New DP overreacting?!!

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I grew up with two brothers and have had a few ex’s, all were not shy at all about breaking wind around me. New DP - together about 2 months. I decided I wasn’t going to keep holding it in for ever so let one go in bed last night. He shot up, said how disgusted he was and that women don’t do that and if I did it again he’d dump me?! Is it me or are men absolute hypocrites when it comes to this 😂

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Well you seem to have scared everyone off 😂

Deliberate farting by other people is revolting no matter who does it. I think you have a weird family to be honest, it's not normal for men to do this.

Its a normal thing to do but there is a time and a place, i live alone so have no cares.
However i would never lift my leg and let one rip in front of anyone.

My mother was like it, (and many others in the family) it was shamfull and disgusting, no matter where she was or who was there she would let it go and think it was funny.

It dont mattter if you have brothers or not op have some respect for yourself.

True the men i know are decent we all do it, but not on purpose.
I expect it from babies and little children they cant help it, but a grown adult can go else where to do it.

JFC no! We all do it but deliberately doing it in front of other people is bloody horrible! Like why would you want to make someone else breathe in your anal gas. Gross.

That is disgusting behaviour. It's one thing if it's an accident but to do it on purpose shows real lack of respect for the other person.

Previous men you've known have been gross.

I don't think it's hypocrisy - he's a different adult to the others - his (& my) standard is the same for both.
No adult should intentionally fart in front of others. Occasional inadvertent ones happen to everyone.

I would break up with a partner who thought that intentional farting was acceptable as well.
In 3-10yr+ relationships, neither of us have ever done this.

If you did it on purpose it's pretty gross in bed.

I genuinely don’t understand the absolute pearl clutching about farting.

Would I do it at work? No. But I’m not going to sit at home uncomfortable with wind.

Just go to the bathroom

Does he fart around you? He is only a hypocrite if he does. If he doesnt fart around you and has asked you not to fart around him that seems fairly reasonable- presumably you have a bathroom you can go to as you would if you were at work/in a public place?

All the posters saying how disgusting this is are the probably the same ones that think being naked is shameful. Chill the fuck out guys, no one has ever died as a result of being in the proximity of someone farting, although from these responses you'd think it happened every time.

It's pretty gross TBH.

But "women don't do that"? 🤨 Where does he think all the gas goes, do we hold it in until we are like balloons?

Just take it to the loo next time OP.

Accidental farting can be very funny. Deliberate farting is disgusting.

There is no right or wrong here.

You agree between you what is acceptable. Now if he's trying to hold you to different standards than himself, that's another issue.

Well now you know he isn't one to go with whatever way the wind blows.

If you want to be free to fart as and when you have one in the pipe in your own home, then he is not the man for you. At least you didn't trap his head under the duvet.

This. It’s gross and you should do it in private

Farting should only take place in the toilets, no matter whether male, female or whatever other sex is now available.

No, that’s vile. Sometimes farting near people is unavoidable and shouldn’t be a big deal. Deliberately choosing to fart near other people when you could go somewhere else is gross.

The only unreasonable thing from his is the “women don’t do that” comment. Potentially he has some sexist views. But he’s still not wrong to object to farting around people, as long as he doesn’t do it himself.

I’m genuinely intrigued. Do you sit at home and every time you feel the need to fart, get up and leave the room? Surely that’s disruptive and just drawing more attention to it?

You should go to the bathroom. I suspect that he will be put off you now.

My DH thinks this. But according to the nhs, people fart on average 20 times per day and for some people it is a lot more. I can’t believe everyone goes to the bathroom every time.

farting is like sneezing. Your body does it sometimes and you apologise and try not to sneeze on food. But there is no point getting angry with someone for an accidental sneeze or an accidental fart.

Yeah, 'cos farting is sooo funny 🙄
Everyone does it, they have to but why the performance, laughing and joking about it? People like that sound about 10. [no desrespect to 10 year olds].
Bathroom or just fart discreetly if possible, no need to draw attention to it.

Dump him. That's no way to live. Him judging you so harshly for a natural human function is so out of order.

How would he cope if you became really ill? Would he treat a girl differently to a boy if he had children? He is sexist, judgemental and has no compassion.