To love having a girl?

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I’ve never said this to anyone as I worry how it would come across.

I have a boy who is 9 and a girl who is 4. When I had my boy I was overjoyed, I actually wanted a boy and I used to tell myself I’d be happy if I had another boy. But I’ve always been a girls girl myself growing up, very pink, Barbie, make up etc.

i love them both completely equally. As little humans they both are amazing to me my boy is clever, loving and I adore him. But I just LOVE having a girl. I sometimes think my god, I’ve actually got a girl. I still almost pinch myself that I can wander the girls aisles and I can buy things with unicorns on and I can have a Barbie house in my home! I just love having this little girl and saying “girls day!” after the boys have been able to say boys day before she was born. I feel no one else seems to say this though. I don’t know I just feel so lucky I get to experience having a girl.

is this odd?

I have 3 boys who are all amazing and I wouldn’t swap them for the world. I dare say if I had 3 girls I’d think the same.
My friend always wanted a girl to dress up in pink and be girly with and got the biggest tomboy ever. Love your kids for who they are

Such a reassuring post
I don’t think my children are in any way better or worse than girls, they are just my children, I adore them and I love being a mum.

As a teacher, an only child of a single mum and mother to 2DDs I can honestly say I just do not understand boys at all and would have found having boys as a mum more challenging. At school, teenage boys are just so ‘different’ - loud voices, shouting, endlessly touching each other or their mates’ stuff, their humour is so slapstick and bizarre. I would really have struggled.

I teach so many lovely teenage boys and so many clearly adore their mums and have so much respect for them.

(the same is true of many teenage girls.)

I don’t relate to this at all. I have one of each with their own unique personalities and interests. Neither of them likes pink and nor do I. DS likes cooking, DD doesn’t. DD likes Formula 1, DS doesn’t 🤷🏼‍♀️ I’m the only member of the family who is attracted to men, which I found amusing yesterday when DH, DD and DS were discussing what they find attractive in women and I couldn’t join in 😂

I do hope your DS doesn’t catch on to how you feel though.

I had a poor relationship with my mum. She was not remotely approachable or loving growing up. I could not tell her anything about my life. I had to steal money to buy my own sanitary towels. She would not let me buy any fashionable clothes so I was bullied at school. She was cold and distant and if I ever asked for help with anything she would get angry.

I was determined that when I had my girl she would be able to tell me everything. From when she needed a bra, to her first period to losing her virginity, etc. My daughter is now a young adult and she tells me everything and says I’m her best friend. I can’t tell you how much that has healed me after my unloved childhood. So for me, having a daughter really has been special. Nothing to do with pink or dolls.

Lmao the comments on here! They do crack me up! Coming from a woman with 4 kids and had 3 boys before she had a girl, yes I get what you mean and completely understand you! I always thought I’d be a boy mum and I didn’t mind if she was a boy and it never bothered me either being a boy mum, but when they told me I was having a girl I was very happy. It was nice to buy pink bits, girly things for her, she’s three now and is into princesses and unicorns, Dollys, dress up and Barbie’s, even down to when she sings and dances and flicks her hair I’m just like awwwww 🥰 where as the boys are and always have been boisterous 😂 wresting each other, play fighting, dinosaurs and cars, jumping off things and climbing everything. No it doesn’t mean you have a favourite at all just means it’s nice to buy pink things and girly things as you’re a WOMAN 😊

@ladybird2024 Buying pink and ‘girly’ things is not a requirement of being a WOMAN (lol @ random capitals). I don’t like pink. I don’t like shopping. I don’t care about clothes. I don’t wear make-up, and I certainly don’t ’flick’ my hair 🤔 The only requirement for being a WOMAN is being female. HTH.

Did you actually read my post? I’m not being funny but I said:

-I struggle to justify it, because it isn’t entirely rational.
-I understand that the way DC turn out is mainly influenced by their socialisation rather than their gender/sex.
-I teach boys and have nephews so clearly I know they have different personalities.
-I would have loved any son of mine just the same if that had happened.

It was just always my preference to raise an only daughter, probably as I am an only daughter myself. It’s not about surface level things or gender stereotypes it’s more about girlhood, shared experiences and what it is to be a girl/woman.

((If in time my DD wanted to become my DS I would love and accept them the same, same if I randomly got pregnant and decided to continue the pregnancy with a boy- it’s just a feeling that I am suited to being the mother of a girl))

@truepenguin actually I think you’ll find that the vast majority of “gender disappointment” threads are people saying they wanted a girl and they’re having a boy.

YABVU. Your daughter is clearly the golden child, which is bad for both of your children.

Congratulations for what? 😂

I love teaching boys, I enjoy the comedy, but I couldn’t imagine living with one full time. Totally get this perspective.

Your DD will not ever be able to become your DS @cannibalfish!

Really? I love having a girl but I love my boy too. They are both truly adored.

And what do you imagine it’s like living with a boy full time @cannibalfish? My DS is by FAR the quietest, slowest-moving and most sensitive person in our household.

Maybe if someone buys her some blue clothes and some lego? Half the thread seems to think that's how it works.

just hang around the boards and look for gender disappointment. it all seems to be how awful it would be to have a boy, how people would be so disappointed in having one, having got lucky once with a girl would never risk it again in case they got a boy.

You do realise either gender can like those things? My 3 year old has chosen dinosaur theme for her 2nd and 3rd birthday cake. She loves puddles and mud. Goes fishing with her dad, wants to ride fast on motorcycles and quads. She also loves dancing and doing her make up with me. Has a dolls house along side all her dinosaurs.
I personally don’t like a lot of the typical “girl” clothes. Way too pink and frilly and not as practical as I need them.

on finding a man with the right flavour sperm? after all, he's the reason op has a girl

perhaps you need to get a job in an all girls school to get away from the ghastly things?

Obviously I know that quiet, sensitive, gentle and kind boys/men exist- I married one, teach them and have a couple in my family.

My answer isn’t clear cut, I posted above more of my feelings on the matter. For the most part though I am talking about more ‘laddish’ boys I guess. We don’t adhere to gender stereotypes in my household however they do exist and outside of the home is out of my control.

All children are different so obviously I am making generalisations saying anything on the subject but for us a girl ‘fits’ better and is what we dreamed of.

Apologies for SPAG on this thread I have been awake for two days!!

Not the right board, I was simply illustrating my point.

That is your opinion but in our household I would accept and love my child regardless of how they present themself in the future.

You mean sex not gender. Particularly in the context of this thread

I have a boy and a girl, or rather now, a man and and a woman, lol. I can’t say I preferred boy or girl as the love I have for them and the joy they have given me, and continue to give me, isn’t in anyway related to what their traditional roles are, they are simply their personalities to me. Both played football and swam and went to activities, sometimes together, sometimes separately. I was as interested in cars as I was dolls and they often played with these things together. Childhood is such a fleeting moment in time, they grow up from being blue and pink and cars and dolls, I think it’s sad that you can’t see thst.

My parents had 2 girls. Years ago my mum asked my dad (both now in their eighties), if he’d missed having a boy and apparently he became quite passionate about his answer, no he didn’t, he felt lucky to have had us girls, with the ballet, the gymnastics as youngsters, and the fact we both competed at the top of level of one sport, which both boys and girls do, he felt he’d had a full and complete life as a father. I was so bloody proud of him!