To love having a girl?

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I’ve never said this to anyone as I worry how it would come across.

I have a boy who is 9 and a girl who is 4. When I had my boy I was overjoyed, I actually wanted a boy and I used to tell myself I’d be happy if I had another boy. But I’ve always been a girls girl myself growing up, very pink, Barbie, make up etc.

i love them both completely equally. As little humans they both are amazing to me my boy is clever, loving and I adore him. But I just LOVE having a girl. I sometimes think my god, I’ve actually got a girl. I still almost pinch myself that I can wander the girls aisles and I can buy things with unicorns on and I can have a Barbie house in my home! I just love having this little girl and saying “girls day!” after the boys have been able to say boys day before she was born. I feel no one else seems to say this though. I don’t know I just feel so lucky I get to experience having a girl.

is this odd?

This is such an odd thread

Honestly it sounds like your OH is part of the problem if he created this idea of “boys’ days” before you had your DD. Maybe that’s why you feel so pleased you have a girl, because he made you feel excluded like this before?

What were these “boys’ days” and why couldn’t you go along?

I mean 1:1 time is good but do you ever swap, ie OH has your DD for the day and you have your DS?

Be prepare that your DD may reject all things pink and girly when she hits about 6 or 7.

I'm glad you love your daughter.
I sort of get what you're saying, I have only one child. I adore my son, and wasn't in the slightest bothered by his sex. I always wanted more children, and am now sad that I won't have a daughter.
I'm not a stereotypical girlie person. I am close to my Mum though, and we share interests. Obviously there's no guarantee that a daughter would have been the same. My sister is much more similar to my Dad. Feelings aren't always logical though.

I have 3 DDs ... they were a joy as children and are a joy as the warm and loving adults they have become.
I now have one GD, 5 DGSs and one non-binary. They are all a joy.
I am a lucky lady.

I love having a girl. She's not particularly girly but it is just a completely different energy compared to her boy cousins and suits me much better.

It's a horrible post isn't it. Hope the daughter's have sons

You've really riled everyone up with your post OP!
I actually completely understand what you're saying as I feel the same. I always wanted a girl, as I had such a close relationship and friendship with my own mum I always hoped to have that with a daughter of my own. After having two boys (who I absolutely adore and love to pieces) I knew I would want to have a third with the hope to have a girl.

Unfortunately my mum passed away when I was pregnant with DS2, but when we found out our third was going to be a girl I just felt she was my little gift from my lovely mum. I absolutely adore having a girl, we play barbies and babies, we say things like "it's just the girls at home today". I also love having boys and feel very lucky to have both. I have a particular bond with DS2, he's most similar to me in personality and he's very attached to me paticularly.

I love having both a boy and a girl, there's nothing wrong with enjoying your children! But boys can like barbies and unicorns too.

Not all girls agre ‘girly’ though. My dd1 certainly never was, hated having ever to wear a dress, never wanted to play girly games, and still only bothers with makeup once in a blue moon. I sometimes think that in a previous era the trans activists would be falling over themselves to tell her she’d been born in the wrong body.

But she grew into a very female woman, with 3 dcs of her own.

Dd2 was a much more ‘typical’ girl, liked Barbies, makeup, retc., but has never wanted kids! Always said she’d prefer a dog!

I have one of each and I am really disturbed by people who obsess about one or the other. Mine are both young adults now and I love the bones of each of them because they are both splendid humans not because of their sex or gender. Those with toddler girls banging on about girly days etc you just wait until they start asserting their own personalities at about 4 and you might be in for a shock.

Fair enough.

I am a dad and wanted our second to be a boy as we had a daughter. But our second daughter is such a joy that I don’t care. I never think about it and am truly grateful to have amazing, healthy girls.

My Mum was like this when we were young. Then i grew up, started developing my own personality, figured out who i wanted to be instead of who she wanted me to be and she didn't like the real 'me'. We have nothing in common, she doesn't like my husband, we barely talk now.

Do you not play Barbies and babies with your DS’s?

My ds has never shown any interest at all in dolls or stereotypically ‘girls’ toys.

That isn’t to say we don’t have any common ground. We both like nature and animals, books and history. But the doll thing? Not happening.

DD has loads, though (all called ‘baby’, rather unimaginatively.)

I love having a girl, she is all grown now and an only child but I can’t imagine having a bond with a boy like I do with her.

I loved having girls when they where younger but the teenage years where rough I found the boys a lot easier as teens

YANBU. The odds are that a boy is not going to be into makeup, Barbies, et cetera, and while not all girls will be into those things either, there’s certainly a much higher chance. And I think it’s natural to want to share your interests with your children.

I have two daughters, who are eight and eleven, and while I have interests they don’t share and they have interests I don’t share, I think we’d have a lot fewer overlapping interests if they were boys. Most boys are not going to be excited about new Rainbow High or Monster High releases (I’m a doll collector), or want to make earrings with their mothers, or have a favorite American Girl character (we’re American), or get really into fairies and mermaids. Even with a lot more “neutral” toys, boys and girls, on average, play differently. My husband, my daughters and I all love Lego, but my husband spent his childhood building spaceships and tanks, while my daughters like to make houses and playgrounds for the minifigures.

Just make sure you’re spending special time with your son as well.

I had 3 boys and my 4th was a girl... I LOVE having a girl for all the reasons you mentioned. She's 2 and I still can't believe she's real. I adore my boys they are amazing, I just feel like she is the cherry on the cake and I love hanging out with her. I hope that she and I have a close relationship when she's older as I am super close to my own mother and I was also the only girl. Enjoy it all as they do grow and change so fast xx

No, they have no interest in the barbies. I play beyblades or lego etc with them.

Wwll thars becsuse shes your daughtee
I have a very close relstionship with my 19 year old son .

Yes, over the years they’ve seen these toys and activities at playgroups, classes and afterschool clubs. They’re not interested 😊

Not necessarily odd but sad in that you are bringing up your children with reductive stereotypes of what are girl's things v boy's things! I was sort of hoping that as a society we were moving away from the 'pink princess' version of being a girl and teaching our girls that they can be/wear/play with whatever they like!

Really? It’s horrible to enjoy the children you have?

No but it is horrible to say you wouldnt risk another pregnsncy just in case it was a boy.

I think that if that's how you feel about boys its a good thing. Let's hope the girls keep on being cute eh?