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Decoy Wedding?!

413 replies

McSteamyorMcdreamy · 03/07/2026 19:32

Apologies I haven't gone through any individual topic to see if there are threads.

But with all the shit in the world going on, and true escapism is anyone else thoroughly excited about the "potential" TS/TK nuptials?

I find I'm far too invested! Pathetic to be so interested? Very possibly but I don't care!

Again apologies if there's already something going... If there is can someone share!

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Triskellion75 · 04/07/2026 22:18

I think she will share photos in time.

MickyMoonshine · 04/07/2026 22:20

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 22:11

Really? Bloody RATS! You never know what's real these days.

Not impressed by Taylor withholding all photos of her in her dress. Her fans are interested and they're the ones who made her. She could have released just one.

Nobody owes anyone a photo. Doesn’t matter how famous you are.

ImImmortalNowBabyDoll · 04/07/2026 22:20

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 22:11

Really? Bloody RATS! You never know what's real these days.

Not impressed by Taylor withholding all photos of her in her dress. Her fans are interested and they're the ones who made her. She could have released just one.

I'm a fan of her music and I think she seems like a really decent human being. I don't think she owes me- or anyone else- every detail of her personal life. Regardless of the dress she wore, I'm sure she looked beautiful and I hope they had a wonderful day.

VerifiedAccount · 04/07/2026 22:28

I was thinking she'd go full on ball gown type dress but then I thought that is what she wears at her concerts so maybe it would a bit like wearing her work clothes for her.

So now I think it will be very simple and plain and classic.

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 23:15

ImImmortalNowBabyDoll · 04/07/2026 22:20

I'm a fan of her music and I think she seems like a really decent human being. I don't think she owes me- or anyone else- every detail of her personal life. Regardless of the dress she wore, I'm sure she looked beautiful and I hope they had a wonderful day.

I didn't ask for every detail of her personal life, did I? She's clearly going to show photos and film of her wedding but is meanly keeping them locked down, probably to make people pay to see them. And she's one of the biggest stars in the world. Of COURSE fans want to see a photo of her in her dress. I really do not think that that qualifies as wanting "every detail of her personal life." What a stupid thing to say.

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 23:17

MickyMoonshine · 04/07/2026 22:20

Nobody owes anyone a photo. Doesn’t matter how famous you are.

I disagree in this case. She is a public figure. Her fans being interested in her is what's put her where she is. You can't be OK with fans paying for your music and your merch and your concert tickets and then get all precious when they want to see a photo of you in your wedding dress.

BoredZelda · 04/07/2026 23:26

APageInYourDiary · 04/07/2026 02:30

New Yorkers are pissed off because the security and closures have been insane and caused a lot of disruption. A more rural location would not have had this impact 🤷‍♀️

Sure, bringing the world’s press to a rural area with limited police resources would be a brilliant idea. 👍

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 23:34

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 23:17

I disagree in this case. She is a public figure. Her fans being interested in her is what's put her where she is. You can't be OK with fans paying for your music and your merch and your concert tickets and then get all precious when they want to see a photo of you in your wedding dress.

@MickyMoonshine AND she has a habit of planting "Easter eggs" - i.e. clues - in everything she does, to get more attention and give her fans even more to obsess over. But we're not allowed to want to see a photo of her on one of the most significant days of her life. Give over!

Nice virtue-signalling tho. 🙄

ImImmortalNowBabyDoll · 04/07/2026 23:36

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 23:34

@MickyMoonshine AND she has a habit of planting "Easter eggs" - i.e. clues - in everything she does, to get more attention and give her fans even more to obsess over. But we're not allowed to want to see a photo of her on one of the most significant days of her life. Give over!

Nice virtue-signalling tho. 🙄

Edited

She NEVER Easter Eggs her personal life.

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 23:36

estrogone · 04/07/2026 19:01

I just dont get it. I have tried to understand the hype.

I have 50+ female friends who went all lala on the last tour with kids plastic bracelets up their arms in sparkly outfits, bidding for tickets and spending fortunes to fly to cities hours away.

Her music is objectively ok (to me) and I understand that many adore it - usually for this genre of music, that's a specific demographic.

TS seems to transcend that demographic and I almost feel left out in the cold.

I suppose if you know, you know.

Which of her songs have you listened to?

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 23:38

ImImmortalNowBabyDoll · 04/07/2026 23:36

She NEVER Easter Eggs her personal life.

Course she does. She's been Easter-egging Dior for a while. And it turned out her gown was Dior. And her songs are all about her personal life - the time when her bf stood her up at her twenty-first, the scarf that's still at her lover's sister's house...the references to her personal life are truly endless!

VerifiedAccount · 04/07/2026 23:43

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 23:38

Course she does. She's been Easter-egging Dior for a while. And it turned out her gown was Dior. And her songs are all about her personal life - the time when her bf stood her up at her twenty-first, the scarf that's still at her lover's sister's house...the references to her personal life are truly endless!

They are not Easter eggs?

PanickingOnASunday · 04/07/2026 23:44

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 23:38

Course she does. She's been Easter-egging Dior for a while. And it turned out her gown was Dior. And her songs are all about her personal life - the time when her bf stood her up at her twenty-first, the scarf that's still at her lover's sister's house...the references to her personal life are truly endless!

They aren't Easter eggs. They are song lyrics.

Everlore · 04/07/2026 23:45

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 23:38

Course she does. She's been Easter-egging Dior for a while. And it turned out her gown was Dior. And her songs are all about her personal life - the time when her bf stood her up at her twenty-first, the scarf that's still at her lover's sister's house...the references to her personal life are truly endless!

Well, at least we know you have heard one TS song, only one though by the sounds of it given both your lyrical references being to All Too Well, which is more than can be said for some of the posters trashing her entire musical catalogue while never having actually listened to it.
I don't know why you would be so scandalised that a musician might write about things that happened in their own lives though, isn't that pretty universal?

PanickingOnASunday · 04/07/2026 23:48

BusyExpert · 04/07/2026 20:44

I don’t think that I have ever met an adult woman who is interested in Taylor Swift…..
🤗

That's unusual.

PanickingOnASunday · 04/07/2026 23:50

BusyExpert · 04/07/2026 20:57

Yes and also boring
mind you it has raised an interesting interaction with people who also find it weird for an adult to be so invested in a pop singer that she doesn’t know.

So she's boring and also not sensible?
The desperation to have a go at this woman ...

DimwittedSkater · 05/07/2026 00:05

Everlore · 04/07/2026 23:45

Well, at least we know you have heard one TS song, only one though by the sounds of it given both your lyrical references being to All Too Well, which is more than can be said for some of the posters trashing her entire musical catalogue while never having actually listened to it.
I don't know why you would be so scandalised that a musician might write about things that happened in their own lives though, isn't that pretty universal?

I'm a big fan of TS and have listened to most of her music. And I'm not scandalised by the Easter eggs - I think they're fun. You need to read the conversation to understand the context of my post.

DimwittedSkater · 05/07/2026 01:34

PanickingOnASunday · 04/07/2026 23:48

That's unusual.

Well, now you have. Perimenopausal here and love her and her music.

estrogone · 05/07/2026 01:48

QuintadosMalvados · 04/07/2026 21:57

Yep.
She needs to shake it off.

😆 🤣 😂 😹

AnnoyedAsAllHeck · 05/07/2026 03:47

Aintgointogoa · 03/07/2026 22:26

I think she and TK absolutely made the right decision. She has always made it very plain that she loves a big 'hoopla'. She told Graham Norton exactly that (and he is there !) Most of her life has been spent in the public eye, then playing huge arenas which she and her team plan down to the most meticulous detail to deliver incredible performances. TK the same, playing ball 🤭 They match each other's energy. And most of all, I really like that she has taken the wind out of Trump's bloated ego focussed and divisive 'celebration' of 250 years of USA independence. And, just like everything that Taylor does, I do not think that was unintentional. He will be furious her wedding is the hotspot in the news, US and globally. GO GO Taylor and Travis !

It wouldn't matter WHO was President. The fact that it's the 250th year of independence, it would be celebrated no matter what.

Clonakilla · 05/07/2026 04:03

I work in an intensive care unit. A great many of us like Taylor Swift and quite a number went to see the Eras tour.

We’re doing pretty well at resuscitating people for a living for a group of such silly vacuous women.

maxslice · 05/07/2026 05:21

AnnoyedAsAllHeck · 05/07/2026 03:47

It wouldn't matter WHO was President. The fact that it's the 250th year of independence, it would be celebrated no matter what.

It IS being celebrated. But Trump’s American State Fair has had a lot of issues and sparse attendance. This expensive boondoggle is just a celebration of Trump himself. Some of the vendors are weird and some are crazy. Like the guy who thought the Salem witch trials were a good idea, but the people in charge should have been “more organized”. A MAHA (Make America Healthy Again) booth that featured a video encouraging women to eat healthy and work out so they’d prepare to be wives and mothers. Because, you know, that’s the only reason to eat well and exercise. I’ll be damned pleased if this wedding or anything upstages this embarrassment to the US, instead of feeding the outrageous ego of the criminally dangerous, ignorant, narcissistic sexual predator currently in office. The real celebrations of the 250th will be local ones held by ordinary people.

MickyMoonshine · 05/07/2026 06:33

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 23:34

@MickyMoonshine AND she has a habit of planting "Easter eggs" - i.e. clues - in everything she does, to get more attention and give her fans even more to obsess over. But we're not allowed to want to see a photo of her on one of the most significant days of her life. Give over!

Nice virtue-signalling tho. 🙄

Edited

From what I understand she doesn’t Easter Egg her personal life.
You’re allowed to want to see a picture of her but she’s also allowed to decide when she chooses to share that picture, if at all.

SoScarletItWas · 05/07/2026 08:07

QuintadosMalvados · 04/07/2026 15:13

I totally agree. While I am neutral about her (TS) she is like a weird non-sexual crush for older women.
I mean nobody could deny she has business sense and that's to be praised but so do a lot of famous women.
Where's the admiration for them?

The rest is vacuous pop songs about exes which she seems to perform half-naked.

Never mind I suppose this whole spectacle will be good for the inevitable divorce album.
Which I won't be buying as I'm not 12.

I have to correct this ‘half naked’ accusation. She famously never shows her belly button in photos. Her Eras tour bodysuits are cut like boy shorts. And they are, well, bodysuits not bikinis.

I came late to TS music and when I didn’t know anything about her music I absolutely thought it was vacuous pop songs for 9 year old girls. There are a few, including a few knee jerk missteps (I’d include You Need To Calm Down there which seemed like a quick response to accusations that she was anti/didn’t support LGB communities).

But she’s a bloody brilliant songwriter. Storyteller. Poet. I was surprised at the lyricism and depth of much of her music.

I don’t care much about her life, but her music is objectively brilliant:

She has won over 740 awards throughout her career, including 14 Grammy Awards, 40 American Music Awards, and 49 Billboard Music Awards. She is the only artist in history to win Album of the Year at the Grammys four times.

The rest is just personal taste, at best; misogyny at worst.

SoScarletItWas · 05/07/2026 08:22

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 23:17

I disagree in this case. She is a public figure. Her fans being interested in her is what's put her where she is. You can't be OK with fans paying for your music and your merch and your concert tickets and then get all precious when they want to see a photo of you in your wedding dress.

Let’s allow the woman to have her actual wedding event before sharing a photo though, eh?! She didn’t have to pop out and release a picture. They’re probably still asleep 🤣🤣