I needed proof some people on here aren’t quite the full bag of shopping, it’s this thread.

At what point did the OP say she farted for comedy value?!? She was in bed and felt uncomfortable, so she farted? What’s wrong with that?! I suppose there are ppl here who’ve never farted in their lives are there ??

I bet they don’t poo either. Or belch?!

As for the DP saying it’s unladylike - it smells of posies when men fart does it?!?

The world really has gone mad!

he sounds like a total bell end. not nice celebrating ones guffs too much but not a big deal

There was also a theory that dinosaurs died out due to producing too much methane. Farted themselves into extinction basically.

He's not the one for you.

I "dutch ovened" my husband very early on in the relationship and it brought us closer together😂

We've enjoyed a loud farty 21 years since.

Who the hell wants to have to watch when and how they trump for fear of offending?!

I bet you have, albeit in your sleep.

You would think that this would be the fate of cows shut in a shed too. They’re famously farty

Exactly! It's a slippery slope. A man who is so precious about a natural bodily function like a fart or a burp is a red flag. He will be disgusted by other natural things too, like vomit, and poo, and period blood. I would throw this one back @Nettlesal

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Ive been with my dh 27 years . I don't make a big thing about farting and usually don't fart too much , but sometimes just before going to sleep or first thing in the morning it happens . I certainly don't go running to the toilet to silently do it it shame with the door closed , it's natural & normal but I also don't think it's funny and don't laugh about it. Dh is the same .

I know right. It's only on Mumsnet that I see this. It's batshit. In real life, people generally crack one off when they need to. And they're certainly not scared to do so in their own home, just in case their precious partner dumps them. Good grief! Anyone who decided to threatened to dump me - if I farted - could get tae fuck! 😬

I'm sure I read an almost identical thread not long ago. If not on MN then it was one of those random "who was in the wrong here" things that pop up on your FB feed. Same situation - woman used to having men farting around her, let one go herself and the partner was mortally offended.

Why?

Nope.
Human bodies are fine, we're a "happy to be naked" house. We're also a "it's wildly inconsiderate to subject other people to your unpleasantness" house.
Same way as we pee in the bathroom and not the kitchen sink. No-one ever died from that either, it's still gross and I don't want it in my life.

Does he do it around you like that? If yes, then he's a massive hypocrite to get upset with you, if no, you need to find someone who is more coarse and wouldn't find it an issue.

I suspect this wont be the only thing that will disgust him in time.

They assume it's a poster with a kink and not genuine?

That is disgusting. Who wants to smell that disgusting smell.
You are lucky he's given you a warning.
if I did it again he’d dump me?!
And didn't just dump you.

Completely agree.

In case its someone wanting people to post stories about them farting in bed with their boyfriends so they can wank over it

I suppose there are ppl here who’ve never farted in their lives are there ??
I bet they don’t poo either

I don't poo in front of other people either, if I can help it. You do? So you don't have to hold it in?

If you burp or fart voluntarily or intentionally in front of me, yes I'll be disgusted. It's extremely inconsiderate - your view is that your comfort trumps politeness and my disgust at being exposed to it.

If it's inadvertent, no big deal.

Similarly, I don't expect to be exposed to someone else's excrement except if they're extremely unwell, in which case it's not voluntary and not their fault.
As period leaks and vomiting are generally not intentional or voluntary.

It has nothing to do with the natural bodily function in itself, and everything to do with the lack of respect and consideration for other people inherent in just letting rip in front of them, unless it's been explicitly okayed.

At it's essence, this is about feeling completely comfortable with your OH. People do this in different ways

I don't fart out in public
In my own home, I do what I like.
Most of the time I am in the loo but sometimes I'm not. My DH does the same. It really isn't a big deal to us.
I think this is what most people do.

Others on this thread obviously feel differently, that's fine. It's interesting that so many class farting in front of your OH a deal breaker.

To do it intentionally in a closed space IS gross, although if you both do it and neither minds then let loose, I guess. Your boyfriend's saying that "women" don't do it rather than "people" shouldn't do it suggest that he personally is a misogynist, unless maybe he has limited English and is struggling with wording.

No-one would die if you came out of the loo straight after pooing and wiped your arse in public so you didn’t miss what was happening on the tv. Would you do that? If not, "chill the fuck out"!