To love having a girl?

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I’ve never said this to anyone as I worry how it would come across.

I have a boy who is 9 and a girl who is 4. When I had my boy I was overjoyed, I actually wanted a boy and I used to tell myself I’d be happy if I had another boy. But I’ve always been a girls girl myself growing up, very pink, Barbie, make up etc.

i love them both completely equally. As little humans they both are amazing to me my boy is clever, loving and I adore him. But I just LOVE having a girl. I sometimes think my god, I’ve actually got a girl. I still almost pinch myself that I can wander the girls aisles and I can buy things with unicorns on and I can have a Barbie house in my home! I just love having this little girl and saying “girls day!” after the boys have been able to say boys day before she was born. I feel no one else seems to say this though. I don’t know I just feel so lucky I get to experience having a girl.

is this odd?

Sorry but another saying your child can’t change sex and I would hope that you would explain the biological reality to them. They don’t deserve to go through life deluded, it’s wouldn’t be doing them any favours 🤷‍♀️

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This about sums my sons up!

I don’t like to buy into stereotypes but my boys are crazy….. the noise, the chaos, the constant play fighting, the wedgies, the winding each other up, pulling each others trousers down and finding it hilarious, bounding around, the inability to sit still, telling dumb jokes, competing with each other in silly games, constant laughing and silliness, daring each other to do stupid stuff, it is honesty NON-STOP until they go to bed. From the minute they wake up it’s just endless energy and excitement and the need to release it!

Don’t get me wrong, I love it because they make me laugh so much but it’s exhausting 🤣

but the chances are or you'd had a boy your lives would have worked so that a boy fits better. it's too organic a process to be able to say "oh a boy would never have fit" because your lives would be different, you'd be different if your child was different
I have 3 kids, all different in their own ways and yet overlap each other in some ways. They all fit into our family because a family evolves to make people fit.

I have one of each and the girl is much closer to my personality and my son closer to his Dad’s. Consequently she and I get on better domestically and, well, she’s a girl, so I automatically have more things in common with her.
My son is very gregarious and outgoing and high energy. After a couple days I find him exhausting. He’s the type who jumps out of bed and goes for a run before work (he’s 22), then does kickboxing after.

Im happy I have one of each, and love them both dearly. If I’d had two girls I’d have been happy. Two boys? I’d miss having a girl for sure.

My mum has 3 daughters, she is one of 3 girls, she understandably had only stereotypical perceptions of boys

i am so grateful that my boys have completely changed her perception. She is so proud of them, loves it when they go and see her, takes them for lunch with their girlfriends, visits their baby girl cousin with them, they are always up for long dog walks with their ‘Mama’

this is the reality of decent, well brought up boys

Totally reasonable, normal and lovely. But surely you must have predicted the MN bleatings along the lines of "are you saying boys can't like unicorns" and "what if your daughter wants to be a tattoed bodybuilder?"

It's all very dull, isn't it.

In my household, we also accept and love our DCs however they present themselves- it’s angered me that you’ve implied I wouldn’t, while knowing nothing about me and my lovely family. My DD is a lesbian- no issue with that whatsoever. She already has multiple tattoos at 20 years old. She also bleaches her hair far too often in my opinion. 😂 Wouldn’t be my choice but it’s her body, her hair, and her choice and of course it doesn’t change my fierce love for her. Nor would it change anything if she shaved all her hair off or if our DS grew his hair long and wore pink skirts.

‘Not the right board’, but you brought it up 🤷🏼‍♀️ No one can change sex.

That’s you then. I get what the OP is trying to say. You know what I meant by what I said, no need to try and deliberately disagree with me and pick at my comment. 🙄

God you'd have been disappointed with my lovely girl then. She hates pink, owns no barbies and spends all her time climbing trees and turning cartwheels. She did ballet for a bit then quit it and prefers tennis!

We were delighted to discover our second baby was another girl.
I’m not remotely interested in pink or sparkles but I find girls a lot more interesting than boys (I’m sure if I had boys I’d develop an interest, but instinctively warmed to girls) and I am much more of a reader, baker and knitter which are probably things that lend themselves more naturally to small girls than small boys.,
As others have said, be very wary of this feeling being perceived as favouritism.

"It was nice to buy pink bits, girly things for her, she’s three now and is into princesses and unicorns, Dollys, dress up and Barbie’s, even down to when she sings and dances and flicks her hair I’m just like awwwww 🥰"

When I used to visit my friend and her DD used to dance, sing, flick her hair, duck pout and drone on about her latest doll that could actually shit etc. I have to say i'd count down the minutes until I could escape, once I drank a brew so quick so i could leave I swear i took a layer of taste buds off 😂

She's more masculine than my gym dude bro DS now 🙈

I didn’t ‘try to deliberately disagree’ with you. I actually just disagree with you and this is a discussion forum.

I have a boy and a girl and if eel very lucky but mainly because there was a time I thought I wouldn't have any. My kids are so different and in some ways this is stereotypical boy/girl stuff but mainly what I love is their personalities being nothing at all to do with me. They are a constant surprise. My son was always very much a child who had boy friends and girl friends. Still is at 8. My daughter at almost 5 has become very 'gorls only ' about certain things and I swear sometimes it's just to wind her brother up but she's adamant some things are buy or girl things.

My.son.i love a museum, the science centre, trampolining. My daughter prefers craft activity, shops, rollercoasters
I love a day where I only have 1 and can do their preferred thing all day and enjoy them.enjoyong it.

I think you've made it genders in your head but inr reality you love having 2 very different kids

I am much more of a reader, baker and knitter which are probably things that lend themselves more naturally to small girls than small boys.,

They only lend themselves more to girls than boys if you think they do.

DS1 won a baking competition when he was about 8. He's got a "star Baker" spoon on display. DS2 has since turned out to be a fantastic baker.

I've got a scarf that DS2 knitted some of because he wanted to learn to knit.

DS1 never liked reading, but DS2 often used to fall asleep with a book on his face/ his head on a book.

Change sex no, but change the gender they present as, the name I call them and the pronouns used etc. I didn’t say they could change sex but if I had a trans child I would use their preferred name/pronouns and consider them my son as is generally preferred.

Your daughter sounds really awesome, and you sound like a lovely parent, truly, I wasn’t trying to suggest you weren’t accepting of your children. It’s just the ideological differences when defining sex vs gender I guess.

I just meant I didn’t want to derail the thread, I was just illustrating the point that I would love her regardless and it’s not based on the fact she is a girl.

Nothing odd. I have one of each and enjoy two lots of different things. My daughter enjoys shopping, meals out. My son loves playing sport with me and going to the cinema. It depends on each child but why not enjoy the differences.

Always a few on this forum that have to pipe up. 🙄 Always someone wanting to start an argument.

Agree we don’t have the same views on sex and gender @cannibalfish but I appreciate your post- and yes, DD is awesome! I’m sure yours is too. Clearly we both love our girls very much.

I only have a (teenage) boy so can't really comment. But I don't think it's odd OP. Its nice that you feel that way.
I do often think I would of liked to have had a girl too, too late for that now. However when I'm thinking like that, I'm imagining said girl to be typically girly, loved having a pamper, shopping trips,movie nights, girly talks and of course she may not have enjoyed any of that at all, just like my boy doesn't!

@ladybird2024, I love a civil discussion and a bit of lively disagreement. Maybe MN isn’t for you if you don’t. Would be really boring if everyone agreed with each other on every thread! Anyway, I’m going to ‘pipe down’ as I’m in a different time zone and need sleep. Hope you have a nice evening 🙂

As I said in my previous post I’m a mum to 4 children 3 older ones being boys and I was used to the play fighting, shouting, roughness, cars, climbing on things and jumping off things, the colour blue, dark green, mustard yellow etc kind of what you find more with boy things, so my daughter being how she is made a nice change for me and has been different. She likes pink, sparkles, Barbies and unicorns etc, My sons never sang, danced or twirled their hair they were and are just boisterous 🤣 so i see what the OP means by having a girl. When I was younger I wasn’t into make up, dresses and sparkly shoes I was more of a tomboy and preferred my brothers toys but when I turned 16 I just changed wanted to wear make up, do my hair nice and wear nice dresses. I don’t think the OP was stereotyping it, or if people felt like OP did it wasn’t meant like that.

Good! 😊 sleep well.

I'm on the fence as to whether I think YABU. I know people who love having daughters because they treat them like little dolls or extensions of themselves. However if its more the personality traits then I can completely relate. I have an amazing kid who loves books, music and nature. They're kind, loving and really bright and I feel lucky every single day. And this probably makes me sound terrible but when we meet up with other kids I am even more grateful for my child. But its not a gender thing. Just personality and interests.

No. I meant what I wrote. Either way there are only 2 genders, 2 sexes. It makes no difference.

🤣🤣🤣 I wanted a little girl, REALLY wanted a little girl. I got one. A beautiful girl, with blonde curly hair that she cuts into a crew cut to go out with her girlfriend. And I couldn't love her anymore than I do now. She is my heart.