To love having a girl?

[NutellaPancakes123]

I’ve never said this to anyone as I worry how it would come across.

I have a boy who is 9 and a girl who is 4. When I had my boy I was overjoyed, I actually wanted a boy and I used to tell myself I’d be happy if I had another boy. But I’ve always been a girls girl myself growing up, very pink, Barbie, make up etc.

i love them both completely equally. As little humans they both are amazing to me my boy is clever, loving and I adore him. But I just LOVE having a girl. I sometimes think my god, I’ve actually got a girl. I still almost pinch myself that I can wander the girls aisles and I can buy things with unicorns on and I can have a Barbie house in my home! I just love having this little girl and saying “girls day!” after the boys have been able to say boys day before she was born. I feel no one else seems to say this though. I don’t know I just feel so lucky I get to experience having a girl.

is this odd?

These "stereotypes" exist for a reason. Because in general girls and boys play differently and enjoy different types of toys, and there's nothing wrong with that. Boys and girls are different, despite what some people want to believe, or have everyone else believe. I have boys and girls so they're all exposed to all the different toys in the playroom, and what the boys choose to play with compared to my daughter is completely different. Also what my two boys choose are often different to eachother, it's all personal choice.

Unfortunately some posters still live with the pink for a girl and blue for a boy mentality

I have 2 girls. One was girly and pink the other completely opposite

They never got on

This is such a confused, self-contradictory post.

That's lovely @NutellaPancakes123. I have just boys and often wonder what a girl would be like. Im not a girly girl but I suspect if I had a daughter she wouldn't be either.
But who knows 🤷‍♀️

You are kidding yourself if you think you love them equally, and no one believes you.

I dont know about that. I can read ds inside out, and hes the same with me. Whereas I wonder if my sister and I were swapped at birth, we couldn't be less alike and less estranged if we tried.

I guess its personality that counts, not gender.

I have a girl and a boy; neither have confirmed to gender stereotypes and I was happy about..,

I feel a bit like this but with boys (happily all my DC are boys).

My two are very close and are out shopping at the moment.

When they are small it isn't any different.

I don’t think it’s odd - I have one DD and love it. I can’t imagine having a boy, but I suppose I wouldn’t know any different if I did. If I were to have another, I know you’re not meant to say this, but I would want a girl. Sorry but it’s true!

I only have girls so can't say what it would be like to have a boy. But I think it's really cool that they are sisters. I didn't have a sister growing up and it feels special to me, although I have no idea what their relationship will be like as they grow and can't really control that.
I don't feel any kind of way about having daughters really. I just think of myself as a mum to kids - bike rides, craft projects, sleepovers, den building, swimming lessons, picture books, beach days... these things would have been the same whatever sex child I'd had. I'd be treating them pretty much the same and they'd be being whatever unique individual they are.

hmmm i dunno ! my son likes unicorns too - how is that a girl thing

Daughter plays football - son hates it

She has no barbies or barbie houses - not her jam - she likes lego and cars and diggers

Hate the sterotyping Op its awful

It’s all fun and games until she gets to her teens 🤷‍♀️

DT’s - b/g have always been best pals although very different temperament and interests. They have spent the weekend together (they live in different countries) so that DS could visit DD’s new flat.

I think it just seems a bit like reducing girls and women down to very specific likes and enforcing gender roles a bit for me personally. I have one of each amd my dd is 5, I feel a bit awkward about the amount of pink and unicorns tbh and that dd has absorbed that from nursery and school. I think she’s almost pushed into a certain stereotype of femaleness more than I was 45 years ago. It also worries me that DS is pushed into certain ways of being male. But I think you should do you really, keep enjoying her and your son whatever their likes and hobbies as I’m sure you will. I would maybe just keep it to yourself, it’d definitely sound a bit smug if it got back to a mum of boys.

I love having my girl too. However, I managed to create a carbon copy of myself, so whilst we look alike and share the same taste in clothes, hair, make-up, bags, shoes etc we also both have the same temper and are quite emotional so we often clash quite spectacularly! I gel better with my calm DS who is like his father.

I have one DC. A girl. I wanted a girl and was lucky enough to get her. She is 31 now.
She is utterly fantastic and I love her more than anything else.
I didn’t want a girl for the girly stuff at all. In fact she’s pretty much the opposite of a girly girl!
She’s fiercely intelligent, funny, kind and beautiful. I’m the luckiest mother in the world.

I have two older boys and now a little girl and although I love them all the same and feel incredibly lucky to have them all. After a tricky childhood and a complicated relationship with my mum who didn't want girls. there is something a bit healing about being the mum I wanted if that makes sense? So I get where you're coming from. It really is so lovely to have both boys and a girl, I feel absolutely privileged to have 3 of them xX

I'm sorry you got confused.
To simplify children will choose the toys they want to choose, you can't force toys on them. My two boys have their own preferences which can be different, but neither of them want to play with barbies or baby dolls. Whereas my daughter does. HTH

I love having a girl too, but I think it’s because she’s great and not because she’s a girl. I love that she is wild and all the mothers of boys sit in shock as she whizzes by! She wears clothes from both sections and plays with all sorts of toys. I hope it I had a boy it could be the same.

We actually thought she was a boy before she was born and, as you do, I had quite an attachment to “my son” that I was expecting. It was very confusing when she came out. I wasn’t sad to have a daughter at all and was so pleased she was healthy but I did feel like I said goodbye to something too? Even though it was actually never there! Anyway, I want to hear absolutely nothing about the sex of my next baby unless they can say it with 100% certainty! 🤣🤣🤣

this is such a horrible post.
I have 3 sons, I love them to utter distraction. I also have 2 nieces who I adore.

girls are under so much pressure to conform to social media, societal and celebrity driven ideals on beauty, physique and clothes

as an insecure, anxious adult who is constantly watching her weight I would be worried all the time for girls. Reading this it seems they are being set up from babyhood to have to be pretty, girlie, enjoy girl activities, where decorative clothes, be their mums ‘best friend’

my ex husband tried to force our boys to be what he expected from a male, it did not end well

As it is I feel very relaxed about giving them the freedom to be their own person, spending time with them is the best. I never had the intense relationships people on here seem to have with their mums, in fact I hate ‘girlie shopping days’ and the like, so I didn’t have any desire to replicate this experience. I love clothes, makeup, shoes etc, but I don’t need a child to do that

more than anything I am grateful for 3 healthy, funny, hard working, good people who I conceived with ease.

I think it is very odd.

I can understand that feeling of excitement and enthusiasm for, say, a dry Martini... but not for a child.

It seems a bit strange to me. My eldest son had a dolls’ house, Elsa dresses for his Build a Bear, sparkly bracelet making kits and other assorted ‘girl’ toys. He also had cars, a parking garage, train sets, a stupid number of Nerf guns etc. I don’t remember feeling particularly excited about any of his toys, whatever ‘gender’ they were aimed at. I got pleasure from buying my DS’s the toys they loved and watching them play happily with them.