AIBU to ask my friend to leave after criticising my diet?

[Dogingarden]

I have a friend staying with me at the moment because it's just been my birthday.

I have been having treatment for breast cancer and have had no appetite for several weeks. Today I had a craving for pizza and have eaten a large pizza and some chips. I've also eaten most of a bar of green and blacks chocolate today too, along with some other bits.

Friend isn't very impressed and has said several times I need to eat healthy food. She's very much into healthy eating and is very disciplined about what she eats.

I've explained that my consultant says to eat whatever I fancy when I fancy and not worry about what I'm eating as long as I'm getting calories. I have long nearly two stone from chemo side effects, for context.

Friend disagreed with this and said I shouldn't be eating "processed crap" because it's just going to make the cancer worse.

I'm extremely upset by her attitude and what she's said. She's gone up to bed and I'm sitting in the garden with my dog feeling awful. She's meant to be staying until wed but I'm going to ask her to leave in the morning.

Wibu?

Well isn't she a joy. Is there any chance she's neuro diverse? My mum is forever handing out unsolicited advice/criticism and she genuinely can't understand that people aren't grateful to her for kindly supplying the facts they appear to be missing.

I'm sorry you're so unwell, do you mind me asking if the weight loss is a result of your illness, or a side effect of treatment? Hope you have an optimistic prognosis.

So sorry you are going through breast cancer and chemo and your friend is being thoughtless. I have been through chemo and breast cancer and my oncologist was very clear it was best not to lose weight during treatment so you are absolutely doing the right thing eating what you can.

The only bizarre thing in the thread is you and the other clowns who keep wanging on to the OP about diet. It is breathtakingly tone deaf and lacking in empathy. Especially since you keep on doing it when the OP has made it clear she doesn't want it.

Someone with active disease who is losing weight unintentionally and is at risk of malnutrition will have worse outcomes, be more prone to infections, be less able to withstand treatment, experience a slower recovery, and potentially lose significant muscle mass.
They need energy and protein.

Nope she is sanctimonious and judgmental 🤷‍♀️

If she wanted the best for her friend she’d go out and buy her more chocolate and pizza!

Is she medically trained oncologist ? Ask her to leave , shes rude, sending best wishes to you x

👏👏👏 I am sorry you have people saying bollocks like this to you. I really hope you tell your friend to bugger off. And to everyone who thinks that eating a veggie pizza and some very nice chocolate is going to impact recovery they can bugger off too.

Your friend was judgemental and certainly didn't need to go on a soapbox about healthy eating.

Many people with fixations on eating healthily, thinking they can control the future by having a salad three times daily with their supplement cocktail, are running on anxiety and a pathological fear of death.

Best of luck with your treatment and future pizzas.

Yes, Keep telling yourself you will never get cancer (or any other illness) because you organic quinoa.

But on thing for sure - clean eating obviously does not make you a better person.