AIBU to wear a floral dress my brother's girlfriend calls white to their wedding? Part 2.

[princesspicker]

Old thread nearly full. Some of you are saying if people had seen the dress straight away the votes would be 99% against me, let’s see about that. At least half the other thread say it’s fine to wear this dress.

From the old thread:

My brother is getting married in three weeks and I’ve bought a fairly expensive dress for his wedding.

The dress: https://www.hobbs.com/product/carly-floral-dress/0126-5675-9022L00-CREAM-MULTI.html

BD’s gf (bride) saw a dress that is similar to my dress. She saw it at my mum’s. It has a pattern but with short sleeves and some ruffle. It is one of my dresses and I had left it at my mums house. It is not the dress I’ll wear for the wedding.

She called that dress white even though it has a pattern. She told mum that it would be inappropriate to wear for the wedding day. Mum and I think she pretended to think it was one of my mum’s options, since it was clearly not something mum would wear anywhere.

This all happened because my mum was showing her all the dress options she had in mind for herself for the wedding.

When bride raised this with mum, mum told her not to worry because she (mum) won’t wear white.

Which is true regardless of if you say the dress is white or cream or whatever.

After this happened, my brother started asking everyone what they would be wearing.

Old thread: www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5546975-aibu-to-wear-a-floral-dress-my-brothers-girlfriend-calls-white-to-their-wedding

Meh I'm not really all that bothered if it is true or not.

I doubt it, but again if it is real, you are being incredibly petty and you know it. You just want to hurt the bride. It is a bit amusing in the roll eyes, shake head way watching people like you twist yourself into knots trying to position yourself as in the right though.

If this is real, I'm sure your brother and his fiancée know exactly what you and your mum are like and they won't let your antics bother them on their wedding day because they'll know you're going to do something pathetic to try and ruin the bride's day. I'm sure in reality they'll barely notice either of you no matter what you do, and if they do, they'll be too busy having a wonderful day with each other and their other nice guests and they'll forget you as soon as you're out of their eyeline. If they are really, really smart, they'll distance themselves from you and your mum at some point in the future so they can be happy together away from the two of you both. You and your mum can be little toxic family drama llamas together and say mean spirited things about how the evil wife stole your brother away.

Anyone else notice how the OP frames her brother as a weak willed passenger in his overbearing fiancée's life? Not a very sisterly love way of describing a sibling. I mean of course OP doesn't really care about the brother either, if she did even a little bit she'd not want to upset him by needling the fiancée. If this is real, I'd bet the reality is that he's chomping at the bit to distance himself from his embarrassing, dramatic and mean mum and sister.

They are selfish/demanding/controlling etc etc but you have never been to their house but expect them to come to yours to babysit your daughter. 🤣🤣 fucking hell give your head a wobble woman.

With my DD if he’s helping with childcare, yes.

He lives over an hour away and I have a daughter to take care of and work and other commitments!!

I assume PP means you just drive with DD to your brother's house and visit him there, and visit your parents on a separate occasion. Do you or your brother not have each other round ever?

He is marrying into her family. I hope he keeps their rules.

That’s incredibly inefficient.

Edit to answer your question: if you mean for tea or something like that then no.

Our childhood home exclamation mark

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Has got to be a wind up thread

But not just to socialise/spend time with him?
He drives an hour to help you with childcare? He sounds like a lovely brother, it would be a shame to drive him away over a dispute with his beloved fiancée.

Exactly, I don’t know anyone who sees all relatives at the same time. We see SIL at different times to his step mum, godmother and godsisters.

Cool, so when your brother also has a child/children as well as work and other commitments your DD will be a bit older and you can more easily drive to his house to visit him. Can't be expecting him to always drive to you when he has a baby.

What is it about my life that makes you think this is a fucking wind up thread?!

How the fuck is it inefficient? My MIL lives an hour away. We see her separately to everyone else. You just don’t want to see him alone as you know that he’ll tell you some hard hitting truths you don’t want to hear

Am I the only one wondering why so many posts for a dress that is ok, nothing wrong with it as such but certainly not one I would describe as beautiful?

If he’s a single parent, sure.

Accurate!

How do you know if she has ever been invited? Maybe they don't want a kid running amok in their home - I'm not saying that's true but just pointing out that you are assuming she has been invited and declined.

Wow you're bitter and unpleasant.

I think that is the thing. It’s your mental health and narcissistic need for attention that led to this post. You are very obviously not mentally or emotionally well and the best thing would be for people to stop commenting on this page and feeding your obsessive need for attention. Youre poor fucking brother and sister in law to be. . Give them the best wedding present ever and don’t go to the wedding and don’t ever contact them again. Believe me they will be delighted.

Do they not work or have commitments too? I’m sure your daughter could manage an hour in the car to go and see them for a change.
I cannot believe how oblivious you are to how utterly selfish you sound. Either this is all a load of bull or you are an incredibly, immature, childish, selfish and spiteful woman.

I really hope it is made up if not I have every sympathy for your poor brother and sil2b.

Sometimes life isn't about efficiency, sometimes it's about making an effort and showing you care, and sharing bits of each other's lives. My parents live (in our childhood home) about 2.5 hours from me, and my brother lives near them. We spend time in both houses. I imagine my brother would be very hurt if we'd never bothered to see his house and spend time there!

She has been there when they looked after her once, but didn’t like it very much because there were no toys.

I feel like this will be the OP 'tripping' upstairs

Well based on the rest of the horrid things she has said about them I’m pretty sure we would have been told that piece of information.

Omg listen to yourself.

The only time you see your brother without your mum is if he babysits your daughter?

We drive 4+ hours to see my partners parents AND we go to his sisters house when we’re there as well as meeting in the ‘family home’ because it would be really fucking weird if we’d never visited his sister or spent time with her without his parents around.