AIBU to wear a floral dress my brother's girlfriend calls white to their wedding? Part 2.

[princesspicker]

Old thread nearly full. Some of you are saying if people had seen the dress straight away the votes would be 99% against me, let’s see about that. At least half the other thread say it’s fine to wear this dress.

From the old thread:

My brother is getting married in three weeks and I’ve bought a fairly expensive dress for his wedding.

The dress: https://www.hobbs.com/product/carly-floral-dress/0126-5675-9022L00-CREAM-MULTI.html

BD’s gf (bride) saw a dress that is similar to my dress. She saw it at my mum’s. It has a pattern but with short sleeves and some ruffle. It is one of my dresses and I had left it at my mums house. It is not the dress I’ll wear for the wedding.

She called that dress white even though it has a pattern. She told mum that it would be inappropriate to wear for the wedding day. Mum and I think she pretended to think it was one of my mum’s options, since it was clearly not something mum would wear anywhere.

This all happened because my mum was showing her all the dress options she had in mind for herself for the wedding.

When bride raised this with mum, mum told her not to worry because she (mum) won’t wear white.

Which is true regardless of if you say the dress is white or cream or whatever.

After this happened, my brother started asking everyone what they would be wearing.

Old thread: www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5546975-aibu-to-wear-a-floral-dress-my-brothers-girlfriend-calls-white-to-their-wedding

Because bridezilla didn’t want them to/prevented it from happening.

What’s your daughter wearing? I do hope you have a lovely princess flower girl dress for her so she can feel special too.

Maybe she’s embarrassed by you 😳

I’m a single mum so that’s different!

No need for this nastiness at all

I think if the BRIDE has openly said she wouldn't want someone to wear a particular dress, whatever colour that dress is... then you should probably just be kind and pick another blimming dress 🤦‍♀️

A pink and blue petticoat dress so don’t start on me with the white or cream nonsense

Are you middle class and your future SiL is working class. You shop at Hobbs and SiL shops at Next?

Is she common OP? Does she swear and drink voddy and lemonade but you and mum prefer a nice G&T with ice and a slice or a wee glass of champers?

She sounds beastly...

No need for this at all.

You said a fawn floral dress a few posts ago?

In response to a question about what mum is wearing, yes.

You can think that if you want. In reality she is just a control freak.

CBA to read the thread but have seen the dress.

Simple rules: (1) if the bride thinks it's too white then its too white.
(2) if you have to ask is it too white, then its too white.

Can I just ask why on earth anyone cares if guests wear white to their wedding? I wouldn’t have minded if all the guests had worn full-on bridal gowns to my wedding. Can somebody please explain? Is it a superstitious thing? Sorry haven’t read full thread.

Your read is so off. I prefer charity shops, but a wedding is a good excuse to spend some savings.

Some do, some don’t. BUT if the bride requests that guests don’t then it is only common courtesy to follow her wishes.

If you daughter is in pink and blue then I think the pink option in the dress you like might be lovely!

Ow come on now this is getting ridiculous. The OP is a single mum, who no doubt has spent a great deal of money she probably cannot afford to look nice at her brothers wedding, if she didn't care she wouldn't have spent so much.

She probably cant take the dress back now even if she wanted to as she may have bought it some time ago before the comment was made, but as the dress is cream and floral I just don't get the issue.

Every woman wants to look good at a wedding or special event, its not a crime or abnormal. Who wants to spend that amount of money on a dress and not feel special - you are being churlish.

Have you actually read all the awful things that she has said about her future sil? This has absolutely nothing to do with her not being able to afford another dress. It’s all about her wanting to wear the dress as a middle finger to the bride.

@PrettyPickle Oh come off it, just becuase she’s a single mum doesn’t mean she gets to do whatever the fuck she wants. And let’s face it all she needs to do is ask mummy and mummy will buy another dress.

every woman yes wants to feel special but not at the expense of the fucking bride who let’s face it OP hates and desperately wants to ruin her wedding.

if you bothered to actually read the thread and use inference skills you’ll see this is more about OP wanting to stick two fingers up to the bride and do everything she can to ruin the wedding.

When a thread is 29 pages long (69 if you count the first thread), it is generally a good idea to click 'See All' and at least read the OP's posts.

You will find this isn't specifically about a dress, but it is all about how one woman can be incredibly entitled, selfish and downright nasty about the woman her brother is marrying.

Not unreasonable. Be different if you were turning up in a bridal gown! Good luck to your brother and your family. Trust me, you'll need it!

Rtft.

Then see if you feel the same

OP is definitely turning up like this.

Exactly, thank you x.

But I can afford it it’s not really that. I have savings from other income streams and have been looking forward to buying a new dress for something like a wedding.

Mum also helps me out if I need financial help so cost isn’t actually a factor in this.

And I said earlier, I bought this WITH mum who goes to very important events all the time and knows about dress codes and she agrees that the bride is just being a control freak.