To have told my sister she was unprofessional and inappropriate? * [Content warning: concerns baby loss]

[Girlsonahill]

Without being completely outing, part of my sister's job involves going into lots of people's homes. We have a group whatsapp chat with our mum and although not the closest of sisters, generally talk most days get along fine. Today she posted a short video she filmed of a picture someone had up on their wall of their deceased baby and simply captioned "it's dead". This person was unaware she did this. I was horrified. gently told her I thought it was inappropriate and really unprofessional and I got a barrage of abuse back saying I was being judgemental and did I think I was the moral police. My mum said nothing presumably to keep the peace. She has form for being unable to accept any type of criticism but now I'm left feeling like I'm in the wrong and shouldn't have said anything. AIBU?

I hate it when the D. M prints stuff from here, if it wasn't for @Girlsonahill privacy I wish they they would with this one.

Please everyone don't get cross with other posters for getting some of the op wrong. It was a very difficult for me and others to read all of it at first without reacting.

Any videos is unprofessional and commenting people's homes that she is being paid to sell is unprofessional.

I'd ask her to stop sending me any videos.

I lost my twins at birth two and a half years ago. Worst week of my and dh's life. I'd never get over it if someone especially a professional did this. I hope you will report it. She invaded something so personal and tragic and exploited that poor family. If this was me, I'd make sure to contact her workplace and insist
she was let go from her job. Its unforgivable. My photos of my baby sons are sacred. Not some instagramable joke. This is such an upsetting post.

Just saw she is self employed op and cant edit. I hope something stops her doing this op. As a bereaved mother of my two beautiful twins, this would crush me. My photos of them are so precious and anyone who is lucky to see them in our home is expected to treat them with dignity

Where those adults who held professional jobs? How many autistic people who have degrees, or hold full time jobs have you worked with, who don't understand the finality of death? I'm interested because me and my adult children and possibly my youngest GC are autistic. We are all capable of passing exams, working full time etc though.

@Ponoka7 Autism is a hugely diverse spectrum. I can give you my brother as an example. Incredibly academically intelligent, worked in a highly professional job until he took early retirement, has a number of degrees and postgraduate qualifications. But he still struggles hugely with social etiquette and conversation filters, for example.
He would find things "very weird" that neurological people find normal and vice versa.

Yeah, that's me. Does he know that death is final?

@Ponoka7 He doesn't know how to deal with death - he gets confused about how people "show" grief; in the main he finds it incredibly overwhelming.
But this is kind of of moot point here as the OP has confirmed her sister is neurotypical.