To love having a girl?

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I’ve never said this to anyone as I worry how it would come across.

I have a boy who is 9 and a girl who is 4. When I had my boy I was overjoyed, I actually wanted a boy and I used to tell myself I’d be happy if I had another boy. But I’ve always been a girls girl myself growing up, very pink, Barbie, make up etc.

i love them both completely equally. As little humans they both are amazing to me my boy is clever, loving and I adore him. But I just LOVE having a girl. I sometimes think my god, I’ve actually got a girl. I still almost pinch myself that I can wander the girls aisles and I can buy things with unicorns on and I can have a Barbie house in my home! I just love having this little girl and saying “girls day!” after the boys have been able to say boys day before she was born. I feel no one else seems to say this though. I don’t know I just feel so lucky I get to experience having a girl.

is this odd?

I’ve always found daughters much closer with their mums as they get older than boys are .
I know there is always the exception but overall this has been my experience.
The bond I have with my dd I don’t feel I would of had with a son possibly because having a child of the same sex means I can relate and talk to her much easier especially being a single mum which I might of struggled with if I had a son.

I find it hard to believe that OP loves her children equally. I wonder if she was one of those women who got really upset when she learned her first child was a boy? I have a daughter and a son. Individuals who share common interests, and gift each other experiences they may not have explored on their own. They share these experiences with me too. We never imposed conventional roles on them. If they enjoyed something, we encouraged it. None of this pink or blue, dolls or trucks. Just “yes, and”. I think OP has an inkling that favouring one child over another is a bit off.

Just as a postscript, sometimes my son and I get each other better than anyone else in the family. We both feel lucky to have this.

Thats becsuse you have a daughter
You dont think boys can possiibly close to their mums🙄🙄
You dont know anything about other mothers relationship with their sons
Im very clise to my 19 year old son.

I don’t disagree OP! I have a 5 year old boy and a 3 month old girl. When I had my eldest I wanted a boy and I was thrilled, he’s my world! When I fell pregnant again I wanted a girl to have one of each and genuinely feel so lucky that I have that!!

I think with having a girl I hope that when she grows up we’ll be extremely close, obviously I can’t tell the future and this might not be the case, but I was always close with my mum. Girls tend to go to their parents for childcare for their babies etc. what’s that saying.. a girl is a daughter for life, a boy is a son until they find a wife’ . I’m hoping that isn’t true and I hope my boy grows up always being a mummies boy like he is now.. but again you never know!!

I agree in a sense that I can’t wait to buy Barbie’s and princess dress up outfits… but her dad is a massive football fan so I imagine she will also have a number of football kits too haha! either way I think your feelings are valid :)

Cosmic.

I feel the same with my son. 8 year age gap between him and his older sister. I'd wanted a boy since I was very young, was always very happy with my dd though and had no regrets, and didn't actually want another child after her. But now I have my son too and feel so lucky to have him. The "I can't believe I have a son" feeling hits me often.

You are not, so many mums go on about being a boy mum and it’s almost like girls are forgotten about or not cared about. I never understood it. I have two friends who have a girl and a boy and both openly said their son is their favourite and I was shocked! I have a girl, my eldest and a younger son. I am so thankful I get to experience both a daughter and a son, I love them equally. They are both so different but in such good ways. I love having a girl, as I am girly girl and love doing her hair, buying clothes with her, and all the trinkets she loves that I used to love, I love how much she loves animals and is kind and compassionate. I love having a boy as I love how fearless he is, how care free he is, how loving he is, how funny he is, I love his love for dinosaurs, he loves football and is active. Both have amazing qualities. You are ok to say you love having a girl.

Until he gets married.

The gender stereotypes in this thread are wild.

DD had a Barbie dream house. She also had a ton of dinosaurs, a garage and cars, a train set. She wore a princess dress one day and jeans and trainers, climbing trees the next. She explored it all and came out smart, bookish, adventurous, fun, wears jeans most days but loved dressing up for prom. Girls can be everything and anything they want to be if they’re raised to believe that.

Don’t limit your girls to unicorns and Barbie’s. It’s a very narrow lane and the world is big.

@ShowOfHandsyour dcs sound awesome!

@BuildbyNumbere

Ive got two sons. I must be wired up wrong because I can’t wait until they’ve been taken off my hands 😂😂. And, yes, I do really love them.

Have a daughter too. Right mix for me I think - I can cope with them all leaving 👋.

Absolute bollocks. My husband is very close to both of his parents and especially his Mum. He sees them 3 or 4 times a week and is always helping them out with various things- and no, I’m not resentful, in case anyone thinks there’s a subtext here! I’m glad he’s such a good son.

@Waitingfordoggo

As a general rule it isn’t bollocks. I’ve got sons and a daughter. Whatever happens happens but I certainly won’t be kidding myself thinking they’re both going to be very close to me. Perhaps they will, great, but we all know wives comes first. Well they should do. Yes I know it’s possible to “do” both. But often, they tend to gravitate towards their wives families more in terms of contact etc.

So I will see!

Nothing worse than a nauseating BOY or GIRL mum tbh with you.

No i think i know my son better than some random on the internet
These threads slways go the same way
Posters bitching about other peoples kids based on preconceived ideas.

Its all just anecdotal
Preconceived bollocks designed to put other women down.

I don’t like the ‘boy mum’ and ‘girl mum’ thing either @BuildbyNumbere

I know the stereotype you’re referring to but it just doesn’t ring true in my own family or friendship groups. 🤷🏼‍♀️

I have the same children as you OP in terms of age and sex! I think when you have a bit of a gap between your first and second you start to think you’ll never get the sibling you wanted for them and then when it comes out you feel like all your christmases have come at once, and if you get one of the opposite sex that’s just the icing on the cake. It is lovely to experience having a boy and a girl.

And i’m sure having a boy at home means your girl isn’t JUST into barbies and dressing up so it’s daft of other posters to suggest that. She’ll have had her brothers toys in the house growing up and plenty of exposure to hot wheels and things that are not pink and sparkly. Presumably she chooses the more girly things for herself. My daughter loves princess dresses and dolls and often pinches my makeup bag. She also wrestles her brother and runs round the house in his old boxer shorts.

Just the same way having a boy doesn’t automatically mean he loves football and hates cuddles! Anyone with a son knows the mother son bond runs very deep.

Only time will tell … I’m sure many mums have felt the same, look at Adam Peatty.

Lots of girls dont get onbwith their mums either .

Didnt say not get on … was talking about being as close as he is with her now.

The gender stereotyping in this day and age is pretty grim OP. I was born in the 80s and thankful my mum never tried to do the pink, glittery shit but gave me space to make my own choices about what I liked.

Ignore the haters. I love having a girl, too!

I have one of each. DD practically threw a Barbie back at Santa when she was 3 as all the boys got remote controlled cars. She chucked dolls out of the pram and put toy dogs in. She’s grown into a feisty, clever, sarky teen who’s still not into anything overly girly. She’s stubborn to the point of driving me insane and it’s her big brother with his boatload of empathy I send to deal with her sometimes. He was a stereotypical boy, into sports and mud but always got on really well with girls and has lots of girl mates.

Suffice to say I adore them both and can’t imagine having a special bond with DD just because she’s a girl.

Nothing at all wrong with being grateful to have a little girl. What I would be mindful of is deciding how a girl should be before she even gets there. Some girls (myself included) are not all pink, rainbows and butterflies and you need to be ok with it if she isn't. My mum wasn't ok with it and we never bonded or developed a proper relationship because of her preconceived ideas of what a girl should be.

I love having girls too and don't think you're at all odd for appreciating doing girly things. I also don't think it seems like you have a favourite, just that it's a different dynamic with your boy and you love that too. I only have girls but I work with children and boys are so much fun and affectionate but yes it can be very different. Only 1 of my girls is a proper girly girl but I still feel things are different when I look after my nephew, but I don't think its odd, you are a girls girl and enjoy doing girly things together. I'm sure there's things that only you and your boy enjoy doing that are special to do together also 🙂