To love having a girl?

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I’ve never said this to anyone as I worry how it would come across.

I have a boy who is 9 and a girl who is 4. When I had my boy I was overjoyed, I actually wanted a boy and I used to tell myself I’d be happy if I had another boy. But I’ve always been a girls girl myself growing up, very pink, Barbie, make up etc.

i love them both completely equally. As little humans they both are amazing to me my boy is clever, loving and I adore him. But I just LOVE having a girl. I sometimes think my god, I’ve actually got a girl. I still almost pinch myself that I can wander the girls aisles and I can buy things with unicorns on and I can have a Barbie house in my home! I just love having this little girl and saying “girls day!” after the boys have been able to say boys day before she was born. I feel no one else seems to say this though. I don’t know I just feel so lucky I get to experience having a girl.

is this odd?

My sister has a son and a daughter, and she has a very different relationship with her daughter than she does her son, so I do understand why some women feel so happy about having a daughter.

Back to OP:

I hope husband showers your son in love as Im pretty sure your favouritism for your daughter will be apparent even if you think it isn’t.

If not, my two gorgeous sons would have loved another brother so he can always come and live with us 😂

I'm not commenting on how well your daughters get on I'm referring to the words you chose to use in your last paragraph which are tbh absolutely disgusting.
Can a brother and a sister not be incredibly close and enjoy doing the same thing?
I do hope your daughters stay close and enjoy doing the same things but again this is not always guaranteed. Siblings can and do fall out.

Well not that difficult to grasp if you've a limited understanding of the facts certainly. If women have such a profound disinclination to build, why are there many societies in which they're the chief builders? You're attributing things to sex which are actually the result of socialisation and based on the gender stereotypes prevalent in the west.

she doesn’t even understand your horror at her post
says it all

I already said there are always boys who like playing with dolls and girls who like lego, so of course there will be women who choose to be builders. But IN GENERAL girls will lean towards dolls and barbies FOR EXAMPLE and boys towards lego and building FOR EXAMPLE. My children have access to all the toys at home and still have those "stereotypical" preferences. Why are you so bothered that other people don't agree that boys and girls are the same, because I definitely don't think they are, or just because a girl wants to play with doll she is being forced into some western gender stereotype. She plays with whichever toys she wants to play with, as do the boys. I'm not attributing anything to them, I'm just observing a reality.

Sex stereotypes then 🤔🤔

YANBU to be happy with what you’ve got … good for you.
You’ll probably piss off all the boy mums though … especially if they were hoping for a girl but won’t admit it.
I have one of each too and love them the same but for different things, it’s nice to experience both.

Agree … I’m not girly, bought up my daughter playing with dolls, Lego, trains, kitchen, worksho
etc etc. She joined a football team and played for 4 seasons did really well, got wet, muddy, strong and fit … annndd she’s now 14 and loves clothes, make up and skincare. None of it makes an ounce of difference, they’ll like what they like.

Your kids sound amazing and you're so lucky to have one of each . I've got boys , they are all completely different and I have a lovely relationship with them now they're all adults .

I don’t think it’s the gender it’s the personality. My DS is by far the easiest, loveliest, sweetest and my best friend in a way a child can be. We are not into the same things but are interested in each others hobbies. DD is feral.

It’s not odd but it very much seems like you view activities as being gendered. I have 2 girls and a boy and at various times in their lives they have fitted in with gender “norms” but there’s plenty of other times they have not.

Basically it’s great that you love having this time with your daughter as long as you’re not gutted if she starts wanting to do things you view as “boy stuff”. But that’s true of all parenting really. We might love when our kids love what we love but they’re their own people at the end of the day.

I don’t really understand why so many people here can’t relate, because I certainly can.

Girls and boys are different. It’s not always about clothes, hobbies or stereotypes - they often have different personalities and ways of interacting.

And I don’t think there’s anything wrong with saying you enjoy the experience of raising a girl. That doesn’t automatically mean you love your son any less.

I love both of my children equally, but if I’m being honest, I do enjoy one child’s company more than the other’s at times. That doesn’t mean I love them differently- it just means they’re different people, and I have a different dynamic with each of them.

I think a lot more parents feel that way than are willing to admit out loud.

Maybe then they’ll realise how much you love your child regardless and how out of order their mom was making it all about their sex

I have 4 girls and I’m content with it.

I love having a girl too op. She is the most headstrong and stubborn person l have ever met and l love that about her (most of them time!)

It’s an unpopular opinion, and rightly so I guess because I struggle to justify it to myself, but I have one girl and I couldn’t be happier. I wouldn’t want to have another and that’s partly because of the good chance that DC would be a boy.

I am not a ‘girly girl’ at all, mainly close male friends, spend most of my time on the farm etc. so it’s not that ‘mini me’ scenario but something about having a girl is just perfect for our family.

Don’t get me wrong, I teach wonderful boys, I have beautiful nephews, I would love a son the same I’m sure- but I feel eternally grateful for having a girl and stopping there.

I know it’s all about socialisation and boys aren’t naturally going to be more ‘wild’ than girls or anything but nothing about being a boy mum (whatever that actually means) really appeals to me. I look forward to her teenage years/adulthood in a way I would probably not with a son, probably due to being able to relate more. My DH feels the same and is very much a ‘girl dad’.

TLDR- it’s silly to differentiate really but having a daughter is wonderful I think having a son would be less enjoyable in some ways for us personally.

did your son not want to play with Barbie's or dod you not consider that a thing? what if she turns into a tomboy, takes up footie and dresses exclusive in brown?

Odd to think and odd to post. However, long as you’re happy!

So how are girls and boys different? Be specific - how do their personalities differ according to sex?

Exactly
don’t these posters just love their children for being their own, special individual amazing selves

the condition that they love them because they are girls is really sad and depressing, it suggests they would not have been content with a boy

your kids sound cool and interesting x

I have 2 little girls and an older boy and I love them all because they’re all themselves, some posts on here agreeing are so so messed up and concerning

I have a girl - she's my only child and I knew when I was pregnant I was unlikely to have another as I was 40 and it was after many years of unsuccessfully trying.

I'm glad she was a girl - but I'm sure if I'd ended up with a boy I'd be saying 'I'm glad I have a boy'. In reality I'm just delighted I got to be a mum and that my child is the incredible person she is.

I had to some extent, when I tried to imagine what being a mum would be like, pictured myself with a girl. But not particularly a girly girl, and I've tried hard to avoid being overly gendered in the way we raise her, the way we dress her, the things we celebrate and interests we promote etc. She is in fact in a sparkly pink unicorn princess fairy stage right now, and has always loved things that are quite stereotypically 'girly' for as long as she's been able to exercise a choice, but she's also spent a happy hour this evening adding to her World Cup sticker book, plays football, climbs and flings herself off every obstacle she comes across and loves dinosaurs and minibeasts too, so at least there's a range.

I also very much worry about the world she's growing up in, male violence, the rise of online misogyny, the resurgence of unrealistic and damaging beauty standards etc. There have been a number of news stories and tragedies since she was born that have sometimes made me wonder how on earth I'm going to keep her safe and help her navigate all this shit, and perhaps a boy would have been easier.

Are you not aware that boys have different personalities?

I have 3 and ‘ my experience’ with each of them is different because they are individuals. I love each of them with equal intensity, the thought of any child being less loved because of their sex is completely alien to my definition of parenthood and love

I have a little girl and just cannot believe my luck. I'm not into all the pink stereotypical unicorn bits etc at all (she is and I don't know where she gets it from!!), but just having her is everything that I could have dreamed, I just love everything about it. She's such a lovely little companion and I thank my lucky stars for her every day.

She's my only one, so I have absolutely nothing to compare it to, but I do love 'girl's day', 'girl's night' etc and just having such a little bestie. Mind you, she has daddy daughter days and nights too and my husband absolutely loves those as well! So maybe it's the child rather than the gender, who knows xx