To be shocked that my good friend, 37, is seeing a 66 year old lady?

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Had a few beers with a good friend recently and got a bit tipsy and we got into his dating life. He told me that he’s been seeing a 66 year old grandmother. He is only 37 for reference. They met via online dating.

To be clear, there is nothing wrong with this but I’m just a bit shocked to be honest. He says that they enjoy each other’s company and there is no intention of it developing into anything more.

My friend has always dated younger women and not short of female attention at all.

It’s all good right?

You made me laugh so much, almost spat out my tea.

If it's time well spent and they're enjoying themselves, where's the problem? It might carry on for ten days or ten years, does it matter?

Good for them. They're probably having amazing sex, too.

Exactly. I don’t even see what the problem is here, good on her I say!

The fact of the matter is no one is an impressionable teenager in this situation. I am 50 and for me to find a man my age attractive is extremely rare (be it physically or mentally) so I have 0 intentions of dating one.

Would I date a 20 year old nope! But Mid 30s upwards then most definitely. As long as he doesn’t want children I’m good to go.

Nope- the OP referenced a 30 year age gap so its accurate- 18- 48=-30 years

But it's been pointed out that money isn't an issue for either of them.

I was a single Mum at 21 and always ended up dating 8-10 years older because single men in their 20s seemed so immature.

I'm 50s and have had comments from younger guys - but unless there was a huge friendship first then probably not. Then again older guys seem to be married and not getting it at home, so probably not either 😂

They go on hikes. What's not to love?

*Note to self, buy hiking boots...

@Beeloux Imagine when he’s 50 and she’s pushing 80. Most woman I know who have went for older men is because they’re rich. To me, it’s very unattractive for a man to be chasing a woman for money.

I don't understand why that's an issue. I'm finding more and more that the women around me make far more than I do, so I would certainly appreciate it if I was in a relationship with a rich woman and she was able to look after me with her finances. Why would I not want that?

Would I date a 20 year old nope! But Mid 30s upwards then most definitely. As long as he doesn’t want children I’m good to go.

Genuine query- how many 20 year olds have asked you out? because thats what the OP is referring to- a 30 year age gap

But there is a huge maturity and life experience difference between 18 and early 30s.
It's not really comparable other than mathematically.

She may appear so and so might he….but appearances can be very deceptive. It doesn’t matter how he appears but if she appears to be wealthy I’d be more cynical. You can try to guess but it’s really not possible to guage other people’s wealth. No way a young man would be up for it with a woman that age in my opinion unless he thinks he’s up for a cut. Sorry - very very cynical…..

But people havent defined that, they have merely said 30 years?- no problem.

I disagree. I think there is something very wrong if you have to date someone 30 years younger than you. It shows a power balance that indicates something very wrong

If I'm single at the age of 66 and a 37-year-old man is attracted to me, I certainly will have a great time with him.

He's nearly 40 so been an adult a long time. As long as he's not doing it to get her money/property then what's the issue ? Lucky her still getting a good seeing to in her 60's.
For all you know, your pal is a gigalo in his spare time. 🤣

I don't think people would be up in arms if the genders were reversed like some people are saying. 37 is a proper adult. People in their 30s of either sex can sleep with whoever they want without there being a power imbalance against the 30 something. It's not the same as when the younger party is a teen or just out of education.

Hmm well I’m 49, maybe I could date the 32 yr old physio at work that l like then!

I mean, if a 29 year old is ok for Sienna Miller at 44?

Nope, just checked the UK totalitarian state rule book. No law against it - yet.

You do you.

Personally I grew up in a culture where the husband provides. I find men who leech off woman unmasculine.

That’s just my personal opinion though.

Date him. Have him twist you like a pretzel, too. Oh. I would! 😂

I'm 65. You'd be surprised what we old ladies get up to!

I’d have to have given birth at 10 years old to be his mum 😆

I know it doesn’t matter (and I genuinely think it doesn’t as long as they are happy) but I do think it is quite unusual. The main problem is when you don’t have a bedrock of experiences in common and were brought up in very different eras. similarly, one of you might need care while the other one is still quite young.

Who's 18?
My friend was in her mid 30s, as is the chap in the OP.

@Coldwetlettuce is “bagging” a typo? 🤣

Purely jaded by the men on MN

You look lovely!

I know what you ladies are doing 😂