AIBU to wear a floral dress my brother's girlfriend calls white to their wedding? Part 2.

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Old thread nearly full. Some of you are saying if people had seen the dress straight away the votes would be 99% against me, let’s see about that. At least half the other thread say it’s fine to wear this dress.

From the old thread:

My brother is getting married in three weeks and I’ve bought a fairly expensive dress for his wedding.

The dress: https://www.hobbs.com/product/carly-floral-dress/0126-5675-9022L00-CREAM-MULTI.html

BD’s gf (bride) saw a dress that is similar to my dress. She saw it at my mum’s. It has a pattern but with short sleeves and some ruffle. It is one of my dresses and I had left it at my mums house. It is not the dress I’ll wear for the wedding.

She called that dress white even though it has a pattern. She told mum that it would be inappropriate to wear for the wedding day. Mum and I think she pretended to think it was one of my mum’s options, since it was clearly not something mum would wear anywhere.

This all happened because my mum was showing her all the dress options she had in mind for herself for the wedding.

When bride raised this with mum, mum told her not to worry because she (mum) won’t wear white.

Which is true regardless of if you say the dress is white or cream or whatever.

After this happened, my brother started asking everyone what they would be wearing.

Old thread: www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5546975-aibu-to-wear-a-floral-dress-my-brothers-girlfriend-calls-white-to-their-wedding

Awww poor dear no toys. What a shame. Maybe you should have packed her some instead of expecting everyone to have everything to cater to your daughter and have everything ready evening they don’t have kids

Anyone else feel like this is going to become an Adam Peaty/Brooklyn Beckham situation where he embraces his in laws and cuts ties with his own family?

You’re right, I doubt she’s been invited. Fair play.

Wouldn’t surprise me if OPs mother is a Z lister and she’s hanging on to her coat strings and trying to be relevant when reality is she’s a nobody.

Then we’ll have another Z lister and their family in the news crying about how the son has cut them off and they refuse to can’t understand why

I've said it before and I'll say it again. 30 years ago Andue Macdowell goes to a movie wedding in 4 Weddings and a Funeral with a black skirt and a WHITE jacket and an enormous black hat. The comments are all about the magnificent hat. I didn't sit there I the movie gobsmaked by Andie Macdowell's audacity at wearing white to a wedding. This current obsession with anyone wearing anything with any white is ridiculous and inspired by narcissistic American bridezillas. It is nonsense.

Why is it different?

You arranged your life how you see fit, including ditching your husband to be. He is organising his life as he sees fit with his lovely wife to be.

If they chose to have a baby, it would be only fair to reciprocate with the child care. You count help only within the blood family, so he helps you and you help him, his wife doesn't step into this equation.

The energy it must take to be this way.

If he has any sense he will

Wow. You’re already hoping that this marriage fails and that it results in a broken family. You shouldn’t even be going to this wedding if this is how you feel

Everything!!

Are these replies making you rethink at all OP?!!

This is the most defensive op I’ve ever seen on here 😂

Oh my goodness you just get more and more awful with each post! Wtf is wrong with you?? Your ex-fiancé dodged a fucking bullet and I hope your brother and poor future SIL get the message soon. You are a raving narcissist bitter from being jilted and desperate to hold court with your mother over a wedding, any wedding you can lay claim to.

Get some self-awareness asap, you come across terribly.

Do you have any friends OP? What do they make of the situation?

The child is not my ex’s so there goes that theory. Sorry hun x

Edit to be clear: it’s different because he has a partner

Pay attention. It's not about a dress. It's about whole family dynamics and a wedding.

So he has babysat? And you didn’t take any toys for her to play with knowing they don’t have kids? Jeez you really do expect people to move heaven and earth for you don’t you? I expect your daughter will be the same.

So you’ve fallen out with more than one ex then?? The ex “fiancé” and father of your child??

I don’t know why at all, you seem delightful……..

I have never said that. I’m saying if he became a single parent then you can compare but otherwise it’s not the same situation.

What a surprise. Another stumbling block. Let me guess her real dad lives in another country, has died, is immobile, or more likely completely made up.

You have absolutely zero class. I hope your SIL bans you completely, you are unbelievably spiteful.

Lots of people agree with me and mum about the dress. The % of disagreers keeps going down. Lots of you seem to not understand my life at all though and your attitudes are a bit alien to me, I must say. So the answer to your question is No.

Right ok. So unless he’s a single parent, you don’t plan on reciprocating any of the help that they’ve given you with childcare?

And it’s not efficient for you to drive an hour EVER to their house but it’s ok for him to come to your house to babysit (apart from one time when she didn’t like it because of no toys). They’re a child free couple, why would they have toys at their house? Why did you not pack your daughters toys for her to play with?

Yes I am aware, apologies was trying to make the topic a little lighter seeing as she’s clearly not for changing her mind at all regardless of how it makes her family and soon to be family feel.