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To think this information is missing from the news about white working class children in schools?

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Machinemasoluem · 01/07/2026 19:42

That the definition of working class is FSM eligibility..

FSM is not a good definition of working class. At all.
The eligibility is earning less than 7.4k a year so barely anyone and its hardly working and will include children busy caring for disabled parents who don’t have time for homework, children who’s parents have alcohol or even drug problems. Etc

Absolutely no judgement from me my child gets FSM (I was only 16 when I had him and he was eligible when he started school but once you get them it lasts until the end of primary school) but it seems obvious that children from homes with issues that prevent them earning more than 7.4k will more likely struggle at school.

In September every child whose parents receive universal credit will be eligible for FSM so millions more children and from more ordinary working families. Even some middle class families receive universal credit so FSM still won’t be a good definition of working class.

I think the statistics around this will definitely be watered down when this happens. In the meantime why is it acceptable for people to act like white people are terrible parents unless they have the money for a tutor and all non white parents are superior at instilling discipline, respect and the importance of hard work? There are areas in London with obvious issues and it would be considered really racist to blame parenting.

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Machinemasoluem · 02/07/2026 18:23

NeverDropYourMooncup · 02/07/2026 18:07

How many times are you going to repeat the same inaccurate statement? There are two types of FSM as of 1st September. One is unchanged - which will be the one used for comparisons.

Edited

I was responding to a poster who was trying to say £7.4 k wasn’t the current threshold. It is. But in September all UC claimants will be eligible.

All uc claimaints will be able to order free meals for their children in September no matter what type of FSMs they are

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Machinemasoluem · 02/07/2026 18:26

Principo · 02/07/2026 18:21

In common English it has the meaning of a secret wedding. People don’t use it in those more obscure ways.

Holy shit you are desperate to be right at all costs. I have heard it used in those ways loads of times and I am using it in one of those ways right now.

Im sorry you weren’t aware words can have more than one meaning.

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MNLurker1345 · 02/07/2026 18:28

Principo · 02/07/2026 18:17

Ha. Thanks for working it out as I was getting all confused 😏

It’s quite simple really! One only has to have reading comprehension skills to understand OPs point.

Thechaseison71 · 02/07/2026 18:32

RoseOliviaAu · 02/07/2026 15:12

You can Google if they’re working class and another definition will say yes to that too. Few people would actually associate a social worker making £30k a year with being middle class.

Class isn't only about earnings though. So by your reasoning a SW earning 30k is working class but if she was married to a wealthy man she would be middle class??

NeverDropYourMooncup · 02/07/2026 18:34

You posted on the original thread and started this TAAT on the basis that it would affect the statistics. It won't. There are two very clearly delineated types of entitlement coming in and the one that is exactly the same as now will be the one used as the comparator.

I could go on to mention the separate FSM provision for families who are No Recourse to Public Funds, whose entitlement and eligibility for Pupil Premium is also unchanged (and will affect children whose origin or self declared ethnicity is not White British or Irish) - they are already included in the datasets.

In any case, eligibility for FSM - Targeted from September and from that point, renewed annually now transitional protections for the migration to UC, the rollout of live monitoring of income and entitlements, the end of Covid (and no pesky General Elections to make it convenient to kick the can down the road for another year like the Conservative Government did repeatedly after the planned end date) - is absolutely an effective proxy for disadvantage, including the groups you seem to think shouldn't be included.

Thechaseison71 · 02/07/2026 18:34

RoseOliviaAu · 02/07/2026 15:35

I never said being working class means little money. I said being middle class requires money. They are not the same thing. One doesn’t exclude the other as I never said it’s only money that makes one middle class.

There are social AND financial expectations of class is my point. An upper class person can be poor and remain upper class (as titles/land that can’t always be sold etc define this group) and a working class person can be rich and sometimes remain working class (this one would depend on profession, purchase of property etc). Middle class is different imo because it is nebulous, they are working class with bells on it. Thats all. They will never be upper class, but take away their money and make them move area or start a low paid job due to necessity and what separates them from their working class neighbours? The fact they have an accent and went to the ballet as a child?

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So upper class are different again then? Ever heard of impoverished gentility

Piglet89 · 02/07/2026 18:43

Principo · 02/07/2026 18:04

Just to give another angle. I work as a consultant psychiatrist in a large city. Over the last few years we have had so many students referred for assessments. Many of the children from minority ethnic backgrounds feel under immense pressure from family. Especially the international students whose parents are paying a small fortune for them to live and study here. They feel that they cannot drop out or resit, because of the impact on their family both financially, and also the shame it might bring. It is quite horrible to see how trapped they feel.

Whilst I agree that immigrants largely have a good work ethic and instil that in their children, (my family was the same) the pressure can be intense.

I was the child of immigrants and we were told we needed to become doctors or lawyers. If we did ‘badly’ we could consider dentistry or pharmacy, or even ‘worse’, teaching. And that was basically it. I let my academic and bright children choose what they wanted to do and they did not choose professional degrees. They will no doubt do well in life, but it will be on their terms. I give them encouragement and opportunities, but I absolutely do not give them pressure to succeed at all costs. The ‘western’ way has some pros; intense pressure is not always good for mental health.

Could not agree more. Also: get some imagination - Doctor, lawyer, accountant and that’s basically it. 🙄

That was my mother’s view. I’m a lawyer. Am I happy? No. And I have several missing teeth from anxious grinding at night, to boot. Wonderful.

BurnoutBee · 02/07/2026 18:51

Principo · 02/07/2026 18:04

Just to give another angle. I work as a consultant psychiatrist in a large city. Over the last few years we have had so many students referred for assessments. Many of the children from minority ethnic backgrounds feel under immense pressure from family. Especially the international students whose parents are paying a small fortune for them to live and study here. They feel that they cannot drop out or resit, because of the impact on their family both financially, and also the shame it might bring. It is quite horrible to see how trapped they feel.

Whilst I agree that immigrants largely have a good work ethic and instil that in their children, (my family was the same) the pressure can be intense.

I was the child of immigrants and we were told we needed to become doctors or lawyers. If we did ‘badly’ we could consider dentistry or pharmacy, or even ‘worse’, teaching. And that was basically it. I let my academic and bright children choose what they wanted to do and they did not choose professional degrees. They will no doubt do well in life, but it will be on their terms. I give them encouragement and opportunities, but I absolutely do not give them pressure to succeed at all costs. The ‘western’ way has some pros; intense pressure is not always good for mental health.

Couldn’t agree more. You see the reality of those expectations. My mum was a mental health nurse and at one point in her career, led the uni MH dept in the city we live in. RG uni, tonnes of international students.

This was around 15 years ago. She always just wanted us to be happy. We never faced any pressure like that.

Principo · 02/07/2026 18:51

Piglet89 · 02/07/2026 18:43

Could not agree more. Also: get some imagination - Doctor, lawyer, accountant and that’s basically it. 🙄

That was my mother’s view. I’m a lawyer. Am I happy? No. And I have several missing teeth from anxious grinding at night, to boot. Wonderful.

Oh yes, I forgot accountancy and engineering were also accepted professions 🙄It’s just crazy. I see this mentality still amongst even second and third generation immigrant populations. There are so many more jobs out there.

I have no idea where my kids will end up and I find that quite exciting. They obviously have the privilege of a good education and academic background. But I will never force them into a career they hate and have not done so.

Machinemasoluem · 02/07/2026 19:22

NeverDropYourMooncup · 02/07/2026 18:34

You posted on the original thread and started this TAAT on the basis that it would affect the statistics. It won't. There are two very clearly delineated types of entitlement coming in and the one that is exactly the same as now will be the one used as the comparator.

I could go on to mention the separate FSM provision for families who are No Recourse to Public Funds, whose entitlement and eligibility for Pupil Premium is also unchanged (and will affect children whose origin or self declared ethnicity is not White British or Irish) - they are already included in the datasets.

In any case, eligibility for FSM - Targeted from September and from that point, renewed annually now transitional protections for the migration to UC, the rollout of live monitoring of income and entitlements, the end of Covid (and no pesky General Elections to make it convenient to kick the can down the road for another year like the Conservative Government did repeatedly after the planned end date) - is absolutely an effective proxy for disadvantage, including the groups you seem to think shouldn't be included.

I get what you’re saying and it is genuinely a good contribution to the discussion. A good nugget of information I appreciate it because I didn’t know that.

The reason I keep repeating how the eligibility is changing is because the conversation moved on to the question of are middle class “yummy mummies”(love that saying btw) receiving FSM for their dc?
Im just saying they definitely aren’t now but come September they may well be you’ll be surprised how some families have relatively good jobs and still get a little UC

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Papyrophile · 02/07/2026 20:06

I think there is a much larger cultural issue here. I don't think a train driver is working class, although culturally they might be. I don't assume nurses are either, although traditionally many are. But if you shuffle paper in an office on the back of a 2:2 from a 1992 university, I do tend to assume that you are not the sharpest tool in the box.

RoseOliviaAu · 02/07/2026 20:17

Thechaseison71 · 02/07/2026 18:32

Class isn't only about earnings though. So by your reasoning a SW earning 30k is working class but if she was married to a wealthy man she would be middle class??

In my opinion, yes, because her household income and lifestyle are upheld by the husbands wealth not her own income.

Thechaseison71 · 02/07/2026 22:23

RoseOliviaAu · 02/07/2026 20:17

In my opinion, yes, because her household income and lifestyle are upheld by the husbands wealth not her own income.

But lifestyle doesn't always equate to income either. Sone people who don't have money get into debt for a certain lifestyle, others have pots of money and live very frugally

And by your theory Vicky Pollard could marry someone well off, and would make her middle class, yet in all honesty wouldn't be the slightest bit classy

Zippedydoobaah · 04/07/2026 07:49

Thechaseison71 · 02/07/2026 18:34

So upper class are different again then? Ever heard of impoverished gentility

Impoverished UC aren't living in the local council estates on state benefits though. They live in very large homes that they cannot afford to upkeep, but could sell but they refuse to do so. They might be very cash poor but most are not asset poor.

Lexibletheflexible · 04/07/2026 08:04

Thechaseison71 · 02/07/2026 18:32

Class isn't only about earnings though. So by your reasoning a SW earning 30k is working class but if she was married to a wealthy man she would be middle class??

There are many ways to stratify class.

Lifeonvenus100 · 04/07/2026 08:10

Why do people aspire to do social work?

Machinemasoluem · 04/07/2026 08:13

Lifeonvenus100 · 04/07/2026 08:10

Why do people aspire to do social work?

To help children.

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Thechaseison71 · 04/07/2026 11:40

Lexibletheflexible · 04/07/2026 08:04

There are many ways to stratify class.

Correct So income isn't the only factor.

Thechaseison71 · 04/07/2026 11:41

Machinemasoluem · 04/07/2026 08:13

To help children.

Social workers do t just deal with kids. My best mate was a social worker but she didn't work with kids at all

Thechaseison71 · 04/07/2026 11:54

Zippedydoobaah · 04/07/2026 07:49

Impoverished UC aren't living in the local council estates on state benefits though. They live in very large homes that they cannot afford to upkeep, but could sell but they refuse to do so. They might be very cash poor but most are not asset poor.

But many many working g class people aren't living in council estates on benefits either that's the whole point. My parents owned a house. They were a postman and shop assistant. Neither of them had gone o levels

We were working class.

Lifeonvenus100 · 04/07/2026 12:16

I think people should have GCSEs. It's a good start

Thechaseison71 · 04/07/2026 12:47

Lifeonvenus100 · 04/07/2026 12:16

I think people should have GCSEs. It's a good start

Huh? What do GCSEs have to do with anything?

Lifeonvenus100 · 04/07/2026 13:02

GCSEs have a link to higher earnings

Zippedydoobaah · 04/07/2026 13:19

Thechaseison71 · 04/07/2026 11:54

But many many working g class people aren't living in council estates on benefits either that's the whole point. My parents owned a house. They were a postman and shop assistant. Neither of them had gone o levels

We were working class.

The point I was making was that the "impoverished" UC are not impoverished in the way that the "working class" children are who are the focus of the research are. I'm not so concerned about the WC title tbh, it can and is misleading because as has been illustrated here, the term means different things to different people, and has even evolved over time. Many people my age (mid 40s) came from households that were WC and they were home owners. It wasn't unusual for a man with a WC job to be the sole earner and to still be able to afford to buy. That wouldn't be an option now.

MeetMeOnTheCorner · 04/07/2026 15:53

@Zippedydoobaah It certainly is possible now! Some jobs pay well and of course a “working class” type job can earn enough to buy a property. Just maybe not in expensive areas but plenty really do buy homes.