To love having a girl?

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I’ve never said this to anyone as I worry how it would come across.

I have a boy who is 9 and a girl who is 4. When I had my boy I was overjoyed, I actually wanted a boy and I used to tell myself I’d be happy if I had another boy. But I’ve always been a girls girl myself growing up, very pink, Barbie, make up etc.

i love them both completely equally. As little humans they both are amazing to me my boy is clever, loving and I adore him. But I just LOVE having a girl. I sometimes think my god, I’ve actually got a girl. I still almost pinch myself that I can wander the girls aisles and I can buy things with unicorns on and I can have a Barbie house in my home! I just love having this little girl and saying “girls day!” after the boys have been able to say boys day before she was born. I feel no one else seems to say this though. I don’t know I just feel so lucky I get to experience having a girl.

is this odd?

Wait until she's a teenager !
I have boys and 1 girl , her skill at verbal response is second to none.
At her best she is sweet kind and thoughtful , other times she's like an enraged hornet and will argue day is night without end.
She wasn't particularly 'pink' and spent as much time outside as she could with her dog.
She is witty ,funny ,feisty, can be an aloof ice maiden if she chooses .
She is perceptive and observant and no way have i ever been able to pull the wool over her eyes.
I wouldn't change her for the world but neither would i had she been born a boy, but my boys despite their challenges were a piece of drama less cake compared!

Oh dear, my 15 year old DS still has a fluffy unicorn in his room from when he was a toddler, I shall remove it this instant.

fucking bonkers, try seeing your children as people.

Yes of course it’s okay. I have two sons and a daughter. Of course I love having a girl. I really wanted one, I got one, and I am grateful for one. I love my sons too of course. You can feel both things simultaneously. She’s 14 now, still so grateful.

Well no, not really. Are you saying they make choices based on their sex or their personalities? You seem to be implying their sex determines their personalities but that's so stupid I must be misunderstanding. What if you had a second girl and she didn't want to play with barbies? Would she be less female?

Well no one can tell you how you should feel. I do t really relate as despite having a DD I don’t think we’ve ever done a girls day and I try to limit unicorns and fairies where I can. I try to provide a balance from the girlie world. But if it makes her and you happy I think that’s good.

I feel exactly the same. It’s the same reason I am very jealous of anyone who has a sister.

They make choices based on their own preferences, but in general boys have less interest in dolls and Barbie’s, and girls have less interest in Lego and building. Of course there will always be some boys that like Barbie’s or some girls that love Lego, but in general boys and girls will gravitate to different types of toys. You can see it very clearly in a nursery or school setting. Hope that helps clarify, it’s not really not that difficult to grasp!

YANBU at all. You cannot help how you feel. Simple as that.

I can't help how felt before I had children. I have 5 brothers and DH has 4 brothers. No sisters between us. I know it's illogical but I had just convinced myself I would have a boy and I craved the relationship with a girl that I have with my mum.

I have all girls! I was beyond overjoyed and still am and although we're done, I would have loved one little boy (once I had my girls!!)

I fantasize about meeting someone, having another baby and having your life so Yanbu for enjoying it ☺️

Bit odd but then I've never been a girly girl. I have a girl and a boy.

The only women I know who have sisters have, at best, a difficult relationship with them once they have grown up. So it’s not always a good thing

This thread has made me so glad I had two of the same sex, I'd be heartbroken if I felt that way after having a girl.

To be fair, one of my sons prefers stereotypically 'girly' things, the other largely stereotypically 'boyish' things. I don't prefer spending time with the one that likes pink though. I adore both and enjoy meeting them both where they are with their individual interests.

I understand being excited when you happen to share a specific interest (my eldest has recently gotten into a book series I loved at his age and I'm loving reading him the stories), but it almost sounds like you see her as a fashion accessory.

I do feel a bit sorry for your boy too. Looking at my eldest, I can't imagine sending him off to do things with my DH whilst me and my youngest spent 'girl' time together (if my youngest had been a girl). I love spending time with both of them 1:1... does your boy not notice that his sister is clearly your favourite?

DD 7 is a girlie girl and SD16 is total tomboy and I love having a girlie girl. I always felt a bit miffed that I could never do my SD's hair or nails or do girlie things with her, not a judgement at all but we just don't have a lot in common. It's not just the hair, clothes and make-up, it's also the books, craft activities and movies.

This has to be one of the saddest and most distasteful posts I've ever read on here.

My DS2 still likes what he likes whether its a SAS book, his pink dog teddy, or a lilac floral t shirt (thats threadbare its been worn that much)

Anyway, of course yanbu if thats how you feel but tbf the only reason I stopped at 2 DC was in case the 3rd was a girl. No thank you 😂

Yes it’s so sad that two sisters are incredibly close and love doing all the same things together 🤣

I wonder why those who are so set on having a particular sex bother having children at all

I haven’t expressed any biases whatsoever whilst raising my children unless you know better, but the majority of my friends who are grandparents seem to have more of a say in their DD’s childrens’ lives.

Is this a joke post? Please say it is 😱

I mean the OP didn’t say she was set on having a girl, she just said she’s enjoying having one

I always thought I was a boy mum, (I have 2 men). Now I have a wee girl 6, who loves wearing girly clothes, make-up (i know) pinks/purples but she also loves climbing trees, getting soaked/muddy, play fighting
I'm just glad she's not a big Jessie and gets stuck in 😂

No Lots of people feel this way, they’re just too scared to say it because of the vocal minority.

That's lovely OP. I have all boys who are brilliant but I've also got nieces (although none of them share my taste in frilly dresses!)

I suppose you feel how you feel, but no, I absolutely can't relate to it at all in the way you seem to be championing.

I wasn't a girly girl myself and had no particular interest in barbies, make-up, frilly dresses or pink stuff. I preferred wearing jeans and t-shirts. I had a broad mix of toys including Lego and toy cars but preferred reading books by myself more than anything.

I have three DDs of my own who are now all adults. None are very girly in the sense you seem to be championing. DD1 and DD3 do sometimes like the odd bit of make-up, but not much. DD2 has no interest it and would be horrified by the idea. None had any interest whatsoever in barbies. All would have looked at me as if I had sprouted three heads if I had ever come out with anything like "right, girls' day" or similar.

I didn't have any boys so no personal frame of reference there I suppose. I'd have loved a boy equally if I had had one, but it didn't happen.

You should try not to stereotype. Your children are who they are regardless of whether they are girls or boys.

I’m having a boy and it’s kind of refreshing to hear a mum of both say they love having a girl, all I’ve heard this entire pregnancy is mums telling me “Boys are the best” “I love my daughter, but there’s just something special about boys” “Boys love their mums so much” “The bond between mothers and sons is unlike anything else” etc.