To be annoyed SIL showed DS her lactating breast

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DS just turned 4 and he walked in on SIL breastfeeding. He asked what she's doing and she said this is how I feed the baby milk. All fine with me. She asked him if he wants to see and he said yes. So she squeezed her nipples to show milk come out. I feel like that is unnecessary.. I feel like even I wouldn't have done that if I was breastfeeding.

AIBU to feel annoyed. Yes, I understand breasts are not sexual and they're functional parts etc. But it is still taught as a private part to children and I just don't appreciate it.

Then she would have been expressing. But she wasn’t. She chose to squeeze her nipple for her nephew to watch.

Kids are sometimes encouraged to squeeze a cows teat at pet farms to understand the concept of producing milk. When you think about it it's bizarre that children are encouraged to see a cow do something that humans do too but we are uncomfortable with our own species. It's something I would never do and would be mortified but I actually think she is right and children should know what breastfeeding is.

Very weird.

All OP says is that her son walked in on her SIL. Nothing about SIL wanting privacy. Maybe she'd moved to a different room to find a comfortable chair.

We went to SIL's to meet the new baby. I went to the bathroom. DS was with DH, my MIL and SIL's DH. All doors were open (except the bathroom) so it was very easy for DS to have gone in. When I came.out of the bathroom, DS wasn't in the living room and I did call for him as I didn't want him wandering about (because it is bad manners more than anything else).

I'm currently breastfeeding and would find this a very inappropriate thing to do. I breastfeed around my nieces and nephews, but keep my boob and especially nipple very hidden from them. No kid needs to see that!

We're working with a voicemail from the SIL who was quite likely summarising rather than repeating the encounter verbatim, which has then been recounted here by an OP who doesn't like the SIL and has form for exaggerating ('squeezing her nipple into his face') and drip feeding.

I'd caution against getting too invested or assuming the OP's version is an objective one.

Yes a bit concerned at the idea you can and should breastfeed without anyone seeing a nipple this in my experience was impossible and very quickly let go the idea that I should protect people from the nipple.Generally think its a good think that a child would learn that a nipple in the context of breastfeeding is non sensational.

I think if the OP actually liked her SIL this thread and this whole discussion wouldn't exist...

Seeing a nipple isn’t the issue here

If my SIL did this, I would not like her.