To love having a girl?

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I’ve never said this to anyone as I worry how it would come across.

I have a boy who is 9 and a girl who is 4. When I had my boy I was overjoyed, I actually wanted a boy and I used to tell myself I’d be happy if I had another boy. But I’ve always been a girls girl myself growing up, very pink, Barbie, make up etc.

i love them both completely equally. As little humans they both are amazing to me my boy is clever, loving and I adore him. But I just LOVE having a girl. I sometimes think my god, I’ve actually got a girl. I still almost pinch myself that I can wander the girls aisles and I can buy things with unicorns on and I can have a Barbie house in my home! I just love having this little girl and saying “girls day!” after the boys have been able to say boys day before she was born. I feel no one else seems to say this though. I don’t know I just feel so lucky I get to experience having a girl.

is this odd?

god this whole attitude is so ‘me me me’
i did not have children to
replicate a mum daughter bond
be a little doll to dress up
someone to dance and twirl for me
a constant companion even when they are married because they should put me before their husbands

they are people; nobody owns children, or has any right to map out what ls expected of them based on their sex

i am not a ‘boy mum’ , I would have loved girls too

all children are individual and unique

I've got one of each. The boy is older so the girl wore a lot of boys clothes (hand me downs) when she was little. She went through a pink/unicorn stage at 4 or 5 but by 8 or 9 she's was entirely anti-pink, anti-fashion, anti-make up. She hates all things "girly" now, which I have no issue with. She's a fun, creative person and we are very close.
My son is probably more likely to wear pink than my daughter. He just doesn't care about that stuff. He's a sweet-hearted, intelligent young man.

I suppose it's kind of nice having one of each, although I imagine two girls or two boys could have Personalities just as different, so maybe it makes no difference.

I'm exactly the same,I absolutely adore having a girl. I had her first and boy second, I know you shouldn't say it but I was disappointed, I really wanted two girls as my sister and I are very close and girly and I wanted the same for them.

My daughter is 14 now and we are very close but she's not actually that girly,she loves her sport which is fab and not really into make up and dressing up as much as me but I still love it and have had great fun playing with her when she was younger. My son I did struggle with playtime as he was very hyper and boyish, he's never sat down to do arts and crafts with me or anything like that but as he's getting older (now 11) I just love his sense of humour and he's such a happy boy, he just loves life.

They are also very close and very protective over each other which lovely, I'm very pleased with what I've got, they are very different and interesting to see their different interests as they grow up.

So why have a second? Or even a first if you were that set on one sex? It’s not fair to have a child knowing that you only want one sex.

I get it. I have two girls and I always wanted girls. Obviously, had I had boys I would have loved them as much as I do my girls. But, yes, I love that I have girls. When they were little I loved picking out their outfits. They are now 10 and 8 and have their own minds about what they wear, which very rarely includes dresses. I still love it. My 10 year old has always been quite mature for her age and is turning in the process of turning into a young woman. I am really starting to enjoy the more grown up time we have together. My youngest is the opposite and quite young for her age, but is the sweetest, kindest, caring little girl. I count myself lucky that I have them both every day.

YANBU for loving having a girl.
But I sure hope you are letting your daughter be her own person and not forcing her into some idealised version of what you think a girl should be.
As a girl, I loved anything to do with science. Space, dinosaurs, volcanos, engines, sea creatures etc. I wasnt interested in dressing up, makeup or dolls.
I would have been very unhappy if I had been forced to be a different version of me to make somebody else happy.

Because I wanted children obviously. I had a preference which a lot of people secretly do but are too afraid to say out loud (probably due to comments like yours), it doesn't mean you don't love them and shouldn't have children.

You say you love them equally, your post says you most definitely favour your girl over your boy. A used to babysit when I was a teen, the woman had 2 boys then her much wanted girl, she got to about 8-9 years before the pink, the dresses, the dolls and general “girlie” faze was no more, she spent the rest of her childhood with her dad on the farm because that’s what she really loved, she’s now a very butch gay 30 year old woman, she got her girl, she just didn’t grow into the woman she imagined when she was a little girl, going for mother/daughter days out, shopping, helping her in her teen years being heartbroken over boyfriends, sitting having girlie chats or gossip, helping her pick out her wedding dress etc She’s a closer relationship with her second son and his kids than her daughter. She was exactly like you with her girl and ended up disappointed the future she’d imagined wasn’t as perfect in reality than it was in her head for the first few years of her daughter’s life.

She sounds amazing!

You know OP your son could have also played with this stuff? His penis won't fall off you know.

You sound like exactly the sort of person who shouldn’t have kids at all. Wouldn’t be surprised if your daughters cut all contact with you when you’re older because you do not sound like a nice person at all.

My dd has moved out to live with her boyfriend. She came home last night to see us all and just lit up the room when she walked in. We had a lovely gossip. I love my ds equally but have more in common with my dd.

I sometimes feel like this but I think it’s just because I never expected to ever have a girl. There are almost no girls in my husband’s family and everyone has boys, so when our first was a boy I just assumed our second would be as well. So when we found out she was a girl I was very surprised and sometimes I still can’t believe it. Of course I love my children equally but it is fun having a girl because of the clothes. She’s 4 months old now so I’m enjoying buying the cute little dresses before she grows up and tells me she doesn’t want to wear them. I’m well aware she might grow up to not like traditionally “girly” things which I’m fine with as I just want my children to be happy.

That is so sad.

If you are about to post don’t bother. OP is so interested in this thread, that she started, she hasn’t returned!

Another ‘easy but controversial starter’ for traffic to the site, with no response.

And horror! He was once a BOY!

That’s just rude. And trite.

Judging by your description of them, which made me laugh, and your obvious respect and admiration for them, its not surprising they are such remarkable humans. You sound pretty cool yourself 🌻

But likely true.

NO.

Probably made up by MN to create traffic.

Only time will tell.

Then stop making ridiculous assumptions. Everyone’s child is unique. Also? You need to reexamine your confirmation bias.

No doubt about it boys and girls are wired up differently. Just enjoy both and accept that you have different relationships with them not favorites

Nope, it’s a well known saying … not made up by me.

There are many well known sayings. That doesn’t make them true.