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Decoy Wedding?!

413 replies

McSteamyorMcdreamy · 03/07/2026 19:32

Apologies I haven't gone through any individual topic to see if there are threads.

But with all the shit in the world going on, and true escapism is anyone else thoroughly excited about the "potential" TS/TK nuptials?

I find I'm far too invested! Pathetic to be so interested? Very possibly but I don't care!

Again apologies if there's already something going... If there is can someone share!

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PanickingOnASunday · 04/07/2026 07:49

VerifiedAccount · 04/07/2026 07:38

I just think she is a young, insanely successful women who gets so much shit thrown at her which seems unfair given that I've never seen anyone who has dealt with her say anything nasty.

Of course, she could be firing all sorts of NDAs and legal threats around behind the scenes to hide how horrible she is. Unless we know her personally, we haven't got a clue.

But there is a huge amount of misogyny and jealously that follows her around. She's called it out in quite a few songs.

I wouldn't say I'm a Swifty but I like quite a few of her songs and will sing along when I hear them.

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Yep. The desperation to have a go at her or do the painful 'never heard of her' is embarrassing.

firstofallimadelight · 04/07/2026 07:56

VerifiedAccount · 04/07/2026 06:55

She'd be like Leo in St Tropez! 🤣

Exactly 🤣

Coolclouds · 04/07/2026 08:03

I was also confused to why there in such a central location. Celebration weddings are often hidden away somewhere. I’m presuming this is the party and they are already married.

CruCru · 04/07/2026 08:05

APageInYourDiary · 04/07/2026 02:30

New Yorkers are pissed off because the security and closures have been insane and caused a lot of disruption. A more rural location would not have had this impact 🤷‍♀️

Supposedly the streets were blocked for seven blocks around MSG. That is really disruptive in such a populated city.

I’m in a couple of minds about this. If it is a decoy wedding, taking over such a large chunk of Manhattan seems a bit inconsiderate. But on the other hand, they have spent a lot of money and it’s getting plugged into the local economy.

MajorSamanthaCarter · 04/07/2026 08:23

Bagwyllydiart · 04/07/2026 07:16

I have a habit of drunk posting (I know), but thank you for the explanation. I will Google the names and discover who they are.

Only on MN would someone claim to not know who Taylor Swift is!
I'm not a huge fan of her music but I think she's a fantastic role model. I hope they have many years of happiness together.
I'm looking forward to seeing the dress/es as well.

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 08:31

PanickingOnASunday · 04/07/2026 07:49

Yep. The desperation to have a go at her or do the painful 'never heard of her' is embarrassing.

And the calling her talentless, will never understand why she's successful, etc. I always come back with, "You DO know she had an after-school job writing songs for Sony at age 14, don't you?"

She is, quite simply, the best singer-songwriter of her generation.

I don't think Travis is a good match for her, though. I have no idea what she sees in him. A year or two ago, he was caught on camera physically shoving his coach, face red and distorted in anger, forehead vein popping. Nice. He drinks too much, he carried on partying after there was a shooting after one of his games that injured 22 people, and misogynistic, fat-shaming, tweets of his have been unearthed - full of misspellings - plus his lovely opinion that if sex didn't happen by the third date, it was a dealbreaker. 🤮 He wanted no strings attached with Swift at first. Just wanted to use her for sex, in other words. AND TO TOP IT ALL OFF, HE'S NOT EVEN GOOD-LOOKING!!!

Taylor is way too good for him. She had wanted marriage and kids for a long time, and I think he was a mid-thirties panic buy. Of course she still had lots of time, but if you want to be married with kids and you're single in your mid-thirties, I can see how someone might be worried.

All this is to say, I don't think he is in ANY way good enough for her.

LlynTegid · 04/07/2026 08:34

Better to be invested in a talented singer-songwriter's wedding than many other interests in people such as those on Love Island or some other reality show.

Whether it is a decoy or the real thing, I hope they have a long happy life together.

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 08:35

VerifiedAccount · 04/07/2026 06:55

She'd be like Leo in St Tropez! 🤣

What does that mean?

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 08:41

If I don't see that wedding dress soon, I think I'm literally going to die. 🤣

WhatAMarvelousTune · 04/07/2026 08:43

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 08:35

What does that mean?

It’s a line from her song The Man.

It’s about how if a man had her success he’d be praised.

“Cos if I was a man
then I’d be the The Man”

CaesarAugusta · 04/07/2026 08:45

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 08:41

If I don't see that wedding dress soon, I think I'm literally going to die. 🤣

Do you know what "literally" means?

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 08:46

CaesarAugusta · 04/07/2026 08:45

Do you know what "literally" means?

Yes. And I am literally going to burst at the seams if I don't see that dress soon. Which would make me die. Literally.

Dawnintheageofaquariams · 04/07/2026 08:49

MajorSamanthaCarter · 04/07/2026 08:23

Only on MN would someone claim to not know who Taylor Swift is!
I'm not a huge fan of her music but I think she's a fantastic role model. I hope they have many years of happiness together.
I'm looking forward to seeing the dress/es as well.

''I've never heard of The Beatles.
Jeff McCartney? Keith Lennon? I shall have to download the internet app and find out about them.''
Never heard of Taylor Swift...pull the other one...

Dawnintheageofaquariams · 04/07/2026 08:54

Bagwyllydiart · 04/07/2026 07:16

I have a habit of drunk posting (I know), but thank you for the explanation. I will Google the names and discover who they are.

Pretending to not know who Taylor Swift is is like pretending to not know about Jesus.
One is a famous pop star and the other one is made up, but still...

thingsarefine · 04/07/2026 08:54

A very tacky affair all around 😬

PanickingOnASunday · 04/07/2026 09:01

I think it's great. I think it's great she's surrounded herself with people she likes and have a massive fucking party.
In sure she will be devastated that people who she will never meet express their disgust.

VerifiedAccount · 04/07/2026 09:12

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 08:35

What does that mean?

It's from one of her songs. It talks about the grief she gets and how it would be different if she were a man. Lyrics below. I don't think anyone would argue with that.

There is also another one that calls out some people on the internet for being cowards and jealous of successful women.

I would be complex
I would be cool
They'd say I played the field before I found someone to commit to
And that would be okay
For me to do
Every conquest I had made would make me more of a boss to you

I'd be a fearless leader
I'd be an alpha type
When everyone believes ya
What's that like?

I'm so sick of running as fast as I can
Wondering if I'd get there quicker if I was a man
And I'm so sick of them coming at me again
'Cause if I was a man
Then I'd be the man
I'd be the man
I'd be the man

They'd say I hustled
Put in the work
They wouldn't shake their heads and question how much of this I deserve
What I was wearing
If I was rude
Could all be separated from my good ideas and power moves?

And they would toast to me, oh
Let the players play
I'd be just like Leo
In Saint-Tropez

I'm so sick of running as fast as I can
Wondering if I'd get there quicker if I was a man
And I'm so sick of them coming at me again
'Cause if I was a man
Then I'd be the man
I'd be the man
I'd be the man

What's it like to brag about
Raking in dollars
And getting bitches and models
And it's all good if you're bad
And it's okay if you're mad
If I was out flashing my dollars
I'd be a bitch, not a baller
They paint me out to be bad
So it's okay that I'm mad

I'm so sick of running as fast as I can
Wondering if I'd get there quicker if I was a man (you know that)
And I'm so sick of them coming at me again (coming at me again)
'Cause if I was a man (if I was a man)
Then I'd be the man (then I'd be the man)

VerifiedAccount · 04/07/2026 09:14

thingsarefine · 04/07/2026 08:54

A very tacky affair all around 😬

Based on what?

VerifiedAccount · 04/07/2026 09:15

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 08:46

Yes. And I am literally going to burst at the seams if I don't see that dress soon. Which would make me die. Literally.

Do you mean
I am figuratively going to burst at the seams if I don't see that dress soon. Which if I did, would make me die. Literally.

Pistacheeo · 04/07/2026 09:16

I thought it was a decoy but it makes sense. Loads of space, no drones or helicopters and they can keep it secure. I think Taylor said something about how it would be too hard to have a small guest list. They may as well embrace it. It would have been miserable if they'd tried to cordon off a pretty small town for it.

waiting for the official photo

mulberrymilk · 04/07/2026 09:19

I am just stunned to discover that Madison Square Garden is a big concrete stadium, with a circular exterior, and not a lovely shaded treelined park in the centre of New York, with a stage for major stars like Dylan to come and do small sets for invited fans, as I'd fondly pictured it when mentioned over the years.

VerifiedAccount · 04/07/2026 09:21

mulberrymilk · 04/07/2026 09:19

I am just stunned to discover that Madison Square Garden is a big concrete stadium, with a circular exterior, and not a lovely shaded treelined park in the centre of New York, with a stage for major stars like Dylan to come and do small sets for invited fans, as I'd fondly pictured it when mentioned over the years.

Me too! 🤣 I don't feel so embarrassed about that now!
I'd imagined it as a lovely intimate outdoor venue.

thingsarefine · 04/07/2026 09:23

VerifiedAccount · 04/07/2026 09:14

Based on what?

Hiring MSG, to start

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 09:31

VerifiedAccount · 04/07/2026 09:15

Do you mean
I am figuratively going to burst at the seams if I don't see that dress soon. Which if I did, would make me die. Literally.

NO. I do not. There is nothing figurative about this. IF I DON'T SEE THIS DRESS SOON, I WILL DIE! LITERALLY!

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 09:33

thingsarefine · 04/07/2026 09:23

Hiring MSG, to start

They did it because other celebrity weddings have been spoiled by the noise of helicopters above, and this way no paparazzi can see inside. Plus they have both made their fortunes in stadiums.