Aibu to overthink boyfriend never posts me on socials?

[rachel55488]

Hey girls so I really need advice here because it’s something me and my boyfriend keep arguing over. On WhatsApp he keeps changing his profile picture to a selfie of him. And has never posted me on his WhatsApp. And his instagram is also a picture of just him aswell. We have been arguing a good bit lately and he did have me and him on insta then we fell out bad one time and he actually changed it. I keep telling him I feel hidden away and he just keeps saying he never posts anything anyway (which he doesn’t) he has 2 sons and never even posts photos of them. Then he said but sure you have a selfie of you but my picture on WhatsApp is of me and my daughter and same with insta. To me that’s completely different. And I said this really seems like this is just for attention so other girls will message him etc. we’ve been together 6 months. He’s also a good bit older than me so we sort of see views different. He’s 42. I’m 31. I have tried to explain it annoys me but he still doesn’t change anything. Personally if a man came to me and said they were upset and felt hidden away I would change my profile pics straight away to make them happy? But that’s personally just me

They have hubsters and count how many sleeps there are till their holibobs, and they bring their spends with them and love their children to the moon and back.

He’ll get rid of her on his own before too long. If this is the same poster I think it is she’s been posting these mad threads for over a year, probably different men.

One thread was something about him not wishing her a happy birthday on his “socials” (he had done it in person though, the bastard 🙄)

I shouldn’t say this but I wish him the best of luck

What about the fact that he left his son off last night at 6.30pm then told me he went a random drive by himself because it was sunny and didn’t appear to my house until 7.30pm does that not sound like he was away meeting a girl? I don’t think it’s normal to go a random drive by yourself?

You need help. You need to work on yourself and be single. You are far too paranoid to be in a relationship.

He probably was avoiding coming to yours because you act like a lunatic and make random accusations every week causing arguments for nothing.

Surely he doesn't exist?

Noone could put up with this.

Maybe he has a side line as James Bond's body double?
Or more likely a dodo trainer?

Oh, come on. I now know this thread isn’t real. Please get a hobby that doesn’t involve posting wind up threads on Mumsnet 🙄.

Mumsnet should ban you for your own good

This is madness!! Are you listening to anything anyone is saying @rachel55488You need therapy/an intervention. Please don’t say you have children?!

It sounds like he wanted to spend as little time with you as possible because you think every tiny thing he does is cheating.

Seriously, dump him. You're never going to trust him, whether he's trustworthy or not.

I don’t believe this is real for a minute but on the off chance that it is … he was probably taking time to question his life choices whilst delaying seeing you for as long as possible

Imagine if this was a bloke posting about his girlfriend in this way? People would be seriously concerned for the girlfriend.

Unfortunately she has a 6 year old daughter and according to another thread of hers was thinking of having baby after only 5 months of knowing this man because she “never wants to be apart from him.” That’s if any of this is real, of course.

Op was that a typo and your age isn't 31 but actually 13...

DH and I have been together for a decade and married for 7 of those years and have a child and I don’t think he’s ever posted a single picture of me on his “socials”. Likewise, I’ve never posted a picture of him. Neither of us have our relationship status set to anything. I don’t think we’ve ever really done a selfie together.

Maybe we should divorce.

LTB now!

Your profile pic is you and your daughter. So why should his be of you? And frankly, unless you’re 14, who cares?

I couldn't agree more. I really hope there is someone in the OPs life who can can get through to her because she needs serious help.

Well perhaps he is up to no good. Who knows? But your attitude is really not going to help matters.

Sometimes those of us who are ND fare better without a partner. People don’t like to face it but it’s true in some cases. You are far too intense and that’s not healthy for your or your relationship

I think you need to grow up.
Social media isn't real life.
What matters is how you feel when you are actually with him. Has he introduced you to his friends? Do you go out together? Do his friends know you exist? Etc.
I have never posted a picture of my husband. I don't see why I should

Going and meeting a girl? For what, 15 minutes when you factor in the travel time from the drop off point to the girl and the girl to yours and the fact the whole thing only took one hour?

You aren’t able to be in a relationship because you’re too emotionally immature, needy and hysterical.

Yes, he was DEFINITELY meeting another woman.

Dump him immediately. Don't look back. You'd be doing us all a favour.

Is this a piss take? I read it like a comedy sketch with the voice of one of Catherine Tate’s characters.
I mean, with the greatest of respect, if this is a serious post, find something to fill your life and make you happier.