New DP overreacting?!!

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I grew up with two brothers and have had a few ex’s, all were not shy at all about breaking wind around me. New DP - together about 2 months. I decided I wasn’t going to keep holding it in for ever so let one go in bed last night. He shot up, said how disgusted he was and that women don’t do that and if I did it again he’d dump me?! Is it me or are men absolute hypocrites when it comes to this 😂

Walking out of the room every time you need to will be more disruptive than just doing it

I think that breaking wind is something to do on the toilet, nowhere else. OP has a different view.

Just incompatible.

You've killed me with your deliberate farting 😂😂😂

Everyone farts. Even you.

He’s not a ‘DP’ after 2 months.

You are still in the very early stages of dating where you find stuff out about him.

You now know he has a red line on farting and is probably a bit sexist. If farting is your thing and you prefer your men not to be arseholes now is the time to escape.

if you can hold your farts and don’t mind a bit of casual sexism then you stay in the relationship that may build towards partnership

The stuff people post on here is just weird.

Or worse🤔

You aren't compatible. It's fine he has that deal breaker, as long as he applies the same standard to himself. I wouldn't like it and would avoid doing it, but that's how I was brought up. The men around me didn't do it and unlike a lot of men on here, managed to not piss all over the toilet. If posters are to be believed about the jobs they do, they are controlling themselves at work.

I don’t think they’re hypocrites.

if a man I was with did that it would be an immense turn off.
it’s not funny or sexy or attractive.
yes we all do it accidentally at times its a normal bodily function but to think it’s ok to ‘let one go’ and think nothing of it is totally yuk. You might have put him off forever.

I've always farted in front of my husband but then I'm weird. If your partner ever farts in front of you dump his ass for being a hypocrite

Just to add my stepdad does disgusting rancid farts all the time because "he can't help it"
Luckily I no longer see him

If you need to leave the room for this reason often enough to attract curiosity then you have digestive issues or a poor diet, or both.

Two separate issues
First is that deliberately farting in bed is disgusting, and it's disrespectful to your partner whether you're male or female.
Second is that he thinks women don't fart, that's a problem. But if he's not been farting in bed with you, it was probably a shock that you thought that was ok.

This.

I don't fart in front of people, mostly because I have a high fibre vegan diet and they smell, so I don't want to subject anyone to that. Because I'm considerate, respectful and not a dick.

There's a distinct fodder gathering posting style though.

I understand why he was disgusted. But his idea that women shouldn't do this is not becoming to him.

He doesn't sound that into you if he's prepared to make threats like that.

It can come across as very disrespectful. And unpleasant for the people around you. I wouldn't appreciate someone doing this deliberately.

This has had me crying with laughter this morning, thanks everyone. If my DH or I had to leave the room every time we’d be in and out like yo-yos and it would take twice as long to watch a film - the side effects of a high fibre diet obviously! P.S. we have a combined age of 121 and still find it hilarious….

What an odd sense of humour.

Well…

Obviously men and women shouldn’t be held to different standards. And everyone accidentally farts “outloud from time to time” - the correct the to do is apologise if you do.

Deliberately farting in front of others is disgusting though, and disrespectful to the other person. It’s very easy to leave the room if you know you want to fart. And “forcing” out a fart is extra disgusting.

I voted YANBU due to the double standards but of course everyone should have some standards here.

I wouldn’t stand for the ultimatum though- “I’ll dump you if…” For that he’d be shown the door tbh

Farts are funny, sorry

😂😂

Oh yes. Trying not to think about what you would use the replies for!

My DH and DC’s are champion farters! It honestly doesn’t bother me and I think it’s really odd that people feel the need to go to the loo do do it in their own home.
I am a very civilised woman in a professional job and have equally civilised friends. We’re in our 50s and are at the point where we are fully accepting of farting as a natural bodily function and if we have to do it when we’re together, then we do. Obviously this is only with a select few close friends but I do appreciate that I have some where we are so comfy with each other that letting off a little puft is fine!

I don't know if I am weirdo. I don't fart deliberately in the company of other people indoors, not even my parents wife or children. However I do not also go to the toilet to fart. I just do it where it won't disturb someone else - if there is no one around, or in a different part of the house or outside etc. I have never found this onerous or a major inconvenience, with the possible exception of on an aeroplane where the pressure difference does things. I think people who openly and proudly fart in front of other people indoors are uncouth cunts. Irrelevant whether it is a man or woman.

What an odd non sense of humour

Well, it is a natural bodily function and surprisingly enough women have these as well as men! We all make loads of gas every day as a by product of our digestive system and it has to go somewhere so the notion that anyone does or doesn't fart or burp is absolutely ridiculous. It can also be harmful to 'hold it in'. I get that it's not great to be in close proximity to someone who's doing it but we are all guilty at sometime or other. If he genuinely thinks that women don't do it then he must be a bit intellectually challenged - does he think we have different digestive systems? My husband has held my hand and cleaned up after me while in the throes of illness in Africa when my poor body was evacuating everything it could and I was losing consciousness. I would say that's the kind of guy who's a keeper - not someone who needs smelling salts because you farted.