To be shocked that my good friend, 37, is seeing a 66 year old lady?

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Had a few beers with a good friend recently and got a bit tipsy and we got into his dating life. He told me that he’s been seeing a 66 year old grandmother. He is only 37 for reference. They met via online dating.

To be clear, there is nothing wrong with this but I’m just a bit shocked to be honest. He says that they enjoy each other’s company and there is no intention of it developing into anything more.

My friend has always dated younger women and not short of female attention at all.

It’s all good right?

I suggest you watch ‘Harold and Maud’ - such a lovely film about a relationship between a younger man and an older woman.

As a lady in her early to mid 60s, I adore this!. And I get a lot of attention from the odd Adonis.

I hope htat they continue in their friendship/partnership, whatever it is. It is clearly good for both of them.

Your 'friend' does not 'do' platonic yet you and he are apparently just platonic.
You have seen his payslips to know how much he earns? Perhaps he is a liar and a manipulator and the way he gets his money is fleecing older women.

Aslong as they aren't hurting anyone, l don't see a problem. Older people no longer sit and wait for god. They take care of themselves, how they dress , eat healthy foods etc. I am 60, my daughters friends couldn't believe it when they found out, they thought l was 42....Brilliant, loved it...No toyboy for me , been married to my lovely husband for 34yrs and still find him as attractive now, as l did when l first saw him..
Life can be too short, we never know what's around the corner. Live and let live.

You dont think a 48 year old dating an 18 year old is gross?

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We have a friend who is 63 and he is dating a woman who is 28. I find it odd but if it makes them happy!

Whether its good for not is for them alone to judge. They aint hurting anyone and probably having fun. She's older. So what?

I’m very interested in this post because I have a female friend who is 86 and is in a very physical relationship with a man of 47. She feels like it’s her birthday and Christmas all rolled into one, but I am extremely anxious for her. I guess I just can’t imagine why he would be attracted to someone much older than his mother.
he has told her that “0ther people don’t matter “ but I’m sure her daughters are concerned. Obviously they’re older than he is. I wonder what Mumsnetters would make of this!

I'm early 40s and a men in that age group have hit on me. Women in this age group do seem to be very attractive but it is quite different to a 66 year old woman, I don't know why i feel like that, I suppose all the women i know in that age look like grand mothers, it just seems different...

It really depends, the OP said her friend is well off and the woman he is seeing has no worry issues. Is there a discrepancy in money between your friend and her friend?

Personally I feel the same way. I just can’t relate to fancying someone young enough to be your child or old enough to be your parent.

Not read whole thread but I presume she’s loaded??

Sounds a bit like you fancy him tbh.

But aside from that, I would be a little surprised. Although my newly single aunty who's 58 is currently* shagging a late 20s man and it seems to work for them so I wouldn't say it was totally unheard of. No financial benefit for him btw, given the sugar mummy comments. Doesn't sound like they go out much tbh.

*well you know, not CURRENTLY, she's probably watching Japan v Brazil

Dating sites are not just for hook ups. I know several people who had long term and marriage on there

OP said he's well off and the woman is comfortable too.

Would you be equally shocked if he were a woman dating an older man?

I used to work on a ship where the bosun had the proverbial 'girl in every port'

Needless to say an average day was a lot of ports!

He was in his mid 60's and ages of the women varied from mid 20's to mid 80's

What if it’s Harry Styles?? I would!

Sounds like it suits them both, financially both very comfortable and independent, neither looking for commitment, but want a fun time and lots of sex which from your friend's reaction is what they are getting.

Why not, who's it hurting?

I think the older you get the less age gaps matter, especially if there is no other power dynamic going on. That's what makes the much older man much younger woman dynamic an ick, often the men are loaded but not blessed physically and the women are beautiful but not wealthy so it feels transactional. This seems a more equal footing just with an age gap

He's twice that age so your question is irrelevant! Why do people get so concerned about age gaps?

Two words: Emma Thompson.

Ahaha this made me laugh!

Good for them!

Oh for goodness sake get a grip....they are happy, the age gap doesn't bother them that's all that matters.

I'm 70, this has given me hope that sex may not necessarily be a thing of the past for me!

Personally I would find it weird as fuck. I’m late twenties and briefly dated a guy 3 years younger. It seemed very weird and I didn’t like it.

Imagine when he’s 50 and she’s pushing 80. Most woman I know who have went for older men is because they’re rich. To me, it’s very unattractive for a man to be chasing a woman for money.