Some of these comments show that some women don’t feel they can have anything for themselves unless they are also buying for everyone else or sharing everything.
There are multiple comments calling OP horrible, selfish and ridiculous because she has the tenacity to buy herself something she expects to just use herself and not share it with the whole family.
A pp was “horrified” that OP is so “selfish” to buy expensive skincare said “if it’s good enough for her it’s good enough for everybody”
apparently this is a new way to be selfish 😆.
People are insistent she should be taking her SD for a spa day or buying her some of her own expensive products as a consolation for not being able to help herself to OP’s and multiple people are “confused” as to why OP isn’t happy to have everything “communal” and wants her own private space and use of her own things she works hard for.
When did attitudes change so much that kids and teens must always be equal?
I remember growing up and being told to stay out of my mums room and to not use her perfume, skincare and make up or any toiletries. She bought me my own cheaper stuff but that’s almost classed as child abuse now and women get slated if they don’t work to provide the same luxury items for their children.
I’ve seen threads on here with people disgusted that parents ordered a takeaway after their kids had gone to bed and the OP was called names for not ordering it earlier and getting the same for the kids.
There are so many threads about kids sharing rooms and saying how terrible it is and how the OP needs to move or shouldn’t have had children.
Apparently you shouldn’t even consider having children if they would have their childhood destroyed by sharing with a sibling.
Not everyone can afford to buy luxuries for the whole family and the adults are working hard and it seems silly they go without treats if their children aren’t included.
In the past the attitude was that kids can grow up and have their own money to buy nice things.
It is very much an attitude of martyrdom and seems a bit sad that some women think they aren’t worth anything just for themselves.
I have friends who use basic skincare and makeup and wear the same clothes from primark or supermarkets day in and day out whilst their kids wear designer clothes and have decent makeup, expensive shampoo and conditioner, skincare products and coats that cost hundreds of pounds.
Their kids just expect it and my friend’s daughter laughs at her mums appearance and seems oblivious that she can’t afford nice things for herself as she spends all her wages on her.
I wonder if some of the women who have called OP names on here and told her to move out of her house (that she mostly pays for) understand what boundaries are and if they have any themselves?
It would be a separate issue if OP was denying her SD use of the only bath in the house and refusing to share something like toothpaste or generic shampoo but the SD has access to her own bath and her own products.
Kids needs come first but their wants don’t come before adults and shouldn’t always be equal.
At 17 I had a job and bought my own treats and would have been pissed off if my mum had come and helped herself to them so it should go both ways. It’s about respect not entitlement.