To have told my sister she was unprofessional and inappropriate? * [Content warning: concerns baby loss]

[Girlsonahill]

Without being completely outing, part of my sister's job involves going into lots of people's homes. We have a group whatsapp chat with our mum and although not the closest of sisters, generally talk most days get along fine. Today she posted a short video she filmed of a picture someone had up on their wall of their deceased baby and simply captioned "it's dead". This person was unaware she did this. I was horrified. gently told her I thought it was inappropriate and really unprofessional and I got a barrage of abuse back saying I was being judgemental and did I think I was the moral police. My mum said nothing presumably to keep the peace. She has form for being unable to accept any type of criticism but now I'm left feeling like I'm in the wrong and shouldn't have said anything. AIBU?

I would report this and send the evidence to her employers. She could lose her job, family might blow, up so what ?
She's a disgusting piece of shit.

This is just arguing for the sake of it.

Why can’t people put the wronged side first for once.

To those saying send her this thread. I'm more than happy enough to do this, but I honestly think she would a.) laugh and b.) quite enjoy the attention

In that case do the one thing she’d hate: give her less attention. Grey rock her when you see her. Don’t go out of your way to message her. Don’t arrange to see her for a while. Be less interested in what she has to say or what she’s up to.

TBH I’d have to do that because I’d struggle to look her in the eye ATM.

She is completely unsuited to her job. No doubt she will have been instructed as to how to behave in such cases. Her employer should be informed and she should be sacked. She is also a v. nasty person. She may also be breaking the law re. posting pictures of child.

A PP guessed rightly that she was an estate agent. There must be other estate agents on here, if so have you ever known colleagues to do this kind of thing?

Autism is no excuse if that's the case. Stop using it as an excuse!

No, she's just disgusting. Can you report her?

It actually doesn't matter what the photo was of. Its a breach of confidentiality and she should be dumped in the shit for doing it. I am not sure about the next bit but its possible that the people in your chat could get into trouble for receiving and presumably retaining the image. Do be careful OP.
Additionally, it doesn't matter about who took the image and it doesn't matter about "nurse dark humour" a breach is a breach.

Does she have something on her website or in a contract with sellers to say how their data will be stored and used ? I'd bet the farm there's nothing in there about sharing on my family social media group.

@nomas Because some people understand that neurodiverse people may see the world a different way?
OP has since clarified that sister is not neurodiverse so we can rule this out.
It is simply a case of unacceptable behaviour here.

she routinely shares picture of people's homes and is rude about them? Why did you EVER go along with this?

So why not ask her if her sister is neurodiverse first? I'm ND too, are you now going to womansplain ND to me too.

Really?

@nomas It was one of the first things I asked!!! 😀

Oh give over. As someone who lives in a household of ND people, it really fucking irks me when this line gets trotted out about people with autism being insensitive and frankly nasty people.

The OP’s sister is a cunt. She’s a cunt because she’s a cunt.

Yeah that’s dreadful. I’d be furious if I caught wind of someone making fun of a DC I lost. You can make fun of a couch, not an incident. Your sister was unprofessional but also childish. I’d expect that kind of joke from a teenager.

Fair enough, I missed that.

She should be reported for this, total breach of confidentiality and lack of respect.
Disgusting
Also FYI pp being ND does not make you a dick!

Your sister's behaviour is revolting. I hope that one day she will mature enough to be ashamed of herself.

I would be reporting her to these people, with screenshots of the offending posts and the filmed clips. National Trading Standards Estate and Letting Agency Teams - National Trading Standards Immediately. She is a morally-bankrupt disgrace.

To be fair, I think the vast majority of people - whether they have/want children of their own or not - would very clearly understand that parents who lose a baby will be devastated and heartbroken, and won't just see their loss as 'a bit of a laugh', like this vile woman clearly does.

@nomas Well we don't need all the swearing now, do we?
I work wirh neurodiverse people as an integral part of my job and also have an autistic brother who struggles to understand certain social rules and the "gravity" of passing away.
Surely you know autism is a very wide ranging spectrum? Just because you understand doesn't mean everyone else does.

Honestly if it was my sister I'd be cutting all contact forever.

Erm, did you mean to @ me? All I said was fair enough.

Absolutely outrageous.