Aibu to overthink boyfriend never posts me on socials?

[rachel55488]

Hey girls so I really need advice here because it’s something me and my boyfriend keep arguing over. On WhatsApp he keeps changing his profile picture to a selfie of him. And has never posted me on his WhatsApp. And his instagram is also a picture of just him aswell. We have been arguing a good bit lately and he did have me and him on insta then we fell out bad one time and he actually changed it. I keep telling him I feel hidden away and he just keeps saying he never posts anything anyway (which he doesn’t) he has 2 sons and never even posts photos of them. Then he said but sure you have a selfie of you but my picture on WhatsApp is of me and my daughter and same with insta. To me that’s completely different. And I said this really seems like this is just for attention so other girls will message him etc. we’ve been together 6 months. He’s also a good bit older than me so we sort of see views different. He’s 42. I’m 31. I have tried to explain it annoys me but he still doesn’t change anything. Personally if a man came to me and said they were upset and felt hidden away I would change my profile pics straight away to make them happy? But that’s personally just me

You write like a teenager...

He told me his ex’s have been nightmares and he always got blamed or accused of stuff when he done no writing.

Seriously. Grow up!

I was expecting this post to be from somebody ten years younger

Ah. Of course. The 'nightmare ex's '. . massive red flag.

He’s said it about every single one that they always accused him of something and his ex wife always accused him and they where together 20 years

DP and I have been together 15 years and have a house and child together and will hopefully grow old together. We never post each other or have profile pics of each other.

You’re being a bit rediculous and immature and social media focussed. If there are no other issues then focus on what’s really happening in the real world.

You are being weird

Six months is not long and you have fallen out big time even during that six months and argue a lot, perhaps you are seeing this as a much more important relationship than he does (yet). It is very early days to consider someone a permanent part of your life to be highlighted on social media. It doesn't sound like a very good relationship, it should still be the honeymoon stage not arguing.

He doesn’t post. He doesn’t post his kids

so why would he post you esp if only been 6mths and argue

you sound hardwork

and your pic isn’t even him /you

It doesn’t sound like a relationship that will be going the distance tbh. A big row and lots of arguing in the first six months is a big red flag. He doesn’t post on social media so why would he post photos of you? Honestly OP I’m thinking you’ve had difficulty in relationships in the past as you sound really insecure. Perhaps he is not the one for you?

Are you sure you’re 31 and not 13?

I urge everyone to do an advance search of the OP before wasting time commenting.

@rachel55488 you’ll drive him away with your immaturity if you’re not careful.

Interesting!

What do you mean an advanced search. This is really patronising. If you have nothing nice to say please go away and go do something nice today

Oh it's you again.

Don't feed it, people.

What's this about, can you elaborate?

Oh good grief. Looks like this guy needs to run a mile.

Op your demands are ridiculous and you are the red flag trying to insist on this.

I don't know if my DH has ever had me in his profile picture. We are ten years together.

The other stuff you've said about him is far more concerning but you're focusing on SM. What things did his ex accuse him of?

He never posts on there.

if he was always posting pictures on there but never included you in any of them then you would have a point.

at 31 and 42 you’re too old for this shit of if he wants other women to message him etc

my mum will post all her holiday pics of when she went away with her partner but never posts the ones he’s in so people have no idea who she went away with. In her situation she’s embarrassed that he’s abit weathered and older than her. I do think poorly of her for that though

He said his ex wife always accused him of cheating but I’ve asked him and he said he never cheated but anybody else has came to me and said he’s a nice guy and I’ve never heard anything yet about him being a cheat etc

That’s a lot of “over thinking” for one person, must be exhausting 😂

You sound unhinged.
He doesn’t post on Instagram so he doesn’t want to post a photo of you and him in his profile.
I’m also going to say it, he’s an adult with 2 children, he doesn’t want to post a photo with you as you’ve been together a couple of months but constantly fight so he knows this isn’t lasting.

Good god op looking at.your other posts you sound like an absolute bunny boiler. I'm quite surprised he hasn't run for the hills already and tbh he should!